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or maybe i can just keep my men spaced out so i have them spread across the world.

HAHAHAHHA!!!!

(that was funny).

Date your therapist.



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:lol:

(Just joking)

i don't really have any great advice, but i don't think there's anything so wrong with not knowing what you want sometimes--sometimes you just go with things and see what happens...that is, as long as you're happy and you're being honest with the men, etc...on the other hand, if you're not happy, one place to start might be with "what you don't want"--for whatever reason, i think its sometimes easier to pinpoint these things and once you do that you might get closer to knowing what you do want...i don't know how helpful i'm being...good luck, anyway...

Ermm....can you teach me how to meet so many cool guys? Lol jk.
I don't have much advice as I am terrible with the whole stupid dating thing (as in, I don't, lol) but whenever I'm confused about someone, or anything, and need clarity, I write a lot in my journal. Writing out my thoughts really helps me see things that I may not have realized otherwise, especially when reading previous entries! Maybe it will help you too. Good luck.

perhaps you don't know what you want, and won't for a while. perfectly healthy and normal! but i certainly know what all those guys want, so my advice is to be careful :worried: when a guy sees what he wants, he'll become anyone and say anything to get it.

remember, you don't need someone else to be happy! relationships based on need aren't the healthiest.

it started with a guy in the special forces who is now in iraq. then a couple NHL players who travel all the time, then a country singer who is on tour all the time, and now a cowboy/national park ranger who is in relocate locations. oh, and lest i forget the guy i met on the airplane who is probably my damn soulmate if there ever was a thing. and he has a girlfriend. and lives across the country.Geez. I don't have any advice, but I'm a bit jealous. That's quite a lineup. ;)

I was thinking the same thing. Great selection. Sorry that I don't have any advice. I say live for the moment and follow your heart. These years will never return once they are gone. But also don't do anything that is going to conflict internally. Make sure you have no regrets and can live with your decisions, whichever way they may take you.

I'm impressed by the lineup, too. One avantage of distance is you have time to sort through it all - so take all the time you need.

and the connection i made with screenwriter/env. activist california guy from the plane is unlike anything i've ever felt. this is a mutual thing. and i wouldnt be surprised if he broke up with his gf. he's setting up a company in my town so i know i will see him again - we talk often.

You'd be wise to make sure that he really has broken up with his GF before you see him again. Because if you're looking for commitment he's probably not the dude. :-/

Naw, give them all a pogo stick and see who can stay jumping for the longest. :up:

well. i had another talk with the california environmental guy today. he is very honest when i ask him millions of questions. i am looking forward to seeing him again. i know he'll still be with his gf at that point (a couple weeks down the line). i told him i dating other people and blah blah and i know he's already a bit jealous (not the right word) about it. we need a face to face chat again, obviously. and he knows i woud have a hard time trusting him if we were ever together.

and i dont even know if i am looking for committment. if in a relationship i'm a very loyal person and if one of them offers real life commitment, i would probably go for it.


These are just random thoughts/questions that came to mind:

Other than the one man who is already currently involved with another woman, do any of these men know about the others? If so, what do they think about being one amongst a 'lineup'? If not, why? What are you afraid may happen if they all knew about one another?

What do you hope to accomplish with a man who is already engaged in activities that keep him from being fully present in your relationship? (IE: The other woman, the war, the fans, the forest).

Perhaps you should ask your therapist if you are setting yourself up for failure (no chance of committment with these guys, they are all unavailable in some way) due to a fear of committment. That would be an interesting thing to explore.

These are just random thoughts/questions that came to mind:

Other than the one man who is already currently involved with another woman, do any of these men know about the others? If so, what do they think about being one amongst a 'lineup'? If not, why? What are you afraid may happen if they all knew about one another?

What do you hope to accomplish with a man who is already engaged in activities that keep him from being fully present in your relationship? (IE: The other woman, the war, the fans, the forest).

Perhaps you should ask your therapist if you are setting yourself up for failure (no chance of committment with these guys, they are all unavailable in some way) due to a fear of committment. That would be an interesting thing to explore.
I was thinking this, myself. You said your not looking for commitment but if any of them asked you would say yes?

What would you do with the others if yiu get in a relationship with one??

Dont settle for just a guy in a lineup, wait around for a guy you can accually have something with.

I totally know what it's like to not know what you want.
I feel like that every day.
No advice though. Just know that I'm feeling it too!

Damn men confusing my brain!