I've been feeling rather lonely lately. I can't help it. I am on the otherside of the country from my girlfriend, friends, and family. Moving out here was my choice and most of the time I am glad I did but it is hard being in a new place all alone with no friends. Some nights I get frustrated and occasionally I cry. Right now is better than earlier in the week. I just can't wait til I am home with my girlfriend again.

I don't really have a point to my thread I just wanted to get some feelings out and get some support.

hey man

*manly hug*

when are you actually gonna be with her again?
keep strong

I get a two week break from school in December. I just started grad school and she is in her last year of undergrad. So I'll be with her that whole two weeks. At leats its a lot closer to December than it once was.

oh ok

well i hope that you all are in contact still till then. that should ease the pain of course, knowing that you are both looking forward to reuniting in December.

good luck

I know exactly how you feel, bigdufstuff. My boyfriend is at school in Scotland and here I am in Halifax (canada)... which is way too far away. I haven't gotten to see him since may, but he'll be back for a month in december/january. I haven't made much in the way of friends here since I just transfered schools, though I'm only here for year. It's kinda lonely, but I'll get through it and I'm sure you will too. Just gotta have patience and tough it out.

I know exactly how you feel, bigdufstuff. My boyfriend is at school in Scotland and here I am in Halifax (canada)... which is way too far away. I haven't gotten to see him since may, but he'll be back for a month in december/january. I haven't made much in the way of friends here since I just transfered schools, though I'm only here for year. It's kinda lonely, but I'll get through it and I'm sure you will too. Just gotta have patience and tough it out.

Wow, you have it even harder thant I do! I know I'll get through it. I don't doubt that. And I know our relationship won't have any problems. Our relationship is very strong and stable. You are right about the patience part. Its just weird to go from everyday together to only being able to talk on the phone, and with the time difference it makes it even harder.

Thanks for the words though :)

I've been feeling rather lonely lately. I can't help it. I am on the otherside of the country from my girlfriend, friends, and family. Moving out here was my choice and most of the time I am glad I did but it is hard being in a new place all alone with no friends. Some nights I get frustrated and occasionally I cry. Right now is better than earlier in the week. I just can't wait til I am home with my girlfriend again.

I don't really have a point to my thread I just wanted to get some feelings out and get some support.

*hugs* Long distance relationships can be really hard, especially if you've moved away from your friends and family too. I'm sure you'll make some new friends soon though, and that will help take your mind off things and keep you busy! Remember your girlfriend is still there for you, even though she's not actually there in person, and this isn't a permanent thing. I think you'll be surprised how fast the time goes before you see her again.

I'm also feeling really lonely at the moment. I'm single though, and with xmas coming up the thought of spending it alone again scares me. I'm worried it'll rake up bad memories from last xmas when i was alone, and, in general, it's just an awful time to feel lonely.

Wow. You guys give me encouragement, to be sure!!

Here I am feeling miserable that I won't get to see my sweetie for another 8 weeks and wishing desperately that I could irresponsibly drop all my work, school and parental duties and just hop the next plane to see him, NOW!!

I'm surrounded by family and friends but even so, there's an awful big spot in my heart that remains very, very empty when I'm not with him...

I feel for you guys, I really do... and am sending you lots of sympathy, good thoughts and hugs... the long distance thing IS tough... but do-able, too...

Bigdufstuff; It's ok if you think there's "no point" to your thread.... venting, expressing your feelings, getting support and sympathy - all of those are perfectly valid reasons for starting a thread - and there's plenty of us in long distance relationships here, who can totally relate...

Good luck.

Thanks everyone for the replies. It helps to know there are others that know how I feel.

And of course thanks for the hugs. Hug back to everyone!

:hug:

I think many people get lonely. I understand the stress of starting grad school in a new area away from all those you care about. I moved to NY a good 2.5 years ago for grad school and still fine that it is a very lonely world.

I found that my school work really helped me get through it--just reading a lot and the other "busy body" stuff that goes into the first year. Finding some hobbies to enjoy, make some friends, enjoy the new town might also help you with feeling lonely. But hopefully things are well in your relationship and your sweetie and you can be closer together after she finished up her undergrad stuff.

wow... this is exactly what i am afraid is going to happen to my boyfriend and i next year...
if all goes as planned, i will be moving across the country for school (from ontario to vancouver)... and he's not going anywhere that soon...
so, it seems i will be in a similar situation to you bigdufstuff... :(
if there's one thing i really hate, and have a hard time handling it's loneliness and i just know that that's what's going to happen next year...
it makes me sort of want to rethink my future, but then, on the other hand, i have been sure for so long about what i want...
should i be letting love stand in the way?
for now... i just keep trying to tell myself to treasure and enjoy the time we have together, and not worry about where i'm gonna go and what i'm gonna do until the time comes...
it's hard though.. and i definitely sympathize for you all...
i'm not looking forward to that part of my freedom very much at all...

wow... this is exactly what i am afraid is going to happen to my boyfriend and i next year...
if all goes as planned, i will be moving across the country for school (from ontario to vancouver)... and he's not going anywhere that soon...
so, it seems i will be in a similar situation to you bigdufstuff... :(
if there's one thing i really hate, and have a hard time handling it's loneliness and i just know that that's what's going to happen next year...
it makes me sort of want to rethink my future, but then, on the other hand, i have been sure for so long about what i want...
should i be letting love stand in the way?
for now... i just keep trying to tell myself to treasure and enjoy the time we have together, and not worry about where i'm gonna go and what i'm gonna do until the time comes...
it's hard though.. and i definitely sympathize for you all...
i'm not looking forward to that part of my freedom very much at all...


If you want to go to grad school do it! It is such a good oppurtunity to continue learning. One thing you can do is apply to grad schools and then defer for a year. All schools let you do this. So you won't need to reapply next year. Then you could move out together. Also this way you can reapply the following year if you change your mind on what school you want.

in the grand scheme of things 1 year isn't that long and if you can handle 1 year apart you should probably do it, so you can get your degree sooner than later.

Hugs, that must be hard. Being lonely can suck. At least you got us for now.:love: