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jacfong
April 27th, 2003, 05:42 PM
soilman: sorry for the confusion, i should have been clearer. i did not realise then (at the height of my anorexia) what i was doing to myself - i never deserved food, period. i know now that what i had then was not enough, but i did not know it then. then again, what you say can be true - it could be a little bit of shame as well.

azalea: hey, how tall are you? i think you said you are 19, and well, i'd think that you would need more than 1100 cals a day. maybe 2000 cals? i know it might sound frightening to you. it sure freaked me out when my nutritionist gave me a 2000 cal a day meal plan when i was trying to put on weight but you'll need it, esp. if you are active.

why did my problems start? well, i think there were many factors and i can only guess at them. my parents fought a lot when i was younger and i could not do anything about it, so i controlled myself and what i ate. (yes, it is about control isn't it?) and whenever i had a problem i ate even less - my way of controlling things? also, my friends at school started to measure their waists and it seemed like they all had waists about 1 or 2 inches smaller than mine, and i felt like i was an outcast. i wanted to belong. looking back, i don't think i was fat but i still had some baby fats and some 'nice' friend labelled me a hippoppotamus. that did not stick well! plus, i had acne and thought i was freaking ugly and since all models were pretty and skinny, i must therefore be skinny to be pretty. and i hate to admit this but my friends were all getting guys' attentions and i was not and i wanted some. (i did get some attention after i 'recovered' though!!)

i am a healtheir weight not but i go through days when i think i am disgustingly fat and seriously need to lose weight. today is one of those days. i tend to eat a lot of fruits - fresh and dried - and i love dried fruits but i always worry they will make me fat. i know this will sound like a load of BS to ppl like soilman (maybe?) or others who have not had a ED. i hate weighing myself still cos i am so afraid that the machine will tell me i have put on weight. i am 5'2" and weigh 45 kgs (98 pounds i think?) and i don't know, but i think that's an ok weight, but i am still happier if i found out i lost weight than put on weight.

i sympathise with you, funkified, i know it's horrid having ppl call you names. in fact, 2 of my teachers in primary school called me fat. that affected me a lot. i was kicked out of a primary school dance cos the teacher thought i was too fat. the other girls were stick thin, and i was not so i guess that made me fat. funny though, cos sometimes i still get jealous of skinny girls.

Katieq
April 27th, 2003, 06:25 PM
eating in front of people has always been tough. i'm better about it now than i was in high school...but i still don't like doing it. i eat when i'm bored...i hate being alone because then i eat more. i've always known this about myself and i hate it. i also eat when i read, especially when i read the paper. i don't know, i just associate sitting in the kitchen and reading the paper with eating, even if it's later in the day and not breakfast time...i eat anyway, but i'm trying (unsuccessfully) to break that habit...

Ntelligentidiot
April 27th, 2003, 06:55 PM
Whenever I'm in or near the kitchen, I feel a sudden urge to eat. For this reason I like to spend most of the afternoon upstairs or outside or else I'd end up having about 5 snacks.

CharityAJO
April 27th, 2003, 07:36 PM
You know what, Funkified.. when I was around eight years old, me and my friends used to go out power walking around the track. Even though we were all the size of twigs, we'd been convinced that we need to Stay In Shape.

I think it gets fed into children's minds in health class. They're trying to promote good nutrition and such, but an eight year old mind takes anything it hears and just morphs it. When I was around ten my health teacher said we shouldn't get more than thirty grams of fat a day, and I actually started to look out for how many fat grams I was eating.

Being so young, I don't think I was trying to lose weight, I was just doing what The Adults said you're supposed to do.

It's sick that impressionable kids could be influenced so easily...

Ntelligentidiot
April 27th, 2003, 10:19 PM
When I was 9 or 10 my friends and I would run at least a mile around the track each day, and 2+ miles on "mile club day." It wasn't really about staying in shape, we just wanted our names on the board for which kids ran the most miles. I remember that one of my friends and I had second and third place in the grade for most miles run. When we weren't running we looked for 4-leaf-clovers in the field. I was really good at finding them, I even found a couple 5-leaf clovers.

Sorry about my random flashback...:D

rainbowmoon
April 27th, 2003, 10:48 PM
Wow, thats so the opposite of me. As a kid I was always wayy too embarrassed to do anything in PE, and i always felt so fat and ridiculous. I remember out weighing everyone in fourth grade...
Even now I don't have a real competitive edge. I tend to just do things for myself and the benefit they give, although I think being healthfully competitive is a good thing, because it gives you that extra ooomph in what you do.
I guess its pretty much obvious that my food wierdness grew from being overweight, which occured because as a child I did not learn the proper way to eat nor exercise. This has all been an attempt to find a healthy balance, although I don't want to go from one extreme of unhealthiness to another.
lovenlight,
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dvmarie
April 28th, 2003, 02:05 AM
Originally posted by kristadb

Currently, my relationship with food is as follows:
"Mmm"
"Oh baby"
"That was so good, I may need to start smoking"

That pretty much sums it up for me too. :love:

evanescence
April 28th, 2003, 02:39 AM
back a little about the guilt thing... i HATE wasting food. i think that was/is my biggest 'flaw' as an anoretic. throwing out perfectly good food is so hard for me. i hate not clearing my plate if it means the food will be thrown away. either way, i feel so horribly guilty, because if i throw out the food it's been wasted, and if i eat the food, i shouldn't have because i didn't need it. my relationship with food is an obession as well. it makes me miserable, but at the same time it keeps me sane when i can't think about anything else. i eat it to make other people happy and when my brain is so exhausted that it won't let me do anything that requires thinking, and i'm an insomniac.

jacfong
April 28th, 2003, 09:53 AM
eva, you said "either way, i feel so horribly guilty, because if i throw out the food it's been wasted, and if i eat the food, i shouldn't have because i didn't need it."

well i sure know what u mean girl! i wonder why we're that way and it's so hard to get out of this cycle.

i was pretty competitive as well, not just in sports but in everything. i think it is a trait for anorexics - we want to be perfect in every sense of the word. now i strive to excel as much as posb but i won't beat myself up for not coming up tops.

as for everyone else who has a positive outlook on food and is happy with their bodies, well, i just wanted to say good for you, and stay that way!!!