What do you find to be 'romantic'?

I find it to be romantic when Mr. Meatless does little things for me, or things that he remembers I would like.

For example, he knew I wanted the Candle Cafe cookbook and was considering ordering it online. i got home from work the next night, and there it was on my computer chair. :)

He did the same thing with a couple seasons of a TV show I like... I was trying to scrape together my personal money to buy it, but before I was ready he ran out and bought them for me.

Things that are free too.... like when he anticipates my next move before I do (and hands me a spoon just as I'm about to reach for one), or when he helps me get up when I'm tired.

It really dpends on what stage of a relationship I'm in.

Right now, I've been with the same man for 5 years, we live together. We're past the courting stage by far. Roses and candy don't do much for me these days. Doing the dishes and vacuuming for me is my idea of a romantic gesture :)

Yeah, I guess I should have mentioned that I am in a 7+ year long relationship... although I'm not sure if flowers or candy would have ever done it for me. :)

Being prepared a gourmet vegan meal, complete with candles for the table. Followed by a (for a long term relationships) bubble bath with candles, followed by a long massage with scented oil....ahhh I must be dreaming.

Any point in the relationship:

If he knows what I like ...

..i.e. [We're at the restaurant and I have to use the restroom or for some reason I'm meeting him there - and he has already ordered my favorite drink, appetizer, whatever.]

or [ He stops at the library to get himself a book, but knows who my fav. author is and without asking me comes home with a book I'd like to read, but haven't yet.]

Writing me poetry

Telling me not just that I'm beautiful, but the real reasons that he is in love with me.

Getting tested (STDs)

Active listening

Candles and soft music

Holding me cheek to cheek (dancing)

Looking into my eyes

Closing his eyes when he kisses me

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I agree with you guys.......it's the little things. Like calling on his way home to see if we need anything at the store. Taking out the trash (I hate that job). Meeting me in the garage when I have groceries to carry in. Doing the laundry. Bringing me coffee to wake me up in the morning. Taking my car to get the oil changed, tires rotated or a smog check.

I think expensive flowers are a waste of money but my hubby often comes home with one rose or a small planet or herb he saw at the store when he was checking out and just bought it for me. It's very sweet.

Bringing me coffee to wake me up in the morning.

OOo...coffee in the morning, yes, yes to coffee!

Flowers and candy do it for me no matter how long I'm with someone. :) And I like nice dinners, wine.. candles.

And I love those little moments that aren't supposed to be romantic, but they somehow are.. like eating messy nachos and drinking champagne in bed.

Getting a cute puppy as a gift is romantic too.

^^Agree with all of the above. I find it romantic if my sweetie just remembers the things that I like and does them for me. For example, I admire people with good manners. When my sweetie holds open the door for me or introduces me first in social situations, I find that incredibly sweet and romantic. I appreciate the little things! :smitten:
Oh, we've known each other about 9 years and have dated off and on during that time.

OOo...coffee in the morning, yes, yes to coffee!


Yeah, I want in on the morning coffee too!!! :lick:

Lots and lots of sex.

I'm not "romantic" at all in the traditional sense. The whole flowers and candlelight dinner stuff just seems kind of cliche to me. I'm like some others here though in that I appreciate the little everyday things that show me that he loves me as an individual whom he knows well, not standard gestures that show me that he knows what a generic guy is supposed to do for a generic woman in order to prove that he's romantic.

The sexiest and most romantic thing Chance has done this week is realize hes gotten the last of the towels dirty and putting them in the washer and dryer before I needed a shower. I walked out of the room dismayed that there were not clean towels at his house (again, he'll use dirty towels for weeks if I let him) and he told me to look in the dryer :smitten:

I also like helping around the house, fussing over me when I'm sick, and small thoughtful gifts, like I once mentioned that I really wanted to get sinfully vegan, he had it for me the next time I saw him.

