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[Funkified]

edited! cause it was way too long and the situation is sorted out now :)

[Joe]

Gee, Funky. I am really sorry for all the turmoil you've been going through, but your story confused me completely.

If your ex is your ex and you are seeing another guy, then you should totally break it off with your ex, if you haven't done so already. At least, that's my opinion.

And if you want to get back with your ex, you should get back with your ex, and not see other guys.

It sounds like you want to have it all without making clear choices. And that sounds like a good way to get yourself hurt, and maybe hurt others in the process.

The "let's break up but still be friends" thing has never worked for me. If you can make it work for you, great. But it sounds like you are just providing the ex with too much temptation to fantasize about getting back together with you.

Just my two cents.

[Skylark]

Funk,
I'm really sorry this is all so distressing. Like Joe, I was somewhat confused by your story, but I'm used to that when reading your posts. (I think it's quite charming and cute, so I'm not negatively confused.) FWIW, I think whoever you end up with is a privileged person. :)

[Herself]

Funkified,
It sounds like your ex may know that nothing will happen with the two of you now....but that he has his hopes up for the future. Like he's fooling himself into thinking that when he's ready that you'll just be there. Geez it sucks when crazy stuff like this happens....you seem to be handling it very well though. :)

[rainbowmoon]

Funkified- I really can't give you a lot of advice about how to handle crazy guy situations- would you want it from a 17 year old with one relationship under her belt? I mean, really...:) but I just want to say that sometimes you have to have a little distance from the person in order to get over them more and really make an intelligent decision. You leaving more awhile might be really good for that, to gain some space to make correct decisions. For me, its like I have to cut off communciation with my ex or I start thinking I want him back...*sigh* I know how you feel, thats all I can say. *hugs* and props for your calm composure...:)
lovenlight,
linz

[Vegankat]

My first major ex is now my best friend in the world.

My second major ex...well...we did that on-again-off-again thing for a while after we broke up the first time, but the long and short of it is, he destroyed me in so many ways. He hust me so much without realizing it, and he would use flattery, guilt, or really low blows just to keep me with him, though he lived two states away. I think you should maintain a friendship with this ex, but a distance-friendship, until you're sure you won't be hurt at all by him.

[Minmo]

Well, glad things are a bit more cleared up. The whole "let's still be friends" thing can be either really crap or really cool. Like Vegankat, my ex is now my best friend....so it can work, you never know.