So here's the deal. I really used to like this guy who I got sorta close with, as friends. We used to talk a lot and stuff like that and it seemed like there was potential for more. Then I noticed him being more distant all of a sudden and now it seems like he's dating this other girl. Ok fine. Thats his perogative tho it still kinda hurts to see them together. To make a long story short, now there's this local fashion show going on and I auditioned for it, and then I ran into to "his girl." So I asked if she was gonna do it too, and in a very somewhat snobby way she stated that "there's no way she would do something like that." As if modeling in a fashion show was beneath her, I guess. Ok. FINE. But then, I see "him" go and audition and who should creep him after him to audition... she did. This was like literally 30 min. after she turned her nose up at it. So, we all end up getting picked for the show - fun, fun. So, now, I not only have to deal with seeing them occasionally but ALSO I have to see them together at every practice. grrreat. Help!! How can I deal with this and keep my pride and sanity. It should also be noted that she doesn't know that I kinda like him but maybe she knew we used to have a mildly close friendship. I mean, I'm friends with her too, and would never try to break them up or anything crazy like that... but its just hard.

Sounds like she's insecure. But he's a better friend to you than she is? Wait, but he became distant just before he started dating her? Hmm... In order to get along with both of them, you might need the technique of talking with her more and him only when she's with him. Which, since she's attached to his hip, shouldn't be too bad. And avoid little jokes and references to times when you and he spent quality time together. He'll get the picture that you can all be friends together, and once she understands you're a true friend (you did say you don't want to break them up, right?!) and she (hopefully) becomes a little more secure with herself and her relationship, it shouldn't be a big deal to be in the show with both of them.

Good luck, though! And have fun with the fashion show. I did several local shows when I was in my teens and they were a blast. Enjoy. Don't let them rain on your parade. :)

Oh yeah - I'm sure I'll have fun with the show, but its hard cause I still kinda like him. :( But no, I definitely don't wanna be one of those "homewrecker" types and try to break them up. Its just hard seeing them together... all the time. But I like your idea. Maybe I'll talk to her more and try to be better friends with her so maybe it won't be so bad, y'know. But together is a whole different ordeal. Everytime I see them, I just wanna bolt the other way. So my main mindset has been AVOOID, AVOID, AVOID. But I know I eventually have to stop so, yeah. thanks. :-P

Maybe you should just ignore whatever comments they make and just keep to yourself a bit. Don't let on that you like him. Not sure what to tell you...there is nothing worse than when the line between friend and lover is blurred...especially when there are 3 people involved. :) Good luck!

breathe deeply. spend some time meditating or centering yourself. this will help you work through your feeligns when you're not around them.

when you are around them, go back to this center of who you are. that place is pure, open, and very honest and real. From this place, you can speak from self knowledge and with wisdom and compassion during the situation.

this will help you manage and move through your feeligns and any difficult situatiosnt hat may arise.

Well, they don't make any comments or say anything mean or anything like that. Not at all. And I've definitely haven't been letting on that I like him these days (unless avoiding him counts, lol). So, keeping to myself will be pretty easy. Its just I keep running into him or her. Oy ve!

breathe deeply. spend some time meditating or centering yourself. this will help you work through your feeligns when you're not around them.

when you are around them, go back to this center of who you are. that place is pure, open, and very honest and real. From this place, you can speak from self knowledge and with wisdom and compassion during the situation.

this will help you manage and move through your feeligns and any difficult situatiosnt hat may arise.

Thanks zoe! I don't do much meditation usually but I do pray, and that does work. Its true. You have be at an honest, and truly secure place in order to deal and manage your feelings around "certain people", with wisdom and openness. So yeah, thank goodness I have faith in God. I'll try medtating on scripture and positive thoughts too.

try simply stilling your mind first. this process will lead to deeper contemplation later.

to still the mind, you may want to focus on an image of God that you value or find appropriate. simply gaze at it. if you find your mind wandering, just accept it and move back to gazing at the image. this will develop a meditation practice.

meditation is a spiritual discipline that can be applied to any religion. there isn't anything to fear, nothing can enter your mind (like demons or spirits like some people say) and nothing can manipulate you. meditation is a process of stilling the mind, not emptying it or opening it to anything. It's simply stilling so that you can go to the heart of yourself, GOd within.

Ok? try that.

