Starting over - Need advice on living w/ a meat eater

[jenni-anti-fur]

Hey There Congrats

My Fiancee is a meat eater....but he loves to cook and eat Veggie and that makes me really happy....he has tried and liked many different Veggies and is always looking up recipes that are Veg....he knows I wont buy or cook meat...he always says to me that I dont need to do that for him he will do it himself.....give it time feel it out....communicate it all works out....I know he will never be Veggie and thats Peachy Keane With Me....

[ficbot]

I am not married myself, but I do have experience living with other people who have different dietary issues. I have some food allergies, and I never expect other people to accommodate me. I always am prepared to make my own if I can't/won't eat what is being served. Now, most people do tend to be pretty thoughtful and if it is something like Friday night dinner at my mom's, of course she will have food I can eat there. But I would *never* expect my loved ones to ban something just on my account. In fact my mom serves a bread every week at Friday night dinner that I can't eat and I just don't eat it There was one time she was having a special dinner and had to serve a special thing because of my aunt who was undergoing health issues and had certain needs. She called me ahead of time, said she was serving a main dish I could not eat and what did I want to do. She wound up making a pasta dish everyone else could eat, setting aside from plain pasta for me, and I brought my own can of lentil soup to dress it with.

Imho, part of living with other people is being respectful of their boundaries and being a good partner by looking after yourself as well as them. If he wants meat and he's the only one who plans to eat it, why can't he cook it himself? Unless he is an invalid, he has no excuse to be complaining about food someone else has graciously prepared for him. If he wants his own special meal above and beyond the family meal, he can make it himself

[Kiseki]

I think if he really wants meat, he can make it himself! Just make a veggie dinner for yourself. Keep separate pots and pans as well.

I'm not married or anything, but I live w/an omni roommate. It's gross sometimes though, because she's not good at doing dishes and I'd rather wash hers than get into an argument

[the_advocate]

All very good advice! Dinner in our household was always more or less communal. One night I cook, the other, hubby. Once I went veg, I still offered my help with the veggies and potatoes and what not, but put my foot down to cutting up pieces of dead animal. Only on special occasion, do I trim the dead animals. But anywho, set your stance. If you are already cooking two meals, that is more than enough tedious work. Try making a similar compromise, and tell him if he wants to eat dead animals that he needs to do the trimming and cooking! Once faced with that, I'm sure hubby will have no other choice but to oblige!

[mrsschu2u]

My husband and two kids are omnis with no interest in changing at this point. Since I'm the one who made the change, I cook in ways that we can all eat and be happy. Sometimes, that means we all eat veggie or that I take out my portion before adding any meat product. For the most part, my hubby saves the meat meals for nights that I am not home on time. It's really made us all more creative eaters.