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I'm sorry you're going through that :hug:

It sounds like she wants to keep you at arm's length in case the other person she is pursuing doesn't work out. Which is pretty ****ty because it's essentially using you. I know it hurts, and it's easier said than done, but you need to cut your losses and move on.

It sounds like she wants to keep you at arm's length in case the other person she is pursuing doesn't work out. Which is pretty ****ty because it's essentially using you. I know it hurts, and it's easier said than done, but you need to cut your losses and move on.

I agree 100%

yea man - this is when you gather your dignity and self-respect, and say, "I DESERVE BETTER." cause you know you do. this new guy's got nothing on you, and if she prefers him to you, that's HER loss. she's the one missing out.

so go show someone else what she's missing. trust me, the sea is full of fish- toss your bait into the sea and you'll find out. (ok that was a little dirtier than i meant) i mean, even this site is full of veg girls, for cryin out loud (if you're looking for a veg), and they're all looking for a guy like you.

she's doesn't deserve you. forget her!

yea man - this is when you gather your dignity and self-respect, and say, "I DESERVE BETTER." cause you know you do. this new guy's got nothing on you, and if she prefers him to you, that's HER loss. she's the one missing out.

so go show someone else what she's missing. trust me, the sea is full of fish- toss your bait into the sea and you'll find out. (ok that was a little dirtier than i meant) i mean, even this site is full of veg girls, for cryin out loud (if you're looking for a veg), and they're all looking for a guy like you.

she's doesn't deserve you. forget her!


What she said!

Agreed. "I don't love you, but stick around anyway"? Hell no. Cry, scream, yell, eat ice cream...let it all out. But in the end, be glad to move on with life. :)

:hug:

Yeah, what they all said. The pain just sucks. But it will make ya stronger. :hug:

What she said!

do i really sound like a 'she'? maybe i am too in touch with the feminine side. how is someone supposed to masculinize a post?

I think you have to pee on the screen.

:rolleyes:

If something is causing you pain, don't fight the pain. Get rid of the thing, and embrace your pain. Listen to it. It is the child within that needs your attention and love.

:D

The Rev

Yeah, she is using you and it isn't right. Unfortunately, the pain can't just go away immediately even though you want it to. Leave her and embrace your life, hang out with your friends and keep yourself busy and the RIGHT girl will come along, trust me.

Hey, I am going through that kind of pain right now. (well, not exactly the same*). It is horrible though. You feel like you are in limbo, and in the dark, and neither single nor with someone. It is so hard to think about moving on when you had felt so sure you belonged with that person since the beginning. He broke up with me on April 10 (the 11th would have been 21 months) and I still cannot believe it is over.
*He said something different to me. when I went home for spring break in march, he said he wasn't happy and i didn't make him happy anymore. then some time later he said he wanted time alone to think.

It helps to be with friends and talk to them. whether about her or not. IT is when you hang around alone all the thoughts come, from why, to what did I do, and such. The hardest thing for me was (still is) going to bed. I have found that is when the mind wanders and those thoughts come. I have cried myself to sleep so many times because of it, and some nights had even stayed up really late to avoid that. A friend i was talking to after it happened told me to always be with/around people, not be alone. talk to people you are close to. but only to the extent that you are comfortable talking about it yet. I found that even if i felt i didn't want to talk about it, it turned out that i was only afriad of it hurting more to talk about it, and once i began talking to someone, the more easily i was able and it did feel better than keeping it inside, but it is still so unhappy.
Hope that helped a little and wasn't depressing.
Feel free to PM me if you'd like to commiserate or anything.