Um...not to be ignorant or anything, but I'm just not "spiritual" in that sense and don't really have the desire to be. Especially since that conflicts with my own beliefs slightly. But I do deeply thank you for even commenting - I do appreciate it. :) I just wanted to know if anybody has ever been thru this and what did they do to survive it. :-P

I'm sure I'll be fine in the long run, emotionally and everything. Its just an icky situation, y'know.

I've never been able to meditate completely because I cannot seem to fully relax, but it is something that you should not look upon as being "weird" or "different". For example, have you ever take in a deep, deep breath and clear your mind when something makes you upset? It is kind of like doing that, but it lasts longer and really can physiologically calm you.

My type of meditation has nothing to do with anything spiritual, it is simply a way of calming myself. And that is beneficial in any aggrevating situation.

You should WORK!

cover girl!

WORK IT GIRRRRL...

:lol: I couldn't resist. I have no advice to you other than to have fun. If those two being there bring you down, fughetabout 'em. Just have fun rockin' the runway. :D

:nigel: Cheers.

LOL, thanks Pseudo!!!!

I really needed that. I have practice tongiht. :p

I'm gonna just have fun with it and not bother with them. :pibo:

I mean that most males I know would only do it to meet girls and this guy has one - NOT. She is in this thing because she doesn't trust him, imo. I admit, I am the sour grapes - didn't want that ol' thing anyway - kindof person.

There's a couple of guys in the fasion show. Men can model too, y'know. lol. Even tho I think someone suckered "him" into doing it (he's really cute - looks a little like Justin Timberlake when he had the buzz cut,... but better. I loathe pop icons). And "she" just followed suit, I think.

I forgot to tell you to have fun! You're a model! YAY! :D :pibo:

Thanks CK for both your comments. Even tho, I'm not a real model, or anything like that. I'm only 5"3 so its kinda not possible. :-P

I'm more of a model-in-training, lol.

UPDATE!!

My last practice went great!!! I decided to just have fun and WORK, like pseudo said, lol, and it went very well. Cause the thing was, we had to practice our runway walk and everybody else got to critique it (including "him" and "her"). But when I walked, I surprisingly got nothing but good comments and the guy thats heading up the whole show even said I was a natural ***swoon***. As a matter of fact, I think I was one of the few if not the ONLY person who got all good reviews on my walk. So, for me, it was like "HA! see what you missed."

I mean, it still hurts to see them together cause I sooo think she tries to flaunt it in front of me (and she like hawk eyes him anytime he's around me and I don't even make small talk with him anymore, like at ALL. I just avoid him now), but whatever. I'm making some progress with getting over it. I even have a new crush :D But goodness, I hope he doesn't have a gf too! lol :-P

WHy isn't anyone posting about this??? lol :) Am I the only one who's ever been thru it? FYI - Its an ongoing situation and I kinda get the feeling that he may miss our friendship a little (I know I do), but "she" is always there and she has this smug smile everytime I see her. Not to downgrade her tho - she really is a nice, and beautiful girl but... I don't know. maybe I'm not at liberty to say anything much about her since I don't "really" know her or her situation. but anyway. thats how it goes. and no word on the other crush either. :-P

Um...not to be ignorant or anything, but I'm just not "spiritual" in that sense and don't really have the desire to be. Especially since that conflicts with my own beliefs slightly. But I do deeply thank you for even commenting - I do appreciate it. :) I just wanted to know if anybody has ever been thru this and what did they do to survive it. :-P

I'm sure I'll be fine in the long run, emotionally and everything. Its just an icky situation, y'know.


in one breath, you say thank goodness that yuo have faith in god. in the next breath, you say that you're not spiritual. it doesn't make a lot of sense.

but, whta CK said--it's meant to make you better able to understand yourself, regardless of your spirituality.

no, you're not the only person who has gone through this.

i'm glad that your last practice went well too.

in one breath, you say thank goodness that yuo have faith in god. in the next breath, you say that you're not spiritual. it doesn't make a lot of sense.

but, whta CK said--it's meant to make you better able to understand yourself, regardless of your spirituality.

Thats because I don't consider myself religious - I just have a loving, relationship with God. Meaning my moral values/beliefs are based upon His Word (the Bible) and His love for me and mine for Him. So, I'm not really into the yoga or buddhist-inspired spiritual practices, is what I mean. I do pray, meditate on scripture, and am an active member of a non-denominational church, however. :D I think I just needed to vent and talk to others for encouragement.

no, you're not the only person who has gone through this.

i'm glad that your last practice went well too.

Thanks :)