I think I might be in a relationship help.

[KHADIJAH]

Ok Someone introduced me to a man, He is divorced, the same as I and have children, we have been talking for awhile now, He says he is very intrested in me and likes me a lot. He is 40years old but dosent look it, HE looks 30 something, very nice built for his age,. so im scared, its been along time since Ive been in a relationship with anyone since my divorce. I need some tips. I do have other good new. I told him I was vegetarian, cause he asked me what I like to eat. He said he is ok with me being vegetarian and does not care.
so just thought id share.

[paisleyjane]

Is your question about age difference or about dating after divorce? Or both?

I can't really help with the dating after divorce part, but the age difference part I can...

In my opinion, as an adult, all other adults are your peers. Age is only an issue if you make it one. The reason most people see age as an issue is because different age-groups tend to share different mindsets, interests, values, etc... and if you can share those things with your partner regardless of age, then that is the important part (and all that really matters)!

There are many, many happy age-different couples in the world.

Good Luck!

[froggythefrog]

You're only in a relationship if you want to be in one. Sounds like you do! Congratulations!

[rabid_child]

I would recommend taking it very slowly. If I remember correctly, you've recently divorced, don't have custody of your children, and then had some sort of online relationship with another man in another country. It sounds like you're in a very vulnerable position, probably a bit sad and lonely, and the attention of a nice man feels good. I would be very cautious and move very slowly.

[hoodedclawjen]

^^^ :yes: slowly slowly. take your time, get to know this guy- there is no need to rush. :)

[Pixelle]

Is there much of an age difference? How old are you?



I told him I was vegetarian, cause he asked me what I like to eat. He said he is ok with me being vegetarian and does not care.
so just thought id share.

Maybe he really doesn't care, and this is going to sound really cynical, but I've observed some guys with kids say a lot of things in the early stages of a relationship that might not be that true because they are desperate to secure themselves a replacement mummy for their kids so they can go back to taking a less nurturing role.

I'm not saying that all guys who are divorcees are like that by any means, but I'd be closely watching for signs of that if it was me. Relationships where children are involved can get pretty complicated, so I'd be adopting a general attitude of going in with my eyes open.

[KHADIJAH]

Im 28years old and he is 40 years old. Im really just nervous, cause I havent been in a relationship with anyone since my divorce. We seem to have alot in common but I am not jumping the gun on anything and getting my hopes up.. But thanks for all the advice, Taking it slow one day at a time is good and that is excally what I am doing.

Thanks again.

[SunVamp]

I wouldn't get into a relationship with him...

But, then again, I have issues with the age thing, and won't date someone more than 5 years older than me, or more than one year younger. I'm a nazi, I guess.

Good luck for what you decide to do, though. ^^

[dont_eat_bambi]

Im 28years old and he is 40 years old. Im really just nervous, cause I havent been in a relationship with anyone since my divorce. We seem to have alot in common but I am not jumping the gun on anything and getting my hopes up.. But thanks for all the advice, Taking it slow one day at a time is good and that is excally what I am doing.

Thanks again.

my mom was 28 and dad was 39 when they met . They have been happily married for 12 years or so now. My husbands mom was 19 when she met his dad who also (creepy , I know) happened to be about 40. They had 4 kids together and were also happily married until he died in 2000 (i think)

So age is nothing but a number in my opinion.

[iceblueken]

Getting into a relationship after a breakup / divorce is a part of the healing process and moving on. As long as this makes you happy I say go for it!