so I love my boyfriend very very much, and i didn't used to mind that he ate meat very much...but now it bothers me more because I realize that he eats so much of it.

the thing that bothers me most is that he always orders a hamburger at restaurants...which i wouldnt mind TOO much if he got something healthy on it...but he gets it PLAIN with nothing on it...and he hates ketchup (used to be allergic to tomatoes)

he hates salad. what should i do? i want him to eat healthier because i don't think he eats enough healthy foods. but i also dont want to be bossy or get him mad at me. i just want him to enjoy some healthy foods besides hamburgers with no veggies and pasta with just butter.

Talk to him about this.

I would suggest bringing up your concern for his health.

Ask him if his diet concerns him.

And remember, he is his own human being, and he can make his own choices. (No matter how wrong those choices seem to us!)

Convince him to go with you to a veg*n restaurant next time you're out, then he won't have much choice but to order something that's good for him, and he can see that food can taste good when it's meatless. That's what I do with the guys I date. Hopefully he'll be open-minded enough to at least TRY other things. Or, you could offer to make him dinner and try to plan a meal that incorporates the sorts of things you think he'd like.

Of course this is just my method. I personally can't stand to date a guy who is narrow-minded about anything in the first place, so if he refuses eat in a healthy restaurant just once, then he is not for me, lol.

One thing that I've found works is to prepare a bowl of cut up fruit, sit down, and enjoy it near him. Offer him a bite. It might not work, but it's worth a try.

he tried a dish i had at a restaurant that had rice with veggies and a delicious sauce...kinda like stir fry, and i gave him something i thought he would like...but he hated it. it's just so hard to get him to like ANYTHING other than plain pasta and hamburgers.

People are strange about food. Food is not just nutrition for many people. There's all sorts of emotional crap tied up with food.

My boyfriend only eats limited things, including quite a bit of meat. There are several things he refuses to try because he didn't like them when he was a child. The man is past 40! :whack: I don't get it, but I do know that he's not going to change.

The most you can do is make things you like and offer him a taste. If he'll try it great, but don't get upset if he won't or you'll spend a lot of time upset at him.

Just try to enjoy the things you have in common, don't try to force the food issue and you'll be OK.:love:

I once had a beau who refused vegetables. Also eschewed ketchup and such. Felt a tray of chicken nuggets were a suitable foodstuff for dinner.

And no matter how much I appealed to his health, his compassion... he never wanted to change. Guys can be immature. And immature means being a picky, irresponsible eater.

Good luck.

you can't really do much there unless he realizes that he should be healthier ...
you can maybe try to find SOME vegetables he'd like ... or maybe at least soup
does he like soup at all ?

Why are there so many guys like this? My friends BF ONLY eats hamburgers, chicken parm, the occasional mac and cheese (has to be kraft, yuck!) and ribs!!! Why are so many guys so picky?

My husband has a funny story. When he was 2 years old, he loved veggies so much that his uncle gave him a shoebox full of veggies for his birthday - peppers, tomatoes, green beans, etc, all raw edibles. He lit up with joy and devoured the contents of the box!! :-) Needless to say, he makes a great vegetarian now :-)

My husband has a funny story. When he was 2 years old, he loved veggies so much that his uncle gave him a shoebox full of veggies for his birthday - peppers, tomatoes, green beans, etc, all raw edibles. He lit up with joy and devoured the contents of the box!! :-) Needless to say, he makes a great vegetarian now :-)

Hahaha, your boyfriend sounds so cute!

Why are there so many guys like this?

It's the typical male sterotype though, isn't it? I mean, at least in Australia where I come from. Meat is associated with "manliness" and strength. Sadly enough....

cut him off ;)

>>And no matter how much I appealed to his health, his compassion... he never wanted to change. Guys can be immature. And immature means being a picky, irresponsible eater.
>>

So can non-male humans. :)

>>And remember, he is his own human being, and he can make his own choices. (No matter how wrong those choices seem to us!)>>

I concur.

ebola

I have a similar problem with my s/o. Generally when we eat at home we cook something vegan but he usually unveganizes his by dousing it with butter or greesy salad dressing (not to mention tons of salt). Kindey stones (of which he has already had one at the tender age of 26), heart disease (his blood pressure is 140/70) and God knows what else runs in his family but his idea of breakfast is a double egg, double bacon and cheese sandwich. :spew:

On the bright side, I can get him to eat mostly healthfully if I cook. He'll even eat raw veggies if I provide the hummus.