Going through a rough time

[HalfInsane]

Well, I've had a very rough past few years. First my grandma (who I am very close to) was diagnosed with cancer... about a year later she was too sick to care for herself and so my parents had her come to live with us so we could care for her. I'm glad we did do that, but watching her condition worsen and worsen with each day was very difficult. So was seeing her in the hospital for the last few hours she was still alive... she passed away an hour after we left the last night. More recently my Aunt (who was only 37) passed away (just last week in fact). Now, she'd been told she'd have 2-5 years to live, but then a bit ago it dropped to two weeks and now she's gone.

Now the thing that's really got me now is my mom. She recently had a growth biopsied and we've yet to get the results back. Now chances are it isn't cancer, it's VERY unlikely in fact. But with what happened to my grandma and my aunt, where everyone saying "oh, it'll work out ok" my hope is pretty shaken... and the past few days I've been sick with worry. If my mom had cancer, especially if it ended like my Grandma's and Aunt's, I do not know what I'd do... I don't think I could handle it... sorry for the ramble, I just really need to talk about this right now...

[rabid_child]

I can understand why this situation would have you stressed out. You've had a few upsetting losses and it's certainly scary to think your mother might be sick as well. Try to take it one day at a time and don't panic too much until you have to.

[juno]

:hug:

[karenlovessnow]

My mom was sick pretty much the whole time while I was growing up. And while she lasted until I was in my thirties it's very stressful to watch someone we love/depend on go through any type of illnes, whether it be long-term or short-term. I am very sorry for the loss of your grandma and aunt. Hugs for you and I hope your mom gets good results.

[asp3]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. If you belong to a church you might consider talking to someone there. If not, you can see if your school has someone you can talk to.

Although it's hard to do sometimes we have to remind ourselves that worrying isn't going to accomplish anything. It's reasonable to be concerned about your mother's potential condition, but see if you can stop it at concern. Until the test results come back you won't know the real situation.

I'm sorry to hear about your recent losses and hope that everything turns out well for your mother. No matter what happens however, I'm sure that you will be able to make it through. I wish the best to you and everyone in your family.

[Just_Kris]

My prayers for you and your family in these difficult times. Remember to cherish each and every day.

[zoebird]

my heart goes out to you.

have you considered finding some grief councelling? it can help a great deal.

[Cassiel]

What Zoe said. I've been through a rough time myself over the last year and lost someone very close to me, and without my counsellor I think I'd have been seriously lost. In fact, in many ways he's making the worst of this bearable.

My thoughts, prayers and heart are with you: losing a loved one is the hardest thing that ever happened to me.

[Wolfie]

:hug: I hope your mom's biopsy comes back okay.

[HalfInsane]

Thanks everyone, and actually I did go to counselling for my grandma once, but I was told that I was dealing with it normally and didn't need to go back unless I really wanted to.

And on the note of my mom... the results came back negative! I'm so relieved right now :sweat:

[lisaanne]

Thanks everyone, and actually I did go to counselling for my grandma once, but I was told that I was dealing with it normally and didn't need to go back unless I really wanted to.

And on the note of my mom... the results came back negative! I'm so relieved right now :sweat:

I am so happy your Mom is OK!

[Diana]

Thank god your Mum is okay!

It would indeed, have been terribly hard for you to cope with another tragedy.

Give your Mum a big big hug and tell her often that you love her. Mums like to be known they are loved. :)

[asp3]

I'm glad to hear the tests were negative.

[Cassiel]

So glad to hear your mom's biopsy was negative. All I can say is, do your best to appreciate every day you have with her. The time never quite seems long enough...

[karenlovessnow]

So glad you got happy news! :)

[bethanie]

I certainly understand your sadness, but also have to agree with asp3 somewhat. Worrying doesn't actually help you...or any of your family members. It would be good if you'd just be present with your Mom. Do things together...talk...have a good relationship with her. Because...with any of us, however old we are...we all have a common prognosis. Every one of us is going to die at some point. We can worry about when that will be and be consumed in fear...or we can learn to live well and be well...give and receive love and be good to one another for whatever time we have.

B

[bethanie]

Yea!...about your Mom I mean!