Some of you rember the story abut my husband. It has been almost 9 months since I left him and we are still married. I got the papers filled out and back to him 3-4 months ago and he tells me he will get it taken care of. He has done nothing. He says that I filled it out wrong and he will get new ones but no. I want my last name back. He could be racking up debt with me attached. I got all the tax return money some was going to the divorce but I broke my car and will have to spend it all.
Our last conversation was hard. He is seeing one of my old friends (not half as good looking as me and twice my size....sorry vent). He says he will give me my things back. And that our rat is dieing. All of that (and the few beers I had) sent me into a cring fit while talking to him.
I had told my friend about all of the bad things. Yet she is seeing him. I hope she is happy with my things and my leftovers! (wow I am bitter)

Thanks needed to vent

Mel

:hug: Sorry to hear about all of your troubles. I hope this friend is now an ex-friend. It's bad enough to date an old boyfriend, but to date your old husband? Oh well, she can have her sloppy seconds!

I don't really know how divorce works, but do you have an attorney? Can he do that? Holding the papers for so long? If you are still friends with that girl, maybe you can convice her to talk to him so he will sign?

What a messy situation :(

I had made it a point NOT to see any of his friends as anything but friends. It just seems wrong. Maybe he just knows it will push my buttons!

Wow that is really rough.

I have an acquaintence (sp?) who is going through a divorce...it's going on over a year now...at first the wife insisted on filing and the papers just sort of fell into some legal black-hole in Texas...so the took it upon himself to re-file in this state and it's been probably a month at least and she's just sitting on the papers...she has them filled out, but refuses to mail them.

Do you have a lawyer? It's pretty tough dealing with this on your own...the strong-arm of a lawyer could put his butt in gear but...they're expensive and often messy (from my own parents' divorce).

:hug: I wish you all the best. And as far as him seeing a "friend" of yours...sounds like they deserve one another :moonpie:

:nigel: C.

Even with a great lawyer paperwork will sometimes take forever and longer... I am sorry for what you're going through...
Good luck, hang in there... it WILL get better!!

:hug:

My cousin's divorce took much longer than she wanted, too, because her husband wasn't motivated to do the paperwork. Like someone said, maybe having the "friend" help pressure the husband would be beneficial... you'd both stand to benefit. Otherwise a lawyer would be the best bet if this continues much longer. They're expensive, but if he may be ruining your credit, it could very well be worth it.

Good luck.