When we first started dating Chance got me a ring custom engraved with the words "love conquers all" in Latin ( a language in which we are both interested) and had me a long box painted w/ the words " we will always have each other, remember love conquers all" also in Latin, then lined the box w/ rose petals, put the ring on the stem of a rose, put the rose in the box and gave me the box w/ a dozen roses at a party he was having in front of all his friends. Thats like ultra romance.

my hubby often comes home with one rose or a small planet or herb he saw at the store when he was checking out and just bought it for me. It's very sweet.
You folks are *really* into your real estate ;)

Lots and lots of sex.
Yore just mockin' me aren't yewww?


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A kiss on the back of my neck, a foot rub, dark chocolate and a whole "date night" planned from beginning to ...er...end.:smoke:

It is a documented fact that the more housework a husband/male partner does, the more sex he gets. So get cleaning!

I would find it romantic if my dude planned a whole fun evening or weekend trip for us without bugging me about the details. And I would find it REALLY romantic if he cleaned out the car beforehand :p

Silly, but true!

I can't think of anything specific, but I just like the little things a guy does that shows that he knows me and/or thinks I'm special. Like when I hadn't seen my special someone in a long time (long-distance thing) we met at the bus station. Instead of doing the public kissing thing, he brought my hand to his lips and kissed it *swoons* I think that is sooo cute and romantic.

and other little things, like when I visited him in the US and he had bought me vegetarian corndogs (I can't find any in Canada) and that night he went downstairs and microwaved a bunch for me and brought them up to me on a plate to eat....mmmm. That was really cute. Making me food is the way to win my heart :smitten:

On the other hand, the super romantic things kinda freak me out...someone surprised me with dozens of lit candles and really sappy music for us to dance to in my dorm room last year, and it just made me uncomfortable. I guess the serious type of romance is just not for me.

Me either. A friend of mine once gushed to me that her guy had led her into the bedroom and the bed was covered in rose petals. That would do NOTHING for me at all.

I would be thinking about cleaning it up the whole time.

I think having a special evening all planned out for a birthday, anniversary, or other occasion, without my knowing a thing about it or having to plan it myself, would be incredibly romantic. Not that that's ever happened to me. *sigh*

Random surprises can be incredibly romantic, but they can also backfire. You've got to know the surprisee's moods well and time it right.

I would be blown away if I came home from work on a random weekday, tired and cranky, to an unexpected candlelight dinner with soft music and roses, and a massage later. *melts* O god, that would be so awesome. Of course, that requires that he plan all this despite being tired and cranky himself. Therein lies the romantic part...that he DID THIS for me even though it was a pain. But it doesn't necessarily have to be a lot of work. The dinner could be takeout, and it would still be great!

Oops, my post got delayed and I missed some in-between stuff. Yeah, the thing about surprises is in addition being timed right, you have to pretty confident about what the surprisee would like. I think candles, flowers and music would be great. I have no idea how I would feel about a bed strewn with rose petals, but it's possible the smell might give me a headache! Migraines /= romance.

- dancing in the kitchen while making dinner together
- watching my man sleep with our newborn, also sleeping, on his chest
- doing household chores (getting oil changed in car, changing lightbulbs, etc) without having to say one word
- romantic comedy DVD with popcorn after the kids went to bed
- single red rose for no particular reason
- allowing me one day with no interruptions from work/kids to do as I want to

I'm a HOPELESS romantic - a LOT of things do it for me... Holding my hand while he drives, kissing me in public (OK, without freaking out the other people around us - heehee), knowing the exact sort of tea I like - and ordering it for me, helping with housework definitely, and just being observant about little unasked-for-but-appreciated things I might need/want/like (if that makes sense).
Complimenting me even on my worst days, holding my face in his hands :swoon:, teasing me, cooking for me, reading to me, putting gas in my car for me, stocking the freezer with my favorite flavor of Soy Dream, watching TV by candlelight, sitting through a movie with me, even if he's already seen it ...I'm with Poppy on the good manners thing too, I love that :smitten: and even the whole "flowers, chocolate and candlelight" is nice on occasion, depending on the situation...

Whew! :sweat: is it warm in here?