The moment "I am a veggitarian" slipped out of my mouth my dad had to throw in his point of veiw. He is my biggest critic. Im not sure what to tell him, so I have been hiding it from him for a few months. I tryed a while back and he freaked out. So I put it off. I descided Im going for what I want, I dont need him to aprove.

I just went away with my parents to my grandparents house and I felt I couldnt avoid meat, since he would pick up on it for sure. (we were all eating together) It felt horrible because all the effort to be veggitarian was lost. I was back at block one. I also felt horrible because I was hiding it and forcing myself to do something I really dont want to.

I want to be a veggitarian AND help my father understand it and calm down about it. Im just not sure how to go about it. I have a horrible relationship with him and I cant just sit down and talk to him. Its ockward and all that.

I was wondering if there was a way to tell him, so he will understand and not freak out. Im really unsure as to why I am a veggitarian aswell. I just descided I wanted it and It was right for me. no specific reason, and he wont get that. Im lost..and this is probly confuseing. ANY help would be awesome.

thanks.

It shouldn’t be a huge deal to be kept secret I think you should eat whatever you want and if he really loves you he will understand you for who you want to be it shouldn’t be as if you robbed a bank or something.

It all depends on how old you are. From your post I assume you are 16 or under. Seriously. He has a legal obligation to provide for you. He may be worried that you might not get enough protien and nutrients. He can be arrested if you faint of hunger in school or whatever. No parent who really cares about his/her child automatically gives that child total control over his/her life. The advice I would give is to make a deal with him-- say, ask him if you can go vegitarian (not vegan) for the summer (coming up). Get a part time job, babysit and buy your own special food. If it works out, he might allow you to go forward with your plan. Compromise and shrewd deal-making are very desireable traits in the work world. It is a true skill to manipulate people.

It might also help if you address is concerns. Is he worried about nutrition? Find a copy of Becoming Vegetarian and review the nutritional information there (there are other resources, but this is among the best out there) and discuss it with him. You can also log your food choices into fitday.com and it will show your nutritional breakdown. Some people also feel that by going vegetarian you are criticizing their choice to be omni - maybe make sure he knows that you're not asking him to change his life.

Would he feel better if you bought a multivitamin and took it? The first concern of most parents when their children go vegetarian is that they will be nutritionally deficient, even though a vegetarian diet can be quite healthy.

Also, start here: Ask your father what his concerns about vegetarianism are, and just listen for a while. Keep your own opinion on the back burner for a while and just listen to his concerns and opinions. This will actually help you be better able to address his concerns.

Im really unsure as to why I am a veggitarian aswell. I just descided I wanted it and It was right for me. no specific reason, and he wont get that. Im lost..and this is probly confuseing. ANY help would be awesome.

thanks.Hmmmm... This puzzles me. I'm the last person who will try to tell you that your going vegetarian is wrong, but if you don't know why you're doing this, of course you won't be able to explain it to your father or to anyone else.

Of course, not everyone is veg for the same reasons.

The moment "I am a veggitarian" slipped out of my mouth my dad had to throw in his point of veiw. He is my biggest critic. Im not sure what to tell him, so I have been hiding it from him for a few months. I tryed a while back and he freaked out. So I put it off. I descided Im going for what I want, I dont need him to aprove.

I just went away with my parents to my grandparents house and I felt I couldnt avoid meat, since he would pick up on it for sure. (we were all eating together) It felt horrible because all the effort to be veggitarian was lost. I was back at block one. I also felt horrible because I was hiding it and forcing myself to do something I really dont want to.

I want to be a veggitarian AND help my father understand it and calm down about it. Im just not sure how to go about it. I have a horrible relationship with him and I cant just sit down and talk to him. Its ockward and all that.

I was wondering if there was a way to tell him, so he will understand and not freak out. Im really unsure as to why I am a veggitarian aswell. I just descided I wanted it and It was right for me. no specific reason, and he wont get that. Im lost..and this is probly confuseing. ANY help would be awesome.

thanks.


First, don't ever let someone make you feel bad for being your own person. No one is going to be exactly alike, and we are all going to have different opinions on all kinds of different subjects.
Secondly, I encourage you to read as much as you can about vegetarianism. When you do finally tell him you are a vegetarian, he will probably ask alot of questions. Have answers!
Your dad may not be happy with your decision, but it's not his. It's yours! And you really should do what you think is right.
You'll find tons of support here, so don't be afraid to ask questions!