My friend gets spanked, a lot of kids I know get spanked a lot. Like for eveything they do wrong. Its perfectly normal in my town i guess? But it seems a little different. Tehy are okay with it, until report cards come out then they all cry and are depressed. has any of you ever been spanked? like how old were you. bare butt and stuff. im not sure it just idk.

Only a couple times when I was about 5 years old.

I don't think it's appropriate, myself.

I was hit when I was young. My brother and I had a habit of annoying my parents and one way my mom got us under control was whacking our bottoms with a wooden spoon. It was something I never talked about with my parents for a long time. Then I brought it up once and she was in so much denial that she could have possibly hurt us doing it.

I didn't appreciate it, but I have no idea how hard it was to control me when I was young. I never bruised or blee\d or anything like that, but my parents still hit me, and the idea of that hurts.

If I was ever in that situation (I don't plan to be, but who knows what happens) I would NEVER spank my kids. I think it is 100% out of line. Violence is the incorrect way to get other to behave and it delivers a mixed message.

Hmm when I was younger, maybe 8 I would be spanked...but I would always have clothes on...but once my step dad and I got into quite a physical fight and he spanked me (I was 13-14) and I thought it was completely silly and weird.

I don't believe in spanking past the age of like 4-5, I think with my own kids and even my siblings a little slap on the hand is best, but first you should always try and communicating with them.

My friend gets spanked, a lot of kids I know get spanked a lot. Like for eveything they do wrong. Its perfectly normal in my town i guess? But it seems a little different. Tehy are okay with it, until report cards come out then they all cry and are depressed. has any of you ever been spanked? like how old were you. bare butt and stuff. im not sure it just idk.

I was spanked until I was 11 or 12. My father's idea of spanking was definitely to inflect pain, so at the oldest, I was spanked bare butt with a leather belt. While it was quite effective on me, I was a pretty obedient child in the first place. I don't know that I would recommend this as a form of punishment, and it definitely should not be the primary one. While it's not inherently child abuse, it could develop into such. (I.e., even writers in the 1700's warned against spanking your children too hard, and there have been paddles invented that would come apart if you spanked your child too hard.)

I was spanked until I was about 8 or so. Not often, and the times I was I fully deserved it.

I was spanked until I was about 8 or so. Not often, and the times I was I fully deserved it.

You were 8, do you really think violence was the correct approach to teach you how to communicate a compromise?

My personal opinion is that there is never a good reason to strike another human being, ESPECIALLY a child. There are plenty of other more effective ways to get a child's attention.

it is never appropriate. like wonderrandy said there are better ways. if an adult messes up in a social situation you would not strike the individual. why then, would you hit a child for messing up when they are still trying to learn the rules? adults are supposed to know the rules but it is socially unacceptable to hit them. plus, lets say you spank in a "controlled" manner. what if your child when grown believes spanking is acceptable and chooses to spank and cant control himself? or, what if their spouse cannot? now, you have set up future generations to the possibility of being abused. this is all my opinion, of course.

I think that spanking out of spur-of-the-moment anger is inappropriate. For example, a parent is trying to watch a TV show and their child keeps interrupting, so they get angry and spank them. I think spanking should be reserved for when a child does something very wrong, and it should be done when the parent and the child have had a chance to calm down from the circumstance. Some children just need to be looked at a certain way and they will behave, but others do need more correction than that.

I was spanked a few times. It got the message across, and I didn't repeat my actions again. And I'm proud to say I wasn't damaged at all by it.

My mom would use a leather strap on me, until I was about 7. This was always over clothing it never left marks but it did hurt. After getting cracked a few times all she had to do is reach for it and I would stop misbehaving.

I guess to answer coolie’s question I would have to ask a couple of questions. How old is the friend, and is it over clothing or not, is it with a hand or an object, does it leave bruises or marks?

I don’t subscribe to the idea of corporal punishment though corporal punishment does not always meet the criteria for abuse in a legal sense. If you are concerned that it might be you can contact your local department of human services child abuse hot line (anonymously or not) and describe the situation and ask for their feedback.

spanking is completely inapropriate

My father always spanked my brother's and I. When we got too big for that we'd just get hit. He didn't beat us regularly or anything, only hit as a punishment. It wasn't abuse. Actually my father hit me yesterday. I'm 21 years old!! yeah i need to get out of here

Oh my, what a touchy subject for me. Let me just say that my Father took corporal punishment all the way with me and my sisters with out going into detail. Years later we confronted him. What a good feeling to deal with it after it haunted us for years.

I can remember my mothers long nails and nail polish. Boy, do I remember getting spanked. I don't spank my kids. I gotta say there have been times where I was sooooo tempted but didn't. Also, I have always said - I don't hit my dogs, why would I hit my kids??

