Disgusted by bizarre situation... Unsure what to do.

[lyndag]

My love, this is so hard, I feel for you.. do you have younger sisters and brothers? I would tell someone about this, they could be in danger, you never know what he might do. I jnow it is yor dad and you love him, but keeping quiet is not the answer, Remember you have done nothing wrong. Also this will be very hard for your mom to accept. She might turn on you, be strong. You need to tell someone in authority, things will probably turn ugly, but by you keeping quiet could be harmful.

[SomebodyElse]

Please get your friend to be with you if you decide to confront either your father or your mother. The one who deleted the picture for you. Or more friends; as many as you feel comfortable in telling. Don't do it alone.

[Paradox]

I don't know if it's been mentioned but if you need the photo for evidence and haven't used the camera since (since that would copy over the data) there are programs you can get to undelete it, some are even free.

[mum_of_one]

This exact thing happened to me and I also had the comments and suggestive remarks and rather too much inappropriate cuddling and it ended in me being raped by my own father. I told nobody as I was shamed into that by HIM and when it did come out 6 years later my whole family believed him and not me.

Would I change things? Yes.. I would have told my mother right after it happened the first time. Or told someone. A family member. I wish I had. Now to this day the whole family structure and dimension is destroyed. They all still speak to him and I am the black sheep. Its a lonely life.

So my advice is tell someone about this incident before it goes to another incident.. and then another....

I know some people have said it could be that he forgot to delete and if this is so maybe it will all be explained. But its best to speak out

Good luck xx

[Alicia Avocado]

This exact thing happened to me

I'm so sorry but congrats on moving forward from such a terrible thing.

[mum_of_one]

I'm so sorry but congrats on moving forward from such a terrible thing.

Ah thank you. I am a mother now and I have just had to move on. Life can be so hard sometimes. xx

[Toast]

This exact thing happened to me and I also had the comments and suggestive remarks and rather too much inappropriate cuddling and it ended in me being raped by my own father. I told nobody as I was shamed into that by HIM and when it did come out 6 years later my whole family believed him and not me.
Would I change things? Yes.. I would have told my mother right after it happened the first time. Or told someone. A family member. I wish I had. Now to this day the whole family structure and dimension is destroyed. They all still speak to him and I am the black sheep. Its a lonely life.

I'm so sorry to read that.

[mum_of_one]

Thank you, very thoughtful and kind. xx I hope Ripvanfish is ok. Worried for her. Hope she comes on soon to say how it all panned out. xx

[VeganTigress]

I just finished reading this entire thread and it really does disturb me.

Even if he "Accidently" didn't delete the photo, that is no excuse for his all around behavior. He happens to be an adult who is aware of his actions. Rip also mentioned the he viewed the camera again and should not have "missed" the photo again.

Bottom line is the action was wrong, period.

I think that RIP should speak to someone as soon as possible and tell them what happened and that is made her uncomfy.

Rip, i am terribly sorry you had to see that, i can't image how gross that would have made you feel.

Much love to you my dear!

Kindest Regards,

VeganTigress