I've posted here about my bad experiences living with an omni.

I've posted here about how I'd never date an omni again.

So now I find myself dating and rapidly falling for an omni. Everything is great -- heaps of physical and intellectual attraction, common goals and values, etc.
Except she's an omni.

I'm so confused. :/

I was once told to never say never, because whatever you said you'd never do/say/etc. again, it would be the next thing you find yourself saying/doing.
Perhaps that's the case here, eh? :)
The only question I have is does she appreciate veg*n food? I know you are a man who can cook, so if she's cool in that area, and doesn't rag on you for being veg, I don't see why you shouldn't go for it and be happy. Right? Cook up some yummy food for her, don't go to a steakhouse...and otherwise enjoy the attraction and commonalities.
*shrug*

Oh, and congratulations, Anthony. I'm happy for you, you definitely deserve a lady who will appreciate you. :up:

Don't let a few bad apples spoil the whole bunch for you.

Omnis can be great partners too. My fiance is an omni and he makes me happy. He very accepting of my lifestyle choice and he doesn't force his on me and I don't force mine on him. He actually has ended up eating vegetarian 90% of the time anyway, just because I'm the one who does all the cooking here. He's happy with whatever I put infront of him. He's knows when he's got a good thing going for him ;)

Anthony, I say that the issue is not that she is an omni, it's if you are happy together and if she is respectful of your lifestyle. Don't worry about your declaration. I made one like that too... And now, I'm dating an omni. It's a numbers game. They outnumber us unfortunatly.
And who knows, there is always the possibility you could inspire her to convert? (not by preaching, just by being the shiny, happy good vegexample you are!)

I was once told to never say never, because whatever you said you'd never do/say/etc. again, it would be the next thing you find yourself saying/doing.
Perhaps that's the case here, eh? :)
So it seems.
The only question I have is does she appreciate veg*n food?
Yes, so far she seems to. She was actually the only one from that site who picked up from my profile that I'm vegan, knew what the word means, and how to pronounce it. We've eaten at omni or ovo-lacto restaurants a handful of times and she hasn't ordered meat. Ethiopian, Lebanese, Italian, and a veg Indian place that she really liked, and asked me up front about what she could order so we could share.

She spoke of doing a cleanse so that might factor in, but we haven't discussed the veg thing yet. I've been hanging around so exclusively with vegans that it was kind of jarring when she talked about an angora sweater, and when she wore a jacket with fur trim :/
I know you are a man who can cook, so if she's cool in that area, and doesn't rag on you for being veg, I don't see why you shouldn't go for it and be happy. Right?
I've had some bad experiences living with an omni, but she's the first I've encountered that I think it could actually work with, and I would certainly hope to inspire her to a better lifestyle. She told me that I look 25 (!) and I responded with "Clean Living!", planting a bit of a seed ;)
Oh, and congratulations, Anthony. I'm happy for you, you definitely deserve a lady who will appreciate you. :up:
Thanks! It's all pretty new at this point, but all the signs are promising. mmmmmmmm (*thinks back to Sunday *).

. And now, I'm dating an omni. It's a numbers game. They outnumber us unfortunatly.
Especially when you're >35 :/
And who knows, there is always the possibility you could inspire her to convert? (not by preaching, just by being the shiny, happy good vegexample you are!)
That's what I'm thinking :yes: I've already talked to her a bit about Fast Food Nation and hope for her to read it sometime.

The jacket seems weird (maybe it was fake?) but besides that it sounds like she's worth keeping. Go for it! You never know if you don't go.

Shouldn't be too confusing for you. She sounds really open to the world of veg*nism, so that's very promising. Aside from that, seems that everything is going great. Congrats!

Shouldn't be too confusing for you. She sounds really open to the world of veg*nism, so that's very promising. Aside from that, seems that everything is going great. Congrats!
Thanks. I'd really wished to hook up with a practicing veg*n, but the ones I found either

a) weren't interested
b) were really scary / nuts
c) went incommunicado after things seemed really promising

In this case the lady is really terrific in every other way, and we have real mutual chemistry, but feeling as I do about animals has me really torn.

first of all i'm very happy for you :)

this might not be a good piece of advice, but i'd say that if it's hard for you to take that she's omni, pretend like she's a vegetarian at first. not seriously pretend, but just for yourself and just enough not to think about it all the time. if she's a teriffic person, then you both will work out the diet thing later on, just please don't let it throw you off right now .... pretend it's not there.

first of all i'm very happy for you :)
Thanks. (* crosses fingers that it continues to grow *)
this might not be a good piece of advice, but i'd say that if it's hard for you to take that she's omni, pretend like she's a vegetarian at first. not seriously pretend, but just for yourself and just enough not to think about it all the time. if she's a teriffic person, then you both will work out the diet thing later on, just please don't let it throw you off right now .... pretend it's not there.
That's about what I'm doing. I've met other omnis who I just knew it could never work with, but this one is causing me to re-examine that.

