I was wondering today how you react to things has more to do with age, or experience or both, like how you get more experience with age?

so! I was hoping people could kind of fill this out :shifty: try to be specific answering the questions as to saying your experiences with that and such. it'd help lots, thanks!

Age:
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced -
having children -
being a virgin -
NOT being a virgin -
being unemployed -
having more then 10 ex's -
not being a vegetarian/vegan -
being more than 2 years older then you -
being older then you in general -


if anyone else has any other questions you think I should add to this just post and I'll add them.

Age:17
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced - If he had a divorce before we met, I wouldn't think any less of him. My previous boyfriends best friend was his ex girlfriend, and although sometimes I was a bit jealous...it didn't bother me too much.
having children - It wouldn't bug me if he had children, what would bug me is if he had children and was not a good father to them.
being a virgin - Depends on the reason, is he a virgin because he struggles around women...or does he believe in waiting for that perfect girl? I think it might be a little weird if he was a virgin say at age 35 and had no reason behind it besides not being capable of getting laid :lol:, that would probably make me less interested in him, I'd be thinking "what's wrong with this guy?"
NOT being a virgin -It doesn't bug me if he has slept with a few other women, but if the number is pretty high up there I'm definitely not getting involved.
being unemployed -BOO!! GET A JOB!! I'd completely be running in the opposite direction.
having more then 10 ex's -I probably wouldn't date him.
not being a vegetarian/vegan -I am fine with it as long as he respects my choice.
being more than 2 years older then you - I'm fine with it, I don't think love knows numbers.
being older then you in general -Completely OK.

great and funny survey...

Age: 36
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced -better than never have been in a serious relationship by far. Divorced means you tried something and it didn't work. This often happens with people, and experiences...even bad ones, are helpful for people to have had. Life is a learning experience...faling only means you've tried in the first place.
having children - Okay
being a virgin - No virgins please. I'm 36
NOT being a virgin - Pleas apply
being unemployed - Hmmmm....self employed...even struggling would be okay. Unemployed (for any length of time) would not
having more then 10 ex's - Do you want to know how many X's I have...only one I was married to...but I dated a LOT.
not being a vegetarian/vegan - As I get older I think more that I want someone who shares similar values. They wouldn't HAVE to be veg*n...but it would definitely be a plus...and they'd have to be open, because I don't plan on being omni ever.
being more than 2 years older then you - No problem.
being older then you in general - No problem.

That's a neat idea. I'm chronically single but I want to play so I'm going to guess at these. :D

Age: 29 next month

How would you react to your s/o:

being divorced -That depends on what their relationship is afterward. Still close = no thanks. Otherwise it's all good.

having children - Bye!

being a virgin - :lol: What?

NOT being a virgin - That's normal.

being unemployed - If he's not mooching it's all good. Mooching includes welfare and living with parents or someone who is supporting him. That's just weird.

having more then 10 ex's - I'm not interested in someone who needs to be in a relationship all the time. 10+ ex lovers/one nighters/flings/bed buddies is expected. 500+ I'd probably start to wonder...not a deal breaker though.

not being a vegetarian/vegan - I'm not down with a flat out omni, but someone who has been known to eat animals once in a blue moon might be alright. I'd generally prefer someone who is not comfortable with a refrigerator full of dismembered corpses though.

being more than 2 years older than you - That'd be the same age IMO.

being older than you in general - How old we talking here? If he tells me a "When I was your age" story that's probably not good but ten years or so is fine as long as he's still... performing. :naughty:

Age: 30
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced - Would depend on when/why, what he learned from it.
having children - Would be interesting. I don't want that responsibility myself. But I could maybe have a portion of it. If he didn't show a lot of interest in taking his full portion of responsibility for the children, that would be a big bad thing.
being a virgin - They'd have to have a really good reason for it. And saving themselves for some philosophical/religious reason would not be good.
NOT being a virgin - expected
being unemployed -depends on the reason.
having more then 10 ex's - Should be fine. Figure he could be dating for 15 years or more.
not being a vegetarian/vegan - big negative. He'd have to at least agree with me about my reasons even if he wasn't up to the commitment.
being more than 2 years older then you - Doesn't matter at my age. My SO is 3 years younger.
being older then you in general - I doubt I'd ever feel comfortable with someone more than 10 years older, and even that is very unlikely. I usually like younger guys. I fear older guys will not think I am "adult" enough because I am not ready to be married, don't want kids and don't have a lot of expensive crap. I have a messy apartment only marginally better decorated than a college dorm room, and I can't dress myself worth a damn, don't do my hair and usually don't wear makeup. Hey, and I like to sit around and watch American Idol. Not what I imagine "mature older men" want. Oh, and I have no money. (But a decent job and a nice car.)

