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Sometimes my BF and I have pretty crazy sex for hours... It is wonderful and amazing and the only reason we stop is because I get too sore. He, magical man that he is, stays hard after he comes and just wants to keep going and going. He is also a very attentive lover, he would go down on me for hours if I would let him.

Sound great right? Well, it is, but there's a downside. Sometimes we get carried away and it gets a little rough, to the point where there may even be a little blood after... I'm not sure if it's from friction, or a nail or whatever... And then I am so sore the next day I can hardly stand it...

What can I do? (Besides not get carried away, because it is worth the discomfort). What will help my poor, raw inflammed privates?
Anything? Or should I just stop whining and suck it up?

If he is attentive and loving he should back off a bit, stop before you get sore. If he wants to continue let him masturbate himself. Dont damage yourself. Have a chat with your own doctor see what he/she says.

I'd say you all need to be less rough. As good as it may be at the time, the "side-effects" don't sound too pleasant. Maybe try different positions? He may be too large for you. Maybe try you on top so you're in control of how much you take in, and can still be rough, or try the "spooning" position, so he can still pump away, but not all of it is being taken in. You should let your gynocologist know about this problem and see what they say about it.
My best friend has kind of the same problem... Her husband is of average size, and she still can't take it all in because it hurts too much. (even after 2 kids and years of sex w/him) She found out her uterus is tilted, which most likely contributes to the pain.
Also, make sure you're using plenty of lube, make sure his nails are trimmed very short (and/or yours...also you could slip a condom over his and/or your fingers so there's no scratching if that may be the case) and there's other ways of being "wild" besides intercourse which are still very enjoyable for both partners.
Whatever the problem may be, discuss it w/your gyno to make sure everything is ok w/you.

sounds like me. but we both stop within our comfort zone. I would recommend you to stop to the point where you know you're going to feel sore or when it gets too rough. Slow down and go easy.

I get sore too, only I don't have "crazy sex for hours." I sometimes get sore after sane sex for minutes. I have a marathoner, too, only he never gets to run marathons with me. It just seems to be one of life's little problems. I'd say back off a bit-- you have room to back off! If I backed off, it would be no sex! :cry:

PS: You know, all this time, I thought you were a guy?? :lol:

What about warming oils? I've heard they are really good. Could just be that you are loosing a little lubrication after a while.

What about warming oils? I've heard they are really good. Could just be that you are loosing a little lubrication after a while.


synergy: you poor thing.:think:

anyway, as ST posted, Lube is good. Desert Essence make a vegan brand, and the warming isn't intense and can be used down there, and smells good too...

Good Vibrations the online store has vegan lubes and stuff too, and then there's always Sensua which is also 100% organic.

I know stuff:trick:

Lube, Lube, Lube

Even if you are naturally "ready" at the start of a session your own lube will start to become less slick as the session goes on. I suggest adding some lube when you start to feel friction.

If after adding lube you are still spotting after sex I would talk to your doctor. She/He can determine if it is normal or a problem.

Make him check those nails! Men tend to forget how sharp they can be. If he can't run his nail over his own head (not the one closest to the sky) then they are not suitable for use on you!

I thought "lube" too. Seems like you need more.

Make him check those nails! Men tend to forget how sharp they can be. If he can't run his nail over his own head (not the one closest to the sky) then they are not suitable for use on you!

:lol: I was thinking the same thing.

Wow, thanks for all the support guys. You're right, it probably needs to be a combination of back off a bit, and lube it up! I think it really does 'dry up' a bit after awhile. I am going to the doctor soon for my annual pap. I'll get everything checked out! Make sure it's all in working order.

And Tess, your situation sounds even worse! Maybe a foreplay marathon could help?
And you thought I was a guy? That's funny. Is my toaster avatar too manly? :lol:
Actually, a few years ago, I posted a thread about breaking up with my omni BF and Michael was so confused... He thought I was a guy for the longest time! (He had me an a guy named Syntax confused).

Purrpelle, do you know where to find Sensua? I like the idea of an organic lube.!
*shudders at the thought of pestisides down there*

Purrpelle, do you know where to find Sensua? I like the idea of an organic lube.!
*shudders at the thought of pestisides down there*

Via PM-

but if anyone else needs to know, you can order those and many other fine products from www.drugstore.com.

