I'm frustrated.

I guess my dad and Ann are tight on money right now, because they've been pretty mean lately.

Ann and I got in the stupidest fight ever. Well, not really, because she's the queen of bitching about stupid things. But whatever.

I've been sick since Thursday. Like, barely being able to stand up sick. I had to call in sick to work twice which caused the first little issue with my dad. Work wanted me to get a note from a doctor saying I was really sick, but I don't have any money and neither does my dad. So I told him I needed to go to a docter, he said we don't have a docter, I said I need to go to any docter, he says I have to pay for it, I say I don't have any money, he yells at me, I yell at him saying it's not that much to ask for him to be a father once in a while. I really don't ask that much from them. We all keep to ourselves and barely ever talk to eachother or anything. We all hate eachother quite frankly, because we're all a bunch of selfish pricks. Anyway.

Today I fried up some vegetables. Because I'm hungry. And I haven't done my dishes in a while because I've been sick. I can barely cook my own food you think it wouldn't be that much to ask to put off doing two pots for a few days. My step mom makes a big deal out of it. I was eating out of the pan so I wouldn't have to use a bowl. She comes in and yells at me and tries to take my food. I was holding on to it as hard as I could (was hoping she'd burn herself on the metal) so of course it ended up going all over the place. So I have couliflower and carrots all over my room. I slam my door, she barges in again of course, calls me a stupid bitch, blahdeblah, says tons of nice stuff. Whatever.

The thing is, what's anoying is this is like her coping mechanism. Those two pots were NOT a big deal. The kitchen is filthy. The sink's full of dishes, none of which are mine except the pots, although she probably decided they were all mine irregardless. There's food and coffee all over the kitchen, it's a ****ing pen, and none of that crap's my fault. Two pots wasn't the problem. But whenever she gets stressed out she takes it out on me.

I'm just so sick of this.

I don't turn 18 until December. I'm doing my best to be able to move out by January, although that's going to be a bit harder now because I'm probably going to get fired for not having that note. I'll probably aim for December now though, the reason I wasn't is because my birthday's 11 days before Christmas and that's the only time we pretend to like eachother. Thought it would be mean to move out 3 days before Christmas or whatever.

I've already cut my biological mom out of my life(and I'm a lot happier for it). They're getting snipped too, thank god, but there's nothing I can do about it right now and I'm just so frigging sick of it.

I don't know if I even have any good reason to whine. They're verbally abusive and neglectful or whatever, but I think I'm really just being a brat. I just know that this isn't how I want to live.

I thought I'd write about it because I just need to put off finding a way to cope. I'm trying to stop cutting myself but they've always been my biggest trigger. I really want to stop. So I'm sure I won't do it, but I don't have any other coping skills either. Luckilly I'm getting the hell out of this house in less than an hour.

So irritated...

Sounds like you're winding each other up. I wouldn't try to find out who is right or wrong in this kind of situation but just temporarily step out of it, until you feel a little better.

I suggest you try to stay with a friend for a few weeks, let things cool off. Is there anyone who could lend you some money, or take you to a social clinic of some sort ?(we have that here, they charge a bare minimum).

That's my best suggestion. I hope you can work something out. Don't be too hard on yourself or anyone else. Most of us are just trying to do the best we can with the capacities God gave us, you know.

Hugs !

Yeah that sounds like abuse/negligence to me....they should not be a)swearing at you, b) taking away your food for no reason, or c)not taking care of you when you are sick.

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I don't have much to suggest other than what missbelgium said. I don't see how you are being a brat. You're in a bad situation. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be treated with respect.

I hope things work out for you:hug:

It doesn't seem fair that you would be fired for not having a doctor's note and missing only 2 days of work. Don't they give you any benefit/sick time? I know you can barely take care of yourself while you're sick, much less go to work, but maybe if you called your boss and explained things in detail they'd go easy on you.

Good luck. I'm also hoping things work out for you. :hug:

you can always go to free clinics and emergency rooms. there is always medical care, even when there isn't money.

sorry to hear it. my stepmom is super mean too. well, invest a bit of money in multivitamins, try to get along with Her as much as possible, and don't worry about it.

you can always go to free clinics and emergency rooms. there is always medical care, even when there isn't money.
Yes, Sokara, go to the health clinic or a free clinic. You can get medical attention even if you don't have the money. Get that note so you can keep your job, and get out of your situation. I've been in a similar situation and I know how frustrating and hurtful it is. I'd also start searching around for another job, if they are not going to be flexible with you.