Anthony..... I've been told you're so happy you can't contain yourself. This is just incredibly difficult for me to imagine. I think you're going to be just fine.

Anthony..... I've been told you're so happy you can't contain yourself.
This is true :bobo: :bobo: I hope I'm not dancing prematurely here but we'll see. I know someone else locally who's felt just the same way for some months now ;)
This is just incredibly difficult for me to imagine.
:brood:
I think you're going to be just fine.
:D

I'm glad you found someone who's making you so happy. You really deserve it :)

Anthony, I can't imagine what I would do in your situation (of course, I went veg after I'd already been with Mr. Tess nearly 10 years), but I do think that being with someone supportive, whether they themselves are veg*n or not, is really the key. Mr. Tess doesn't eat meat in the house, and we do great. At the same time, I don't know what I'd do with someone who insisted on buying/wearing fur.

Good luck! :up:

If she makes you happy just go with it.

When I first found out what my boyfriend's family does for a living, and what his source of income is (they raise cows and he helps on the farm to work himself through school) I was tempted to break it off, but almost 4 years later I've relocated to another city to be with him and we couldn't be happier.

If the chemistry and respect is there just go with it, its not perfect but what is?

. I know someone else locally who's felt just the same way for some months now ;)
:D

YAY!! :pibo: :pibo: :pibo: Going on 9 months actually (but then, who's counting!?!?!)

Oh, and congrats Anthony... you KNOW how very, very excited I am for you... I agree with the others, "Never say never" and just go for it...

If things progress, there might be a lot of things you need to discuss and work out in the long run, but I have a feeling, knowing you, you'll be fine!

*sings*

Been Dazed and Confused for so long it's not true.
Wanted a woman, never bargained for you.
Lots of people talk and few of them know,
soul of a woman was created below.

In this case the lady is really terrific in every other way, and we have real mutual chemistry, but feeling as I do about animals has me really torn.

Then I'd say that's something that you will have to bring to the proverbial table, conversation-wise at some point. She needs to know, and you need that opportunity to be honest and express your feelings on the matter. Doesn't have to be right now, but I think you'll feel better and find that the hesitant feelings and second-guessing are waning after you do.
Chances are, from what you've said about her here, that she'll be cool with it and probably be glad that you trust her enough to open up and confide those feelings and thoughts in her.

However, omnivorous diet aside, we've yet to tackle the big question here. That being:
Has she seen 200 Motels??? :D

Been Dazed and Confused for so long it's not true.
Wanted a woman, never bargained for you.
Lots of people talk and few of them know,
soul of a woman was created below.
:D
Ah, but ...
I don't know but I've been told
Big-legged woman ain't got no soul

However, omnivorous diet aside, we've yet to tackle the big question here. That being:
Has she seen 200 Motels??? :D
Yes, truly a litmus test, albeit one I've yet to administer. I suspect that she hasn't, and that the relationship is a bit young yet to screen a flick that begins with Ringo Starr dressed as FZ talking about pu**y and fscking ze girl vith zee harrrrp.

:lol: A legitimate point, indeed.....:)

I don't like to be the bearer of doom and gloom...but I think this just needs to be said.

While a certain amount of compromise is expected in relationships, DON'T date somebody to change them!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think that if you're not comfortable with the fact that she's omni than you better discuss that with her soon and see if that's something she's willing to change. The longer you wait and the more attachments are made, the worse it will be if you two butt heads on this in the long run.

But on a happier note...congrats! Glad you're having a great time with the new lady.

Anthony, congrats! :sunny: :sunny:



I (sorta) know how you feel, as I am with someone whom I think we "click" on every level except he is a rabid meat eater and I'm a vegetarian. He might tease me about my beliefs but he totally respects them.

I think you should avoid grouping "omnis" into one catagory. Sure you had a bad experience, but it happens.

Good luck, and I'm happy for you. :)

She's coming up to my pad for dinner next week. I'm going to make a lettuce-free salad with my personal dressing, Italian wedding soup, and from Bryanna's most excellent Nonna's Italian Kitchen, lasagna (maybe with home-made pasta if I have time). Need to figure out a desert. Fruit I guess - wish cherimoyas were in season. I suspect that the diet thing will come up via the vegan delights with which I'll ply her, and we'll talk it over then.