My friend Kristy has this annoying habit of letting people get away with things.

This boy punched her HARD on her birthday, she ended up with a huge flipping bruise that her mom got angry at (of course).
I asked her why she didn't stop him (he did it 15 times!) and she said "Well, he's my friend. I had to take it."

There's this tall girl with a deep voice that everyone at school (basically) makes fun of. Kristy and her guy friends go to the same place after school as her; her friends throw and shout things at her, and Kristy ends up getting the dirty looks. I ask her again why she didn't stop them. "They're guys! I'm the only girl there, it's not as if I can do anything! Besides, I'm not doing anything bad."

GRRR RAWR. She's constantly getting touched by boys too. She thinks it makes her cool or something to not say no. ROAR.

I'm sorry, I'm not asking for advice or anything. I just needed to RANT.







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I have a friend that kind of annoys me when any guy comes along. She has a boyfriend who cheats on her and she just takes it, but I can't really say anything about it because she flirts with other guys too. She like competes with me when guys are around us, even though I'm not even interested in them, she just wants all the attention, which is completely ok, but I hate the way she kind of puts herself out there like that. Alot of our mutual guy friends come to me and tell me shes annoying, that she calls them too much, or that they just don't like her, and what am I suppose to say? One time I tried talking to her about it because the guy called me and told me he asked her to quit calling but she continued to, and asked me to tell her to stop. When I asked her about it she said "oh it was by accident...blah blah blah" Sometimes there's nothing you can do.

I know what ya'll mean. I have a friend who occasionally makes out with random guys. the most recent one she likes, but when we ask her why she doesn't go out with him she says, 'he'll just cheat on me'. gee, ya think?

yay ranting

I think maybe you need to talk to an adult about your concerns. Like your school consellor or teacher. Punching, unwanted touching, etc. are all criminal activities that your friend should not have to put up with. When adults do these things to each other they get hauled off an put in jail. I assume she is a minor, please tell an adult what's going on. She may not be mature or brave enough to fight this herself, and she shouldn't have to. You can ask the adult to not let anyone know you were the one who told. I honestly think that if you are a good friend you will do this to help her. Her lack of self-esteem also hints that she may have been or may be the victim of abuse.