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Starblossom
08-28-05, 01:50 AM
Well I don't know anyone in person who's had the sort of experience I'm having now so I guess I will try you guys now..lol...

my situation is this: I'm in a long-distance, non-exclusive relationship. I met him a couple years ago when I travelled to Europe. We were in the same tour group so we hung out almost every day for the two weeks we were there. By the end of the two weeks we had hooked up, but that wasn't until the last day so we just exchanged email addresses and went back home, not really expecting to see each other again. I live in Canada and he lives in the US....in San Francisco (8 hour plane trip from whre I live!)

Anyways, we sort of kept in touch for a while then he invited me to go visit him. I'd always wondered what would have happened between us and well I kinda wanted an adventure, so I accepted his invitation and flew out to visit him for a week. Needless to say, I found out what would have happened between us ;). When I went back home I tried to forget about him. I even dated another guy for a while, but I kept thinking of him....

A couple months later we were both done school for the summer and we met up in Montreal for a week. I was kind of hoping I would get sick of him and then get over him, but I just became more attached to him. Now we're both back home about to start school again and we can't visit each other for a few months, maybe even a year. It's hard to say cuz we're both busy with our own schedules. The reason we're non-exclusive is because we didn't want to give up on each other completely, but realize it's not realistic for us to be faithful to each other when we live so far apart.

I guess all this is kind of screwed up but I'm beginning to wonder if I love him. Actually I think I do, but I'll know for sure when I see him again. I just can't help wondering if I'm being stupid. For financial reasons, I can't go live with him anytime soon. I need to finish school first (a few more years) but when I like someone enough, I will do almost anything...I guess I'm sort of weird that way, I dunno...part of me wonders if I'm just enamoured with the whole idea, since I guess it is pretty romantic. But the other part of me wonders if this is something special, something that is meant to be. I wonder if he's someone I'm supposed to take a chance on. I've always been kind of scared of taking chances but I don't want to miss this one if I'm supposed to be doing something. The fact that I've met up with him twice since I first met him is very uncharacteristic of me. I actually can't believe I did that, lol. Anyways I am just confused....does anyone else know where I'm coming from?!

Tofu-N-Sprouts
08-28-05, 08:40 PM
I totally understand where you're coming from and can totally, TOTALLY relate...

http://www.veggieboards.com/boards/showthread.php?t=41222 (That's my story) I'd say follow your heart if you've already met up with this guy a couple times, you've obviously still got feelings for him after time and distance have come in between...

You may have to wait quite some time, to be together (several people on this board have done just that) - I'm discovering how difficult that part is, but it really IS possuble too, and it's going to be SOOO worth it in the end!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!

Starblossom
08-29-05, 12:50 AM
Thanks! I just read your story and it is so cute!
I wish you guys the best...I hope things work out for me too tho, hehe. when I visited him in Montreal, people thought we were married :p

newstars
08-29-05, 03:08 AM
"Just follow your heart, that's why I do." -Napoleon Dynamite.

mommyof1
08-29-05, 04:11 AM
"Just follow your heart, that's why I do." -Napoleon Dynamite.

You gotta love good 'ol Napoleon! I'd talk to your guy about it. See if he feels the same. If so, then start thinking about how you guys can be together. I agree with Tofu. If you really love the guy and he loves you back... the wait will definately be worth it. :)

Starblossom
08-30-05, 12:16 AM
Thanks! I guess I will just continue to suck it up...hopefully will get to see him soon lol