Some interesting perspectives...

Three quarters of people think it is fine to sleep with someone on a first date, according to a new survey. Really? We conducted our own study ...

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http://www.guardian.co.uk/g2/story/0,,1687891,00.html#article_continue

I didn't read the article, but personally I don't think it's okay. Sex is personal, private and should be special, shared only with someone you are in love with.

As a teenager, I wouldn't have said no, but as a 28-year-old, if I meet someone I like, I prefer not to have sex for a while - and certainly not on the first date. I think there is a lot to be said for waiting a while. Apart from anything, the sex will be better.

I'm mostly in agreement with Colin here. Aside from the obvious (I ain't 28 anymore...:rolleyes: ), I do think there's something to be said for waiting, and getting to know one another. I like the flirting, the conversation, the becoming enamored with one another, etc. Straight to the business just seems to leave out so much that happens in a relationship, at least in my opinion. I like the innocence of first meeting someone, taking the little steps, like hand-holding, pecks on the cheek, compliments, etc. Getting nakie with someone on the first night you're with them just seems too much for me. Maybe I'm too much a romantic, or too old fashioned (and I don't think I'm old-fashioned at all) but no, gotta pass on the 1st date sex thing.
Sex right off the bat is too much like a 1 night stand. I did that once, and don't want to repeat that embarrassing situation.

It's fine to have sex on a first date if that's what you are both into. I'm not about to do it, though. I want to get to know the person as a person first.

There isn't anything morally wrong with it but it's not my thing.

With the risk of STDs, pregnancy (in the case of hetero couples), and god knows what else today, I don't think that sex on the first date is "wrong" - its just stupid.

I think it's OK if you're just casually dating and you dont really care whether or not the date might lead to a relationship with that person....and you're also willing to wear the consequences of your actions if there are any. But it wouldn't be ok for me to do, I find the whole idea a bit "eewww"

With the risk of STDs, pregnancy (in the case of hetero couples), and god knows what else today, I don't think that sex on the first date is "wrong" - its just stupid.

:yes:

I'd rather poke my eyes out but whatever anyone else wants to do, good for them I suppose.

Back in my day we called that a one-night stand...not a date per se! Hehhehheh.......
Of course I wouldn't advise such a thing now!

That would be a NO for me.

I dunno Michael...you offering? :p

I think it depends on how long you've known the person before the actual date. If you've been friends with someone for awhile, the first date could be months or years into the relationship.

Hookers do it all the time. But then again they get paid for it. :D

Whatever floats your boat.

'should' is a very broad term, isn't it?

i think it's ok, but it has it's risks. it's likely not for me.

i have to agree with the general vibe--fine, but not my thing.

what i am wondering is who took this survey? the artical states that "according to a survey 75% blah blah" but they don't say who was surveyed. I somehow doubt that that is really the case. too bad they don't link to or cite the original research, cause that would totally be awesome.

i have to agree with the general vibe--fine, but not my thing.

what i am wondering is who took this survey? the artical states that "according to a survey 75% blah blah" but they don't say who was surveyed. I somehow doubt that that is really the case. too bad they don't link to or cite the original research, cause that would totally be awesome.

generally when they say this they mean a random phone survey. Meaning phone numbers are selected at random and then they call the homes and have the person the line answer a survery. It is the best way to get scientific data yet still has error. Just about any other form of survey is going to be greatly biased. For example you could consider this post a survery, but everyone here is veg*n, many are environmentally friendly, or however else you want to judge us. This will create a bias in our answer. If you did the same post on a sex forum, you may find many there prefer one night stands.

Because of this a random survey is the only one that might actually get useful data.

yay. So, I'll go ahead and be the slut of the group today, huh?

I agree with whoever said sure if you don't want it to turn into a relationship.

And, I've done it before. One time the guy wouldn't stop calling me and bugging me and he would even show up at my work. That was creepy. Of course, this was in my younger, wilder days.

For where I'm at now in life, it would depend on the situation.

I think it's OK if you're just casually dating and you dont really care whether or not the date might lead to a relationship with that person....and you're also willing to wear the consequences of your actions if there are any. But it wouldn't be ok for me to do, I find the whole idea a bit "eewww"


If a person doesn't want a relationship, or doesn't care if it does...they shouldn't be having sex.

People should do what they want, but avoid things they'd regret.
(duh.)

ebola

generally when they say this they mean a random phone survey. Meaning phone numbers are selected at random and then they call the homes and have the person the line answer a survery. It is the best way to get scientific data yet still has error.



Wow, a phone survery for a topic like this -- I would have never thought.....
I would laugh my butt off if someone called my house and said they were taking a survey and asked me if I agree with sex on the first date! If it was a guy calling me, I would honestly probably think it was one of my guy friends joking around. Too funny! :p

People should do what they want, but avoid things they'd regret.
(duh.)

ebola
Pretty much how I feel. Is the question asking if I'd do it? probably not.
If I care about other people? No. What am I going to do, publicly berate them or wag my finger at them?

I would not recommend having sex on the first date- although I have, that was "different" in my mind, because I had known this person since I was 6 and we were very close friends at that point.
So, the answer is that it depends. That was our first real "date", but we had already known each other forever and were good friends for a few months before it happened. I wouldn't say its a good idea to have sex with someone you hardly know, because it's a very risky thing.

Sex with a stranger seems very odd to me. But, sex is odd, so whatever people, just be safe. :)