Break up -yes a another one

[blueserendipity]

Just under a month this time and this time i lost my best friend.

Ahh well there are lessons to be learnt from this i suppose.

[pghmountainbkr]

well I hope you are a non-sick single person...

[Max Power]

Originally posted by blueserendipity
Ahh well there are lessons to be learnt from this i suppose.
Oh man... break ups suck... I'm sorry you have to go through one... another one at that... if you need a fake doctor to help you through it, let me know...

[chiaraluna]

I'm really sorry that had to happen to you... :( I can empathize, believe me. It sucks, I know.

[blueserendipity]

Originally posted by pghmountainbkr
well I hope you are a non-sick single person...

I am its funny i broke up with him and not longer after starting to feel better.

The cinnamon was excellent thank again.

[blueserendipity]

on a more positive note anyone know any good looking veg*ns in hong kong?

[Baby]

Damn girl! That was fast, what happened?
I'm glad you're feeling better so soon. Imagine if you had said yes to his proposal, you'd probably be one frustrated woman right about now.

[Thalia]

I am sorry to hear that. I remember the proposal thread. But what do you mean about 1-month? 1 month after you left? And how long had you been dating?

I wish you the best.

[AuroraLily]

Hugs. :hug:

[Max Power]

HONG KONG?!?!? Woah...

[pghmountainbkr]

hey blueserendipity, I clean up nicely...
wanna buy me a plane ticket? ;)

[blueserendipity]

we had only been together for a month but have been best friends for a long time

what is with me and guys?

I'm now starting to think though maybe i won't him back ahhhhhhhhh


pghmountainbkr: tempting ;-)

[monkeyandbunny]

I don't have any good advice just... :hug:

[Baby]

Interesting that you wrote "won't him back".

[blueserendipity]

baby yes maybe a freudian slip in typing: it was uspposed to be want him back

[dawngirl]

Awww blue. Seems like a crazy rollercoaster ride you've been on emotionally this summer.

Breakups do pretty much suck, but they happen for a reason. I am sorry though that this one was a good friend to you too.

[zoebird]

i think you may be trying too hard for things blue. Just let go of wanting a boyfriend, and have fun being yourself, by yourself--and i think things will look up.

besides, that relationship was destined to go the way of the do-do bird. they guy asked you to marry him to manipulate you to not go to Hong Kong. When he didn't get what he wanted, trouble ensued, and you had to break up with him.

saw that one coming. start looking for people who want you to be you, not people who want you to be something for them! BTW, return the favor to others. :)

you'll have fun in Hong Kong--but don't even think or worry about getting a BF there.

[muppetcow]

That sucks. I dated my at-the-time best friend/coworker/roommate while in college and the breakup was awful. It wasn't so much b/c I was single again b/c I knew we were incompatible as bf/gf, but it totally sucked losing my best friend.

It was very hard at the time, but looking back, I'm glad he was cut out of my life completely in one fell swoop. We were on completely different paths and even remaining good friends with him would have changed the course of my life for the worse.

Hang in there. Things do get better.

[blueserendipity]

Thanks guys

Zoebird i wasn't actively looking for a b.f he come looking for me

dawngirl its has been a rollercoaster ride

I'm starting to feel a better now just a little lonely with two boyfriends and my best friend gone.

[blueserendipity]

ahh he just called me up wants to give us another try

why does that all happen just when i'm started to cope without them in my life they decide they want back in

[Baby]

Uh, because people can never decide what they want, or how to let things go. I know of very few relationships that suddenly ended for good after someone first expresses it's not working for them. It takes time to let go, and sometimes the longer it takes to let go, the more painful it becomes.
How's he going to give it another try while you guys are so far away from each other? Perhaps you could wait until you get back from Hong Kong before you decide to work on this?
I really feel for you Blueserendipity, it's not an easy place to be in.

[zoebird]

blue:

i would think the best thing would be to go to HK, have a good time, and maybe suggest that you work on your friendship with this person. it is likely salvageable.

also, why did you break up and why does he want to come back? (you dont' have to answer those here)

the answer to these questions may help you decide what to do. If you understand why, you can see what the real motives are, the assumptions, etc. :)

[blueserendipity]

Originally posted by zoebird
blue:

i would think the best thing would be to go to HK, have a good time, and maybe suggest that you work on your friendship with this person. it is likely salvageable.

also, why did you break up and why does he want to come back? (you dont' have to answer those here)

the answer to these questions may help you decide what to do. If you understand why, you can see what the real motives are, the assumptions, etc. :)

i don't have to worry about answering that he emailed me today and said this:

"I’m not sure I’m getting back together with you for the right reasons.

I’m getting back together with you because I feel guilty. Not because I really want to. We can still meet up maybe on Saturday. I need some space in between now and then. I’m sorry to get your hopes up like this but I just don’t know anymore. "

ARghhhhhhh :mad:

We broke up because we were having little arguments, i think my expectations for a relationship were higher than what i was getting. So i said in the heat of the moment that i wanted to break up with him (stupid emotions flying everywhere) he followed it through and made sure we did break up.

Hes seriously playing with my heart and my head.

[pghmountainbkr]

kick him to the curb

[blueserendipity]

Originally posted by pghmountainbkr
kick him to the curb

thats reminds me of a song

ahh

anyway i'm about to send him a email saying that i think we should just be friends

what should i say

i don't want to be nasty and i don't wnat him to know thats he hurting me either