Age: 23
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced - not too surprised. My parents are divorced, and I think the world is better off.

having children - I am really supportive of my BF's involvment with his kids. The fact that he loves them so much and takes care of them is part of why I am so attracted to him.
My ex on the other hand, did not have much to do with his, so it had little to do with our life together.

being a virgin - I would be surprised if they were over about 18 or 19. I did take away one guys virginity when he was 19. We were good friends and we figured better to do it with me than with a random one night stand.

NOT being a virgin - with shock and dismay! (joke) I don't think I would react actually!

being unemployed - It would really depend on the circumstances. And for how long.

having more then 10 ex's - That would freak me out. I would tread very cautiously.

not being a vegetarian/vegan - As long as he's respectful, it's no problem.

being more than 2 years older then you - I've never dated anyone my age! I prefer older.

being older then you in general - My BF is 10 years older than me, which can be an issue with family, but I am actually enjoying it. I've had a lot of life experiences, and most guys my own age are not at the same maturity level. I am enjoying it actually!

Age: 28
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced - i'd make sure the relationship was completely over before pursuing a full time commitment from her.
having children - i love children, so i would embrace them!
being a virgin - give her as much time as she needed, and not pressure her at all!
NOT being a virgin - enjoy sex as often as we could!
being unemployed - try to help her financially as much as possible, and help her find a job. this is what i am doing for mine right now.
having more then 10 ex's - not worry about that, as long as they were over and done with.
not being a vegetarian/vegan - she isn't, and we don't clash at all. she is very open minded and is not opposed to meals without meat.
being more than 2 years older then you - age is of no concern to me.
being older then you in general - see above.

Age: 20
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced - wouldnt bother me, if we were older. but 20 is quite young to be married, let alone divorced as well :/
having children -
being a virgin - wouldnt mind :)
NOT being a virgin - again, wouldnt mind :)
being unemployed - lol...dont mind, as long as they're not a bum
having more then 10 ex's - haha, sluuut ;)
not being a vegetarian/vegan - mine isnt, and i dont care.
being more than 2 years older then you - dont mind :)
being older then you in general - not *too* old


not sure about the kid thing...but looks like i'm pretty easy going :)

Age: 36

How would you react to your s/o:

being divorced - Depends on how many divorces and what the circumstances were surrounding the breakups. I mean if a guy tells me that all of his past relationships have broken up because he cheated on them obviously I'm not going to be in any great hurry to get involved. Or if the guy is my age and has been married 4 times I might think twice about involvement with him.

Both I and my husband have been married one time previously. I'm mature enough to realize that marriages/relationships break up. But a pattern of unsuccessful relationships should be considered a warning sign.

having children - I wouldn't have a problem with children. I have one of my own. Though it would make me more cautious in areas of the relationship because when kids are involved the relationship involves them as much as the two principle particpants. I would not want to cause the child(ren) further pain if the relationship didn't work out. So I would procede with more caution.

being a virgin - I can't see how this would be an issue. Though at my age I have difficulty imagining being involved with (were I not married) a man who was a virgin. I figure by the time they hit 40 most men are no longer virgins.

NOT being a virgin - See above.

being unemployed - My husband was unemployed when we met. Depends. Is the guy chronically unemployed? Or is this a temporary situation? If it is a recurring situation due to his own actions (or lack thereof) there would not be a relationship. If it is a one off or an unusual situation then I don't see that it would be a hinderance to the relationship.

having more then 10 ex's - Exes means? Women he dated? Women he slept with? Women he was engaged to? Women he lived with? Or ex-wives?

