I am getting a Fountain Gardens application tomorrow at Res Life and maybe I will get to live in an apartment on the beach next semester...if I don't get in there, I am searching for an apartment somewhere else around here that has roommates and is fairly cheap. I hope, I hope, I hope! Wish me luck. I can't stand my roommate, Nina, anymore and I can't stand her not being relaxed.

For example, today she IMs me and says how her mom is being controlling about her diet and that she thinks the nutritionist will tell her mom that she is wrong. Ok. I was very sympathetic and said I am sorry how her mom is being weird and how I understand how frustrating it feels when a parent acts controlling. I made some jokes and sent her smiley faces lol. Then, all I did was ask her how much her nutritionist costs and how I would like to see one (I have been wanting to for a long time). She starts YELLING at me...actual yelling...how I don't need to go and that it would be a waste of my time and how I am too healthy as it is. Then she says goodbye very sharply...like she is actually angry at me for wanting to go to a nutritionist. She came back and said she is in a pissy mood. THEN she says "take me to the walgreens tonight when you get back".

You don't understand because you don't know her. You probably think I am being irrational, but I know her very well. I've lived with her all of last year. I can't take the constant bickering and I am tired of her anxious, unrelaxed, judgmental, ****ty mood behavior.

I can't tell her I want to go somewhere else (aka without her) next semester because I am a wuss. And I am sure I will never be able to do it. But, I am going to explode if she doesn't chill out. It's like I am walking on ice every moment I am with her. She is like a volcano that is ready to explode. Every word I say, she argues with.

Another example from just tonight. I mentioned something interesting thing to her earlier and she starts saying "someone like you WOULD like that" and **** like that and she always puts me down, but I know I can't tell her I am mad because then she will only get MORE mad.

Wow, what a b****.

Yeah I know what you mean. It sucks. For the most part, I'm a big wuss too and I never can get the balls to say anything to my sucky roommates either. It pisses my boyfriend off because he always tells me that as long as I don't say anything about it, and as long as they think they can get away with it, they will continue doing it.

I'm sure your roommate is taking control of the situation and she continues to be b**chy because you allow her to, and because you don't stand up for yourself. I know that myself, but it is really hard to stand up for yourself. So I can totally understand where you are coming from.

Just so you know, I've had over 13 roommates in like 3 years, and I am sooooo unbelievably sure that it isn't me that has the issues. :bow: hahah. i dont mean to sound stuck up or anything, but I just have soooo much consideration and respect for my roommates and for like the first 10 roommates I was living in their space so when I got sick of it, I gave like my 30 day notice and I was out. I never ever signed a lease cause I know how I am. So then I got my own place and was searching for roommates and Ive had 3 here so far (the third still lives here) and I can't stand any of them now. It's like people don't have respect for anyone else's space, property, culture, or lifestyle in general. Sorry to ramble but I totally know where your coming from. If you dont get into one of the other apartments (I'm hoping you do :nana: ) but if you dont and you move somewhere else, just let her know that you would really like to try a different living situation to meet new people and that it was nice having her as a roommate. Basically try to end it on a good note, although, not too good so that she thinks she can come and hang out at your new place. best of luck:hamster:

As someone who has an annoying, idiotic roommate, I highly empathize with your predicament, Countess. However, our situation is a little different, as I'm totally not afraid to confront him, or speak my mind to him. He's very non-confrontational and never gets mad or yells at me. (Passive-aggressive, he is, but not angry.) He always backs off, and generally stops doing whatever disgusting/annoying thing that pissed me off. For a few days, anyway. :grr:

I'm looking forward to relocating far away from him ASAP, so I definitely know how you feel in that aspect. We should have a thread for "I escaped my annoying roommate!" people once we all get relocated, eh? :)

I had an experience close to yours but it was with my ex boyfriend. I packed my things when he wasn't looking and then left so I could avoid the fight and when I was confronted by him about it I had a knife in my pocket because I left because of a fist fight we had over the remote.

Are you stuck there until next semester? If so, all you can really do now is deal with it and try to make it through. When the time comes around that you are able to move out, sit down with her and explain to her why you are going to find a new place and a new roomie... put it kindly and let her know you are two different people, with different views and and it would be best if you lived apart but tell her you would love to remain friends with her and to keep in touch. You can't stop her from throwing a fit about it, but you have to do what is best for you.

I hope this makes sense to you, haha, I'm very tired.:sleep:

The only problem is...she is one of my best friends. :wall: So, I cannot do that. If things get better, then I will just deal with it. If they don't, then I don't know what I am going to do.

You really need to get the nerve to say something about not wanting to live with her anymore. It will be scary, but worth it. And each time you do something scary like this, the easier it will be in the future. There are things I let go on waaaay too long when I was in college that now I would have just confronted right away. I really suffered from not being more courageous. Now that I am more courageous, life is much easier. But you can't wait until you are not afraid. You gain the confidence by doing things that a very uncomfortable and surviving.

:hug:
Even the best roomate is worse than no roomate at all.
I have had my fair share of crazy ones. Actually, one girl was schizophrenic and went off her med when her boyfriend was gone for 2 weeks on buisness. THAT was scary. But I do think you might want to speak up for yourself, especially if she is one of your best friends. It sounds like she really takes advantage of you!

The only problem is...she is one of my best friends. :wall:
Um, no. Someone as idiotic and abusive as her is NOT a friend.

WHy are you such good friends with her if she's such a nutcase?

if she's behaving this way toward you, she's not your friend, honey.. /hugs you don't deserve to be treated this way. you're beautiful, friendly, amazing, intelligent... amazing..

Here's a trick to use: if she is yelling or just being rude, calmly ask her if she could please not yell/not speak to you that way. If she continues to yell and be rude, just say: "well if you're going to be that way, I am not listening to you then." If she continues to yell, don't respond to her. You'll be standing up to her but still being the bigger person.

I saw my friend use this technique when a woman who worked with us blew a fuse and yelled at us. It worked...and I was impressed at my friend for being so calm!

Anyway good luck with your situation. keep us updated!