For ****s and giggles I picked up so KY Warming Massage Oil. Should be fun.... :nana: <--- no, that ain't no dancin nana either :p

I would second the lube suggestions. I've been in the same position and sadly, as you get older, the lube just doesn't last the way it used to ;-) A little extra lube should help, but seriously, sometimes you just have to stop - thats a pretty sensitive place, and there are other ways you can continue on sexually if the mood is still hot ;-)

I'd say you all need to be less rough. As good as it may be at the time, the "side-effects" don't sound too pleasant. Maybe try different positions? He may be too large for you. Maybe try you on top so you're in control of how much you take in, and can still be rough, or try the "spooning" position, so he can still pump away, but not all of it is being taken in. You should let your gynocologist know about this problem and see what they say about it.

I agree with this go to your gynocologist and also, when your are sore and bleeds a little it could come from a stratch or you have became dry and you have made yourself raw from a long period of sex in that day. That is very painful. I have been there before one time and I know it's uncomfortable for you. I also know when when get in your mid 30's (I'm not sure on your age), your body changes and you have to use a lubricant like KY Jelly even sometimes if you are not having sex.

Take it easy you do not want to cause female problems down the road (Historectomy).

And Tess, your situation sounds even worse! Maybe a foreplay marathon could help?
And you thought I was a guy? That's funny. Is my toaster avatar too manly? :lol:
I think it was your old headphone-wearin' monster avatar-- it just seemed like something a guy would have.

I think part of my problem sex-wise is that in my brain, I'm a guy-- I want to get straight to :hump:, but my poor girl's body needs that hour of foreplay that I'm not mentally patient enough to endure! And we're talking WITH lube, too! I go through lube like it's candy, and I STILL get sore. I think this is why I'm a 1-2x a week girl. So count your blessings!

synergy: you poor thing.:think:

anyway, as ST posted, Lube is good. Desert Essence make a vegan brand, and the warming isn't intense and can be used down there, and smells good too...

Good Vibrations the online store has vegan lubes and stuff too, and then there's always Sensua which is also 100% organic.

I know stuff:trick:

watch out for scenty things down there. those can irritate sometimes.

I think it was your old headphone-wearin' monster avatar-- it just seemed like something a guy would have.


Yeah, I forgot about that one, it did seem a little manly to me too. I think before that I had a whole lot of really girly flowers and buddha's, but that may have been before you joined. I tend to keep avatars for ages!


And I actually talked to my sister about this and she figured out what may be another contributing factor. When this all happened, my guy came inside me and then we just kept going for ages. My sis pointed out that not only is semen not a lubricant, but it gets kinds 'crunchy' for lack of a better word, and would have contributed immensly to the friction (in a bad way). So there will be no more of that particular senario. Or at least a clean up and lube before continuing!

I have similar problems, although, not just when my husband and I have rough sex, but for much of the sex we have. At my annual exam, my doc said that it is simply my sensitive skin. I get 'itchy' from everything, tampons, my diva cup, sex, etc. But I can get sore during sex too.

Silly as it may seem, I went off the pill for various reasons so my husband and I are using condoms. Not only has my healthy sex drive returned, but for some reason, I don't have as many 'sensitivity' issues...the condom actually helps! I can't believe it (I haven't used condoms in 6 years). And my husband is just pleased that I am not uninterested in sex due to being pumped full of hormones...

Anyway, if you aren't totally against it, a condom might actually help protect you a bit. And I second the lube, too.

Oh, I disagree-- a condom makes things worse for me. But going off the pill definitely helped. I lubricate better and I don't seem nearly as easily irritated now. Things are improving! :nana:

The condom thing is interesting Rachel, but I have to agree with Tess. I think condoms make things much worse. I hate them, hate them, hate them. I am in a monogamous relationship, and on the pill, neither of which I am planning to alter soon, so it really is going to have to be all about the lube.

Well, take it easy for a little while. You might also want to try more lube. Also, trying talking to your gyno. They can offer some medical advice.