Exes as in women he dated in the past? Who cares. That was then this is now. Women he slept with? Allowing for safe sex and STD testing again I don't see it as a problem. Exes as in serious relationships (i.e., lived with, engaged to or married to in any combination) that might send up a red flag. 10 serious relationships that have broken up seems excessive and a possible warning sign for me.

not being a vegetarian/vegan - I can handle someone not being veg*n as long as they can handle that I am veg*n and that I will not cook meat for them.

being more than 2 years older then you - Completely a non-issue.

being older then you in general - Again it is a non-issue. Age was a deciding factor for me in relationships when I was a kid. Now that I am nearing 40 I cannot see that it would be something I would worry about.

by the way! single people can take this too, it doesnt have to be your s/o right now, just how you would react to that in general to someone you were interested in.

Age: 29
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced - I could deal with it (have dealt with it, in fact), but I'd prefer someone who hasn't been married before.
having children - Depends on his family situation. I don't want to have to deal with a jealous or crazy ex constantly. But the fact that he had children by itself wouldn't bother me as long as he's been a good father. If he's skipping out on child support payment or something, that'd turn me off completely.
being a virgin - Eh. I'd feel too experienced for him. I'd constantly wonder what he thought of ME.
NOT being a virgin - It's what I expect.
being unemployed - Because he quit his other job in order to protest his bosses homophobia or cruety toward animals? Bravo! Because he's living off of a trust fund while going to grad school? Find by me! Because he's not sure what he's into or where to look for a job or whether he really needs to ever work because he's fine garbage-picking? No way.
having more then 10 ex's - I'd expect that. Well, not 10 SERIOUS ex-girlfriends, but at least 10 'adult' relationships. If we're talking 10 year-long girlfriends (or wives) I'd be wary.
not being a vegetarian/vegan - Would bother me. I'd try to relax and let us each be each other, though. And hope he comes over from the dark side.
being more than 2 years older then you - Fine by me. I've usually dated older men.
being older then you in general - I'd go as high as 15 years older.

Age: 18
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced - depends on how old he was, the reasons, how he deals with it now, a lot of factors. Just "being divorced" in itself wouldn't bother me.
having children - mmm...might be strange, considering how young I am, but I like kids...might make me think more about the situation.
being a virgin - wouldn't worry me...
NOT being a virgin - well, I wouldn't be surprised, but probably jealous. I'm like that.
being unemployed - again, it depends. If it's for the right reasons and not because it's easier to bum off someone else, then fine.
having more then 10 ex's - hmm...my insecurities might come into play...and i might wonder why...depends on how long they've been 'dating', I guess. My bf is only 17 and has about that many, but I doubt they were very serious
not being a vegetarian/vegan - mm...harder. Not a deal breaker though. My current bf was an omni when we met and is now a vegan. It's easier now, but it wad fine before.
being more than 2 years older then you - don't mind in the slightest.
being older then you in general - as above...

I know there's a lot of depends, but honestly, it does. If they're the person I'm looking for with same values, same "everything that's important" then a lot of things just don't matter.

Age: 35.........c'mon 36.........
How would you react to your s/o:
being divorced - **
Don't care. Would want to find out the why's and what's though. No point in repeating history right-?
having children-**
Umm.. Could be okay. Did that once (the not my own kid thing) and it ended up being a heartbreaking thing for me, so I'd think hard again.
being a virgin -**
blah matters not... Either would be fine, but sure would like to know first. Can be un-nerving to find out later in a casual matter o' factly way (yes, been there too)
NOT being a virgin -**
See above.....
being unemployed -**
depends again. Can't say black-white on this..
having more then 10 ex's -**
As in ex's married to,lived with, ex's dated, dated seriously, etc. But, again, it's a case-by-case basis. I wouldn't want to be judged..
not being a vegetarian/vegan -**
Not a deal breaker, but I'd look to see their level of evolution of heart as to where it might go with such differences.
being more than 2 years older then you -**
I've met folks ten years older and younger that weren't even on the same planet maturity wise.. Everyone gets a fair shake, as long as I'm not being chased with a shotgun..
being older then you in general -**
Um again, I'd defer to the above......... *bows*


if anyone else has any other questions you think I should add to this just post and I'll add them.[/QUOTE]