That sounds like abuse to me. I don't know if it helps to hear it or not, but my folks were horribly abusive when I was a kid too; I was scolded for things like being ugly, hurting myself, being sick, shivering when cold, showing emotion, etc. You sound like I did back then. It turns out that my mom is a truly beautiful human being who was in a bad situation herself, and dad has a good heart but he just never grew up and can't help himself.

You'll feel better about it if you can make yourself understand that they might not be able to treat you any differently because they're up to their necks in their own sh**. Try to forgive them, and forgive yourself for whatever you've done and/or are doing (takes years start now). In the meantime, bite your tongue until you can leave, and get the hell out of there ASAP.

I would get out of there soon. People with personalities like that can strike out at any time. I wouldn't worry about your job too much. Are you going to college? If you become a ward of the state before you turn 18, I'm fairly sure they'll pay for college for you. At least, that's how it worked out for my friend. You should get lots of loan money in either case.

If you need to find a new job, I would consider getting one where they are understanding of your family needs. Policies like that (the doctors note) are so crappy because they totally forget people without insurance. If you can, tell your boss "Hey, I don't have insurance, so I don't have the note. Things are going pretty bad at home, to the point where I'm seriously considering divorcing my parents."

I find it kind of appalling that your father and step-mother are not taking care of you when you are ill. It's awful he wouldn't pay for your doctor. Why did you step-mom try and take your food? Shouldn't she be cooking for you if you are ill? Yes, just as you should cook for her if she is ill. I don't think you're being whiny at all. Sounds like an awful situation.

Thanks for the replies everyone. I don't feel too much like talking about it right now (heh) but I do appreciate the advice and support.

It looks like I'll be fine with my job. One of my managers asked for a note, I said I didn't have one and she didn't take it further than that. I don't know if that's because she's not in charge of that or something but I think it'll be okay. They are typically really reluctant to fire people, it's not easy to find people who want to be telemarketers, and I was probably just freaking out. (By the way, my job does have really great benefits, but I don't qualify for them yet since I haven't been working there long enough, I don't work enough hours, and I'm not 18... But I'll be taking advantage of them once I am. :) )

Also, where do you find those clinics? I knew there were ones that are a lot cheaper but I didn't know how to find them. I figured my dad would know about them, but I guess not. I definitely need to know about them in the future. (I've practically never been to a doctors for anything, and I think I need to start at least seeing a gyno anyway, not that I'm going to ask my parents about that one :lol: ).

Sounds like verbal abuse to me. I still can't believe it when I hear a parent or step parent call the child a "bitch". I know it happends all the time, but, I see no excuse for it. I feel so sorry for you and hope you feel better and find a support system in you'r life,maybe somone else you can live with. My prayers go out to you.
Hugs,
Alene

definitely sounds like verbal abuse to me. Plus, if you're not even of legal age yet, and they're refusing to provide healthcare unless YOU (a dependent) pay for it, that sounds like negligence to me. That sounds like a really tough situation, and you have all the right to feel upset about it...it's not whining when you're being mistreated...Do you have any other relatives or close friends?

Also, where do you find those clinics? I knew there were ones that are a lot cheaper but I didn't know how to find them. I figured my dad would know about them, but I guess not. I definitely need to know about them in the future. (I've practically never been to a doctors for anything, and I think I need to start at least seeing a gyno anyway, not that I'm going to ask my parents about that one :lol: ).

That's good that your boss let it slide about the note. If it does come up again be honest, explain that you don't have health insurance so you were not able to see a doctor. They will probably understand.

As for a doctor you can find one in a number of places. Try your phone book...the governmental services section. There should actually be lots of numbers there to help you. You could also go to your states official web site. there should be links to health an social service information there. As well as Women's health programs. And yes, at 18 you should see a gyno.

You might want to contact social services now before you move out for good. They will be able to give you resources for when you are out on your own. And a social worker could be there for you to talk to when you get stressed out. and it won't cost you any money.

Just because your parents didn't turn out to be there for you doesn't mean you have to go out totally on your own. There are people who want to help people your age get off to a good start. You just have to find them!

But I wouldn't recommend cutting your parents out totally. You might not want to live with them anymore. (and it sounds as if you might be better off with that distance between you for now.)
but don't sware to never speak to them agian. at least not right away. If your parents are having a hard time now, they might not be doing the best job they could. But with distance and time they might be there for you down the road. Don't sever the relationship totally until you know you have to.

I can't pass my opinion until I hear their side of it. At your age, I find that families don't get along on either side and both sides make a lot of mistakes.