my ex has turned into a ****ing psycho stalker.

he lives in the UK right at the moment but he keeps saying hes getting a plane ticket to come here.

he wont leave me alone.

i changed my number and everything and he still keeps saying hes coming here.

whats the process of getting a restraining order? What do i do if he shows up here?

help?!

hes such a freak, and hes been threatening to kill me.

Can you talk to your parents about this?

im planning on telling my mom when she comes home

:/

Ask the police what you need to do. This is a case for them. Are there lists you can be put on, so if you phone the emergency services, a cop will come around IMMEDIATELY?

That sounds helluva scary.

i think the day that he says he's coming im going to call the police, theyre always waiting around for something to do anyway (small town!) and have them wait here for him.

otherwise im just going to go over to my boyfriends house & when he comes my dad will smash his face in.

That sounds scary. I don't have any experience with real stalkers, but I would probably tell the police your situation ahead of time just in case. He might come over without any warning, or intercept you before you even reach your house, assuming he knows where you go to school or where you work.

How old is your ex BF Spaz?

17.

he just emailed me saying "dont get too comfy"

wtf

:/

Yeah he is a complete psycho. If you haven't started doing this yet, never respond to anything he says to you through email, phone, whatever.

I would call the police and let them know that this is happening and tell them you want a restraining order put on him.

why don't you block his emails?

Block his number, sn, email ect ect...does he know where you live? does he have the money and measn to accually get to you? Threats...even if they ARE empty threats should be taken seriously and be reported asap. No one is worth being frightened for your life

i dont reply to them

they go striaght to my trash.

i just read them to make sure he's still there and hasnt gotten on a plane to come after me

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Block his number, sn, email ect ect...does he know where you live? does he have the money and measn to accually get to you? Threats...even if they ARE empty threats should be taken seriously and be reported asap. No one is worth being frightened for your life

hes blocked from everything, i had my phone number changed. he has a plane ticket and could get here.

i told my mom, she says once he stops emailing me we're going to call the police

:/

i think the day that he says he's coming im going to call the police, theyre always waiting around for something to do anyway (small town!) and have them wait here for him.

otherwise im just going to go over to my boyfriends house & when he comes my dad will smash his face in.


Calling the police is the best idea, and as others have already said, do not respond to any e-mails or calls. However, do save all of his e-mails and calls as evidence of his harrassment.

As for your dad smashing his face in, definitely a bad idea. Responding with violence is pretty counterproductive, and your dad could find himself brought up on charges...

Calling the police is the best idea, and as others have already said, do not respond to any e-mails or calls. However, do save all of his e-mails and calls as evidence of his harrassment.

As for your dad smashing his face in, definitely a bad idea. Responding with violence is pretty counterproductive, and your dad could find himself brought up on charges...

lol, i was actually being pretty sarcastic when i said that :/ i always bring humor into bad situations, haha.

we're going to call the police. im just afraid they wont take me seriously since hes in another country at the moment.

Yes I totally forgot to say to save and print all his emails...

i called his mom and told her how he was acting, so they brought him to his counselers.

:/

i think its okay for now, im supposed to call the police if he ends up showing up.

Good Luck with everything!

thank you!

Yeah he is a complete psycho. If you haven't started doing this yet, never respond to anything he says to you through email, phone, whatever.



yes. it's imperative you break off all contact immediately. don't respond to anything. get a new e-mail/phone # but don't close the old account and keep all those e-mails.

restraining orders are bull****. don't bother. keep a cell phone handy, don't go anywhere alone and keep the police appraised of the situation.

be safe.(((hug)))

also, there is an awesome book about a lot of this stuff... It's called The Gift of Fear by Gavin deBecker. I highly recommend it.

Hey, ..
my brother had a similar problem but the girl in question lived close to him, and worked in the same building.
He spoke to the police and they were understanding but honest. They said that having evidence is very important (as others have said..phone records, emails, letters etc) and that without that there were limits to what/how far they could investigate. However, by lodging an official complaint and having it on record, it meant that the fuzz could, themselves, build up a profile etc and act upon it if/when needed.

Thankfully, it all died down and they weren't needed. But it is at least, all on record, and will remain so for a long time.

You are also perfectly within your rights to contact the police of the country in which this guy is living. Harrassment is harrassment, regardless of what borders it may cross, and you can (at least in the uk, where I am) make complaints or lodge comments, varying from minor ones that stay 'on the books' but in a less pseudo-official capacity, to full scale cases.


*big hugs*

But, please, while I urge you to contact both his and your police, I believe that things will just sort themselves out.

yes purrpelle, the Gift of Fear! awesome book!

yes purrpelle, the Gift of Fear! awesome book!

yeah, it's a great book. I bought copies for all my girlfriends a couple years back. I think it can benefit men too, though.

So, hows it going?

I got a restraining order on my ex tony.. because he hit me and stalked me. Restraining orders are a good thing.. first you should communicate to him that you dont want him around and than you want to get one if he comes around again. This way it sends a definate message to him to STAY away. You should get in contact with the police and be careful. I even changed the place I hung out at even though I got a restraining order I didnt want to risk seeing him.