Unsafe girlfriend

[Techuser]

More love problems on first page :worried:

First time I´m posting something like this =P
Well the problem is, I knew a girl last year that shortly became my best friend (its she who turned me vegetarian), after a while I simply started liking her more than a friend, now last month I told her and she also felt the same about me. Then we were having a month relationship and yesterday she said me that she is not sure if is this that she wants, because of having to much responsability in such relationship.. she said that she nees a time to think..
I can trust that she loves me the same, but her unsafety may lead to a break up :sick: have no idea what to do

[Scythe]

English isn't your first language, is it?

I really don't understand the use of "unsafety" in this thread.

[Techuser]

Yes now I see that this word dont exist
i just mean that she dont feels safe about what she wants

[Scythe]

I believe the word you are trying for is "unsure".

[trying_to_be]

hmmm. so indecision on whether she wants a reltionship. perhaps convince her that you will not do something stupid

[nataliex1122]

I think that if she is unsure about the relationship this soon it may lead to problems in the future. Maybe both of you are better off as friends? If she does decide she just wants to be friends don't fight her, it's not worth loosing your friendship over.

[megamoose]

If I were you, I'd just let things play out and see how it goes. There isn't really much that you can do at this point, just let her know that you want to continue your relationship and let her decide what she wants. It seems like it's more of an internal problem that she's having and doesn;t have much to do with you. A relationship might just not be good for her at this point in her life. So although it sucks, I'd suggest you just give her a little time to think things over. It could always just be a rut in your relationship that you get through easily. :]

[Techuser]

Oh yeah 'unsure' was the word
I'm not forcing her, dont wanna lose the friendship too, so for now we have split... I told her that in the end I would feel a bit false acting just as friend since inside I feel more.. anyway, she knows that I wanted to continue, now only thing I can do is wait :/

[Nickster25]

Sometimes, it is for the best.

[LostLenore]

Maybe she is afraid that something might ruin the friendship? And perhaps she feels like things are moving too fast for her? Just a few thoughts on the subject. Give her some time, but don't wait around forever.