my relationship problem is I have no relationship.

help.

Why do you need a relationship? I'm not being a smart rs here. Very often, the reasons we want a relationship are the very reasons we don't have one.

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lucky you...

there are worse things. Just stay your beautiful self and don't worry about it, and I'm sure that stat will change.

Are you asking for volunteers? I'm taken. Sorry. I guess I am no help. :think:

Well, anyway, I presume that if you stop complaining about being single and instead decide to be cool with it, someone will probably come along. That is the way it tends to happen, lol. Makes it damn difficult though...

Let me tell u a secret word I learnt yesterday... it's called "impermanance" .... nothing's here to stay... your life situation will change because nothing in this world is permanant.. So enjoy your life situation right now just the way it is! :bobo:

Well don't I have a way of putting a stop to a good conversation! :wall:

No, we are just drooling over Kurk Cobain.:p

well, i think once you are fine with being by yourself someone will come along
i have found when you "want" a relationship just for the sake of being in one that you often settle for someone that is not ideal for you, so go with the flow and be comfortable with yourself and the perfect someone will come into your life :)

Someone will come along. And time will be worth the wait. You have a life to live first.. fulfill it!

No, we are just drooling over Kurk Cobain.:p

Yep :hump:

so go with the flow and be comfortable with yourself and the perfect someone will come into your life :)


or put up an ad-thread like me
:lol:

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Mysterious Poet, I have always thought you were a lot like me, & I have Borderline Personality Disorder, which makes relationships very hard.
Borderlines are emotionally needy, & also draining on others (-my psychologist told me this this morning).
Neediness repels most normal people.
I still have this issue myself. I am lucky enough to have a bf & a few male friends, but women LOATHE me, probably because of the attention-seeking behaviour I (& *you*) display.
I have seen you called attention-seeking in a Compost Heap thread, & I agree (as a fellow attention-seeker).
Believe me, attention is not the answer to attention-seeking!!
I am a radio announcer & get tons of attention, my bf is devoted, & yet I still feel lonely & desperate.
That's because this is mental illness, not a healthy need.
I sense your feelings are not normal either. I hope you are not offended by this. Normal, non-borderline people don't make extremely controversial posts all the time and situate themselves to get negative feedback, or proclaim their loneliness.
If you want to talk, pm me. I hope you do not take this as an insult. I also hope you are maybe able to get some rl help.

I don't loathe you, organica!:smitten:

Wow, I just noticed mysteriouspoet has used a quote from me for her sig. Neat. My angst = her amusement (or something).

Aww Ludi, you are sweet, but in rl (I should have said) woman find me intolerable!!
You are just a sweetheart!! :)
btw I'm not seeking attention right now, lol, so I hope the thread can be mostly about mysterious poet, who I think is very lonely.

or put up an ad-thread like me
:lol:

:cry:

Omg, lmao! That was funny!:D

Wow, I just noticed mysteriouspoet has used a quote from me for her sig. Neat. My angst = her amusement (or something).

Ludi, I noticed this a few days ago. I was going to send you a pm about it, but I thought you knew.

That is MP for ya.:rolleyes:

One of the reasons she might be lonely is because she does things like put other people's spiritual crises as her signature. We've fussed at each other, and I notice she fusses at a lot of people here. Maybe she doesn't fuss as much in real life...I don't know.

I'd like to be encouraging and helpful, mysteriouspoet, but, sort of don't have anything helpful to say...besides, I guess you kind of despise me or something....

What's wrong with using what you said as my sig? other people do it all the time.

I chose it because it drives home an important point.

What's wrong with using what you said as my sig? other people do it all the time.

I chose it because it drives home an important point.

Becuase you stoled it from her.

Becuase you stoled it from her.

Other people do it as well, in case you hadn't noticed. I chose it because it demonstrates a reason to become vegetarian--because you acknowledge that other animals are sentient beings, not to be eaten. This quote shows someone teetering on the edge of discovering right from wrong, never quite making the full leap. It's poignant, and that's why I chose it.

Other people do it as well, in case you hadn't noticed. I chose it because it demonstrates a reason to become vegetarian--because you acknowledge that other animals are sentient beings, not to be eaten. This quote shows someone teetering on the edge of discovering right from wrong, never quite making the full leap. It's poignant, and that's why I chose it.

That is fine and dandy, but she just found out about it. She was not happy about it. That is all I was saying.

What's wrong with using what you said as my sig? other people do it all the time.




It demonstrates a lack of sensitivity toward another person's troubling personal issues and dilemmas. This lack of sensitivity toward what potentially might hurt another person's feelings might be one of the reasons you aren't in a relationship. Do you see the connection?