Slut For Power XVI: Sam's Slammin' Slut Thread!

[Vicky]

good night peeps !

[mayuko]

night vicky :hi:

[ynaffit]

good night, vicky.

[Blue Plastic Straw]

Grrr.

I started opening up to my friend Matt about my body image disorder and my eating disorder and then he gets mad at me for it...

Why would you want to be friends with someone who gets mad at you for getting upset? The guy sounds like a total jerk, frankly.

[mayuko]

whenever i finally got the nerve to tell someone about my eating disorder their reaction was usually less than helpful... i've learned to just not bother :sealed:

[Hummusisyummus]

Grrr.

I started opening up to my friend Matt about my body image disorder and my eating disorder and then he gets mad at me for it. He started going on about how I don't have any reason to feel the way I do and he said there's nothing wrong with how I look and i just said "That's not the way I see it." because it's not, and I can't help that. I'm trying to get help for it, that's all I can do. So then he says "I'm not trying to flatter you, if I were trying to flatter you I wouldn't say that your hair is too flat and your chin is a bit large, because I honestly don't care about those things and I enjoy talking to you."

That was a f*cking bright thing to say to someone who just decided to open up about their disorder! Jeez, why doesn't he just go into an AA meeeting and tell them to stop whining about their problems and have a shot of vodka??

Anyway, I never even noticed those things until he pointed them out and I'm just so friggin' raw today about it that I almost started to cry and then he got mad at me for that too . . .

I didn't even want to talk about it. I knew I should of just told him to stop asking . . .
I suspect he may have said those things because he was uncomfortable hearing about your ED. I wouldn't be terribly surprised if he apologized in a few days.

BTW I don't think your chin is too large and I happen to like straight hair. Even if he was right, there's no point in worrying about something you can't change.

[Blue Plastic Straw]

Holy crap. I just went looking for something on another veggie site *coughAdSourcecough*. The pages take SO FREAKING LONG to load. I know I'm on slow ass dial up, but still, a single post takes over a minute to load. :dizzy:

[Dirty Martini]

Why would you want to be friends with someone who gets mad at you for getting upset? The guy sounds like a total jerk, frankly.

Jerk indeed. i hate it when people do that. Rather than apologize or realize they might have done/said something wrong, they deflect the blame back onto you to make you feel worse. It's a method of control.

:(

sorry that happened vk :hug:

[Bookwyrm]

First of all, I appologized.

Second (this is not an excuse) I thought she wanted evidence that I was not just saying things. (Please note, not an excuse. I shouldn't have said it.)

I consider VK my sister, what ever our actual relationship is, and I'm very protective of her. This isn't the first time one of us has hurt the other by trying to help.

I am a jerk. I'm sorry. I never wanted to hurt you, Cat.

[mayuko]

uh oh, drama in the slut thread!

[Dirty Martini]

:stinkeye:

hey guys... ehh... no offense but do you mind keeping the personal conversations / defense / etc between you private?

[Bookwyrm]

Ah. So it's okay for her to say something, but not me. Fine. I give up. Good bye.

[Dirty Martini]

:rolleyes:

look if either one of you wants to come here & look for advice, fine. But once you start having conversations to each other in the open then it just gets... weird.

ETA: we've had couples do this before on the boards and it is just always better for people to address issues with each other via PM if you're addressing each other directly.

[mayuko]

and.. my head feels fuzzy. calling it a night relatively early :hi: good night, all!

[Dirty Martini]

:eek:

night mayu.

[Hummusisyummus]

I'm off to bed too. Good night Mayuko, Amys, and VegKitten. :hi:

[lizzzard]

Heyy sluts! Morning to you all.

hmmm, i'm cold

[lizzzard]

Exams are today. Maybe thats why i'm cold.

Or it could be beacause I just brushed my teeth and the water was cold

[lizzzard]

hmmmm, thats funny. i typed in darkorange and it came out dark red. that's funny!

[lizzzard]

better! much better!

[lizzzard]

Posting is somewhat calming my nerves

[lizzzard]

I have to leave in 4 minutes. Maybe i'll actually be early this morning? Normally were late because my sister takes forever in the morning. When it only takes me from 7:00-7:15 to get ready.

[lizzzard]

Waiting for my mom to tell me that we are leaving.....
Gosh I just want to leave. I love leaving for school and being early. That means I get to talk to my friends before we have to get to homeroom!

[lizzzard]

school time!

[Pasta>Cruelty]

No school for me, just basketball camp.