Now Mario (or Derrick) and spanking - well, that's a whoooole other matter.

:lol: :lol: Derrick does it for you too?:p

You were 8, do you really think violence was the correct approach to teach you how to communicate a compromise?

7 or 8 was about the latest, and yes, considering the way I behaved, definately! :D I could be a little brat. It wasn't an every day thing.. maybe... once or twice a year?

I also got my mouth washed out with soap and water, too. That was way worse that spankings.

You were 8, do you really think violence was the correct approach to teach you how to communicate a compromise?


Compromise? What the **** does it have to with a compromise?
Ain't no negotiations with the short people in the Tame household when it comes to punishments.

And yes, at younger ages, I think spanking is an effective means of punishment for some kids/parents/situations.

"Soap and water" was a very effective punishment, too. To this day I'm pretty much a non-swearer.

"Soap and water" was a very effective punishment, too. To this day I'm pretty much a non-swearer.

And you know what? That is child abuse to me! Tell me that this did not effect you later at all in a bad way. Oh I am so darn glad that I do not raise my children the way that my parents raised me and my sisters. My kids are darn strong and confident. I can dislipine them with out ever breaking their spirit.:yes: That is the key to me. My daughter refuses to cuss and I never did this too her. It was the long talks and bonding with my kids. Listening to their feelings and I am the teacher, guider, disipline figure, and more than just a parent, but a friend also. I was darn afraid of my dad and still am kinda of till this day till I stood up and told him that he was wrong. Sorry about the soap box. I said this is a touchy subject.:lol:

I got spanked until I was... 12? Something like that. I also distinctly remember my mom reaching into the back seat of the car and smacking whoever her hand reached. She didn't even know what was going on. My mother always had trouble controlling her anger, and she ONLY spanked out of anger (as I remember).


My father also beat me, dragged me by my hair, my ear, picked me up and slammed me into the TV, threw stuff at me, kicked me, threw me across the table, threw me across the room, grabbed me by my hair and slammed my face into a wall, etc. He was a very large man, and he would hit me full force.

And you know what? That is child abuse to me! Tell me that this did not effect you later at all in a bad way. Oh I am so darn glad that I do not raise my children the way that my parents raised me and my sisters. My kids are darn strong and confident. I can dislipine them with out ever breaking their spirit.:yes: That is the key to me. My daughter refuses to cuss and I never did this too her. It was the long talks and bonding with my kids. Listening to their feelings and I am the teacher, guider, disipline figure, and more than just a parent, but a friend also. I was darn afraid of my dad and still am kinda of till this day till I stood up and told him that he was wrong. Sorry about the soap box. I said this is a touchy subject.:lol:

If you think my spirit has been broken then you don't know me at all :lol: It was not child abuse, it was discipline. My parent's were, and still are, my teachers, guides and discipline figures. Just because they have a different way of raising children to you does not make them child abusers, thank you very much. And why on earth would having my mouth washed out with soap and water have a harmful effect on me? Gosh sake, it's not like they used hydrochloric acid.

My parents only whupped my butt when I realy deserved it. I think when it is needed, do it. It only works when reserved for really serious matters. The deal is these days, what I observe is most parents threatening, but never carrying out the threat. In my day, what Mama said, Mama did!! And I was scared into submission!!!!!

If you think my spirit has been broken then you don't know me at all :lol: It was not child abuse, it was discipline. My parent's were, and still are, my teachers, guides and discipline figures. Just because they have a different way of raising children to you does not make them child abusers, thank you very much. And why on earth would having my mouth washed out with soap and water have a harmful effect on me? Gosh sake, it's not like they used hydrochloric acid.

I was not saying YOUR spirit, I was just saying in general. Do not know how old you are but have a feeling young. I guess my form of discipline is different than how you feel. I guess that is good for you that you can deal with that. I could not. Well if you want to do a search on reading about child abuse, that would be one. I do not want to debate you, but it is still so wrong to me.

I am not saying it should not be wrong to you. I am merely saying that because someone brings their child up in a different manner to you that makes it child abuse. The soap and water thing had no lasting negative effects, physcial, mental, or emotional. Different people have different upbringings and differeent cultures, it is something we should all learn to accept.

I am 34, I don't know if you think that is young or old. :D

My parents practiced spanking until the child in question was about nine or ten. It depended on the maturity level and whether spanking would actually be effective. At a certain point, it's just embarassing and doesn't punish nearly so well as revoking privileges or assigning extra chores, etc.

I have mixed feelings about spanking. I don't believe it caused me any lasting harm, but refraining from violence resonates with me. Since I could go either way on that, I suppose it would matter greatly what the other half of my eventual parenting duo thinks.