argument about future children

[Bits]

my meat eater bf & i recently got engaged & are hoping to get married next year, anyway,we're hoping to start a family as soon as we're married, we were discussing how children are raised etc. and i said i would like to bring our children up on a vegetarian diet until they were old enough to decide if they wanted to eat meat or not (my cousin and her meat eater hubby are doing this & it's working out fine) but my bf said he would want them to eat meat:grr:
he knows the health benefits of a veg diet but i think he's saying no because of his traditional 'meat & veg' family. anyway, i was just wondering what you think i should do, i feel miffed that he's against it:( (he has said he wanted veg kids in the past) it's frustrating seeing as i cook all the food & do all the shopping (he eats mainly vegetarian stuff because it's easier when i'm cooking)i'm determined to get my own way on this one & i can see it being a bit of a problem if it doesn't get resolved sooner rather than later :yes:
so yea, theres the problem, just wondering what you all think :confused:

[mysteriouspoet]

I really don't think there's room for compromise on this issue. If you want them to be vegetarian, and he insists that they eat meat, and he won't agree no matter what...well...we know where this goes. :(

[Thalia]

Well there is compromise about what kind of meat, how much, at what age, and what situations. Or only if he cooks it and washes the meaty dishes. Or compromise that they eat veg but they must get regular labs and check ups or that you must use a food diary to track their nutrients against the govt. recommendations for children.

It's good that you are discussing this now. Do you think there are other things you haven't thought of until now to discuss?

There are a lot of books out there that are just lists of questions to discuss before marriage about things like money, children, values, etc. For example:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1585420042/qid=1125590039/sr=8-1/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-2599083-3581533?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

[Noelson]

My best friend raised her daughter vegetarian. Her b/f was vegetarian but they split and her other b/f was not - eventually her daughter ate meat when she was old enough to make her own decisions. I can tell you that her daughter at about 4 years old tried to convince me to let her eat chicken saying her mom said it was OK (didn't work) so there was always that struggle when she was younger. I think in your case it will be difficult. I wish you luck!

[freebird]

I recently got married and my husband eats meat (although, I'm happy to say, he's eating meat less and less after doing research--he says it's not as appealing anymore :D )...

Our agreement is exactly what you are saying...our children will be raised vegetarian until they are old enough to understand what meat is and base their decision on that. He understands that I have a moral objection to eating meat, whereas he has no moral objection to vegetarianism. Because he understands the fact that it's something I feel very strongly about, and something he doesn't feel strongly against, it's something he's compromised with me on. Does that make sense? Sometimes I ramble.