Vegan dating non-veg

[anthro4veg]

In the past I didn't date nonveg because of the issues it might bring up, especially with me being a pretty adamant vegan. But now I'm in a relationship and she is nonveg. So far it hasn't been an issue in the 5 months we have been dating. But just this Thanksgiving she sent me a text stating "Happy Turkey Day". Which I got mad at. When I explained why I got mad (because turkeys are not happy being slaughter and because she knows I do not celebrate Thanksgiving), she didn't get it and thought I was just opening the conversation to a "lively debate".

My feeling is that insulting my beliefs is not a lively debate but you not understanding nor empathizing with me.

Any of you would have reacted the same way to "Happy Turkey Day" or am I making too much out of this?

Thanks all

[*AHIMSA*]

First off, as a vegan, I'd not date an omni. Goes against my core ethical values.

Secondly, I think she's just being who she is. You're okay with her, knowing that she eats animals or else why would you be with her? So, her sending the text is normal behavior for her. She's not ashamed or embarrassed by her animal eating habit and has no reason to feel like she should hide that part of herself from you (if she did, you wouldn't be with her, right?) because you knowingly got into a relationship with her, as is.

How can you expect an omni to empathize with you when by being with her, you are, in a sense, accepting and condoning her choices?

[InstantKarma]

How can you expect an omni to empathize with you when by being with her, you are, in a sense, accepting and condoning her choices?

That's pretty much how I'd put it. She probably thinks she's being tolerant of your lifestyle, not the other way around.

[PlaybackGuru]

Agreed with both previous posters....

[Joe]

In the past I didn't date nonveg because of the issues it might bring up, especially with me being a pretty adamant vegan. But now I'm in a relationship and she is nonveg. So far it hasn't been an issue in the 5 months we have been dating. But just this Thanksgiving she sent me a text stating "Happy Turkey Day". Which I got mad at. When I explained why I got mad (because turkeys are not happy being slaughter and because she knows I do not celebrate Thanksgiving), she didn't get it and thought I was just opening the conversation to a "lively debate".

My feeling is that insulting my beliefs is not a lively debate but you not understanding nor empathizing with me.

Any of you would have reacted the same way to "Happy Turkey Day" or am I making too much out of this?

Thanks all

I think you should have calmly stated your views. If your date can make you "mad" just by stating hers, then your relationship seems to have not much of a future IMO.

[anthro4veg]

She probably thinks she's being tolerant of your lifestyle, not the other way around.

I never thought of it that way, that she thinks she is being tolerant of my lifestyle while I think I'm being tolerant of her lifestyle. Guess we need to have a conversation around what vegan actually means and how that affects our relationship.

Thanks for all your input.

[LetoTheTyrant]

Death is the only viable option. For her, not you

[Jason607]

I don't like the teasing. Last girlfreind would make comments like "are you just going to order something off the starter section" but it was the way she said it. I made a comment along the lines of "you know how much fat that burger has in it, that''ll put some meat on your bones, or just your ass".

I don't make comments about her eating meat, why does she have to make comments about me NOT eating meat? Why do people make comments about what I don't do?

[das_nut]

I agree with Joe.

[Sevenseas]

"Turkey day". What the **** is that?

Is Christmas the "ham day"? Easter the "egg day"?

[shineonyou]

Am I the only person on these boards who in a relationship with an omnivore and who has never had diet cause a problem in the relationship?

Well, my boyfriend has never said "Happy Turkey Day" to me. I think that would be a bit uncharacteristic of him. I'd probably just say "But the turkeys aren't happy DAAAAVE!" and he would say "oh, yeah I mean happy TOFUrkey day." and I would be happy again.

[organicveggies]

Could just be one of those "send to all in address book" texts....I got a Happy Thanksgiving one from a friend I haven't talked to in months. The "Turkey Day" phrasing is rather unfortunate though, and if she's disrespecting you then that is intolerable.