About 2 months ago I finally told the man Ive been seeing for 2 years about my 13 y.o daughter (who died 4 1/2 years ago) from my last marriage. he was really angry and kept asking why i waited so long and how i should of told him sooner and kept saying like how i didnt trust him enough. I know I should of told him sooner, but I didnt want him to think I was a bad parent. He calmed down and wanted to know everything about her. He understands now I guess but everything still feels so weird between us. Hes still very bitter and angry. Will things ever be the same between us? How do I get things back to the way it use to be? Thank you :)

Wow...that's just going to take some time. There's no magic solution when you forget to tell someone you love about a very huge detail of your life for two whole years and then spring it on him.

No easy way around this one....only way is THROUGH it. Just keep talking and allow him to be angry with you until he gets over it.

Why would you be worried about him thinking you're a bad parent. Do you think you were a bad parent? I just think that if I'd shared such a big chunk of my life with such an important person as my daughter, I'd want my loved ones to know about that. With that I guess I don't see your reason for hiding it. But also keep in mind I haven't lost a daughter, which you have, so I can't say I know how that feels.

Just take your time...trust takes time to rebuild.

B

Bethanie has some sound advice. (I'm quickly learning that she often does.) From what I understand, you've done what you could--Explain your reasonings and apologize. It's up to him to decide what to do next. I know that sounds freaky, I've been there. In dating and in marriage. (It's even worse in marriage.)

I'm sorry you lost your daughter. Losing a child (even though I have none yet), is my biggest fear.

Eh, I don't think he has a right to be bitter and angry, hurt maybe.

Anyway, welcome to VB!

I'm so sorry you lost your daughter. I can kind of understand why you might not have wanted to bring it up even after a long time with someone. I think he should be more understanding :hug: