I just had to post this. Im still in shock and hurt and upset. Hubby came in from work today, and asked me how would i feel if we divorced. I asked him what brought this own. He said he has been thinking and, he feels that we are just two different people, and he's dosent want to be married to a vegetarian. He went on to say that he thought it was a phase I was going through and never thought id stick to it for almost a year now. A phase I cant believe he would say that, I told him when i became vegetarian last year that it was for good. He said he would support me in my beliefs. The today he comes home and brings me some chicken and rice to eat. I looked at it and said i wasent going to eat it. He told me to pick the chicken o ut of it any just eat the rice. I said then whats the point.Its made from chicken that if i ate the rice i might as well eat the chicken because it was in the same container. I cant believe him He even told me I should find a vegetarian like myself and marry him. Then I told him he was a grown man that he could eat what he wanted but im not eating meat and my kids arent eating meat either. Then he stormed out the house upset. I still cant believe he would say this because he claimed he supported me. But I gues it was all a lie.

There is only ONE reason why he is doing this and it has NOTHING to do with you and being a vegetarian. That is just an excuse to blame YOU for him wanting a divorce.
To not support you in this...........he has no clue what marraige is about.

*agrees with barrylove

It's probably easier to blame your diet instead of looking deeper into whatever real issues he may have.

He is looking for an excuse, and this is just a symptom of his problem.

:hug: Yeah, agree it is something deeper than that.

It has to be deeper then you not eating a type of food!

Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that you husband slapped you with that! :hug:

I agree with everyone else here that said that he is probably masking a deeper issue. Either get him to agree to go to marriage counseling so you can figure out what's really wrong, or if he does not agree, get yourself out of the relationship. I hope everything works out for the best! :hug:

I haven't anything to say except :hug:

Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that you husband slapped you with that! :hug:

I agree with everyone else here that said that he is probably masking a deeper issue. Either get him to agree to go to marriage counseling so you can figure out what's really wrong, or if he does not agree, get yourself out of the relationship. I hope everything works out for the best! :hug:

^^what she said.

:hug:

i've been married for 11 yrs and my husband and i went vegan at the same time. i'm real grateful for that because i don't think i could kiss someone with meat in their teeth or respect them after they've been educated on animal rights. but i don't believe in divorce until all options have been tried. it totally sounds like something deeper is going on with him, why not see a marriage counselor if that's an option? or see your priest if you go to church or talk to someone in the family to help guide you guys and try to get down to the root of the problem. i'm sorry you are having troubles and hope you work it out....stick to your guns though because you have a right to be a veg

i always thought that it woudl be an issue. being in a relationship with an omni.

i do think that you being veg has something to do with it definetly. it's not just a diet. it's your beliefs. waht you think is moral and what's not. it's not just food. it's the way you view the world.... you could say

but it's not the only reason he said that.

divorce the guy... but, that might be hard. especially if youa lready have kids.

i know... um, maybe work it out?

I dontknow. i dontknow your situationt hat well.

that just sucks - your situation.

sry it happened.....

I agree with everyone else. A marriage doesn't end over who eats what. That's an excuse. I strongly URGE you to try and get to the truth behind this sudden discovery of his through a good counselor. Who knows, maybe it's just "phase". I think it's great that you stood your ground and didn't eat the chicken and rice. I don't believe anyone should be bullied or humiliated into compromising their beliefs. If your husband truly loves you, he will get over this disagreement, respect your commitment and realize he doesn't care what you eat as long as you are happy and healthy.

Wow...I understand how much that would hurt. I hope that this turns out to be an opportunity for you to fix whatever is wrong.
:hug:

i don't think i could kiss someone with meat in their teeth

I couldn't kiss someone if they had any kind of food stuck in their teeth. Flossing is your friend.

*shudders*

Oh I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you are okay?

:no:

You know, that's one of the most pathetic things I've seen one human being do to another in a while. To me, it seems like a control thing on some level. He's trying to see if you'll change . . . for him.
Of course, I don't know the situation at all, but that's just a first impression.
I agree with what the others said about getting counseling. I wouldn't reccomend the "cut and run" strategy because you'd be left with so many questions about "what if."
Good luck, I hope things work out for you.

I couldn't kiss someone if they had any kind of food stuck in their teeth. Flossing is your friend.

*shudders*


sorry you missed the joke, don't be so serious......my friend broke up with an omni and she told me whenever she missed him she just imagined him with a big piece of meat stuck in his teeth and it made her laugh, it made me laugh too.....but since you're concerned with our flossing etiquette, I floss and I'm sure she does too......lighten up.....it's ok to laugh

sorry you missed the joke, don't be so serious......my friend broke up with an omni and she told me whenever she missed him she just imagined him with a big piece of meat stuck in his teeth and it made her laugh, it made me laugh too.....but since you're concerned with our flossing etiquette, I floss and I'm sure she does too......lighten up.....it's ok to laugh

p.s. - I think this person was joking also :)

my husband is an omni and our dietary differences do not bring any friction to our relationship.

to me, this is probably an excuse, as others have said. to me, the dietary practices (and related beliefs) aren't an issue. if two people can be two different religions and be/stay married, two different races and/or cultures and be/stay married, then why can't two different diets?

i would calmly ask him what the real issues are, and emphasize that you have no need or interest in him being vegetarian.

p.s. - I think this person was joking also :)

Yep. Hehe.

It's okay to laugh. :p

There's more to being vegetarian than what you eat. This leads me to think that, if this is his true reason for mentioning a divorce, it means he's annoyed at you for caring and respecting the life of animals. That doesn't make any sense at all. It'd make much more sense if you were the one with the problem! I think you definitely need to talk to him about this. Surely he can't have a problem with you being a compassionate person. :hug:

Surely he can't have a problem with you being a compassionate person.
Maybe it makes him feel selfish or cruel. I know a lot of omnis who got defensive when I said I was veggie about their meat-eatting.

That is an excuse on his part. Make him tell you the real reason. Pin him to the mat, Sis.

unfortunately a lot of guys have this concept that people never, or shouldent change-- you are not the "same" girl he married. The truth is that people constantly change and shift their understanding and vantage point-- you grow and age and so does your outlook and mind, often your tastes, and your whole concept of the world. Unless you can understand this, life is miserable. Can you get to councelling ( presuming you love him and want to try to mend the problem)? I think trying to force you to eat the chicken was totally in poor taste, and denoted a lack of maturity and a possible sadistic streak. good luck.

That is an excuse on his part. Make him tell you the real reason. Pin him to the mat, Sis.

i agree . . . either it's a cop out or he's just that . . . whatever. :wall:

i'm vegan and my fiance is an omni and he loves that i'm vegan because i stick to my beliefs

good luck!