i am putting this here because i don't want to trigger anybody, so please stop reading if you are triggered by numbers...

i am five feet tall. i weigh 100-108 pounds depending on time of month and other factors (hydration, fibrousness of the diet, whether or not i've been potty recently). it's NATURAL. My HEALTHY weight for this time in my life (it's been pretty steady for the past two years)

well, lately, i've been getting a lot of comments about my weight. the "you're so skinny, you need to eat meat", "you need some meat on your bones!", or "you're soooo bony!!!!".

it's making me rather self-conscious. i'm healthy. i eat a varied diet (i eat more than i post in IAT.. i just post what i remember eating..), i exercise 3-5 days a week, i enjoy my vegan junk food. i'm going crazy from all of the caring people in my life commenting up one end and down the other about how i need to gain weight and put some meat on my bones. you don't hear people telling overweight folk to lose weight. why is it okay to tell thin/underweight people to gain weight?

you don't hear people telling overweight folk to lose weight.


Only from friends, family, the media, and strangers on the internet.

But that being said I am sorry that people are being so crappy to you :( I think everyone needs to shut their pie holes about other people's weight but that won't happen.

A couple things :)

First, some cultures find it terrifying to have a skinny female in their midst. I come from such a place. In their case, it's meant in kindness and should only ever been taken that way.

Second, you do have some ED issues, or at least you did, correct? Some people may know, or may at least know there were some weight issues, and are still worried about you. Again, meant in love.

:)

As Krista said, some people do actually do that in kindness. It's still irritating, I'm sure. Maybe try to show these people that you are eating well? Time your eating around them sometimes, so that they can see that you do eat well and enough?

Have you tried talking to these people, and explaining why you don't like it?

krista basicly said what i was going to say.

i know that my vegetarianism is threatening to some people. my grandmother always tells me 'you have to eat.' while i'm eating something. She wants me to eat meat, and thinks that if i'm not eating meat, then i'm not eating. She cares, but the vegetarianism scares her.

I also know that being thin around other women who are less thin or becoming less thin is threatening. when i worked at one particular yoga studio, there was a lot of focus on bodies. First, we were all running around in tight clothes. But second, it was a very physically minded environment. Well, with the yoga, the diet talk all the time (i was the only vegetarian), etc, when women would start to gain weight (practicing less, eating more junk food), they would make comments about me 'getting to skinny' even though i was the same weight. I would notice that they were gaining weight, and that's why the comments were made.

Totally understand @Raeven. I was around your weight when I was your height and I got comments from time to time too. Still do get those comments, actually. :rolleyes:

But I agree with everyone else - it IS usually meant in love. I think people get concerned that there may be other esteem/family/health issues going on when someone they know is looking a bit too frail/skinny, from their viewpoint. But if it really bothers you, you can just kindly explain to them that you are healthy and would appreciate if they didn't comment on your weight. Tell them what you told us. :yes:

. you don't hear people telling overweight folk to lose weight.


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Sorry to hear about people's attitude toward your size. It's sucks to be judged by that. People are more than just a number on a scale. If I think of a snappy comeback for you to say to these folks that speak before thinking I'll let ya know.

for vggiegirl and 4 Life: sorry, i've been out of the loop lately in those manners

Krista: i had issues, i'm all better now. XD(i still have some "bad" days, but doesn't everybody want to be put into photoshop and manipulated around everyonce in a blue moon?) unfortunately, the peeps telling me to put meat on my bones are unaware of those, or i would think that they were expressing concern over that..

thanks for listening, and thanks for the support.. i think people shouldn't comment on others' weight, it's rude.

i don't have the same exact thing as you. i dont know how tall i am. i guess five four or something. maybe five two. i weight 125-130 pounds. this one time i was working,a nd this woman said "it's not nice to see skinny young girls" or something like that. not only am i average weight. but i'm not in the lower average weight either, and she said that. it's weird. would she rather i weight two hundred??? people are so used to see overweight people in america, i think, that when they see healthy, they thing it's weird, and consider it unhealthy. these peopleare just not used to seeing normal weight i guess. so dont let it affect you.... unless you DO have an ED, but you said you didn't, so don't worry about it. XD

I get that too, so I know what you mean.

Ugh. I know what you mean. I'm 5'3" and vary around 100-106 pounds. People are always saying "you're so skinny"... and the fact is, I'm NOT "Skinny". I'm simply of a petite build. I don't have bones jutting out everywhere. And I get very defensive when people say things like that, because it's simply not fair. I mean, people I don't even know will ask me "do you even eat!?" Why yes, I do. I eat more than most people would even think is humanly possible. :p I just eat more healthy things than most people (Although like you said, I love my share of vegan treats. A box of tofutti too-toos or whatever they're called only lasted 2 days with me.) and I like to excercise (when I'm not feeling particularly lazy).

I don't understand either why people think its okay to tell someone who is thin that they need to gain weight. I mean, you're counted as rediculously uncaring and rude if you were to tell someone "you could stand to lose a few pounds". I guess I just don't understand the minds of the majority of society.

some cultures find it terrifying to have a skinny female in their midst.

You know, I never had really thought about this fact. It's a good point, though.

Hmm..I"m not sure how much it's "terrifying", but is tough being around women who are thin naturally, when you are not. Yeah, I know that it's tough for them too, and I know that some of this is my own body image crap, but it's still hard. I count my 1200-1400 calories a day, work out 5-6 times/week for 60-90 minutes (plus weight training and crunches). I run on the off days and sometimes the others. I have a VERY active job. I walk multiple miles back forth to the train/errands each day. I work hard on staying healthy. And yet, I know that every single day, I'm going to battle with my weight and all the associated emotions. I don't begrudge naturally thin women at all, it's just easy to wish sometimes that you were on the other end of the spectrum.

Hmm..I"m not sure how much it's "terrifying", but is tough being around women who are thin naturally, when you are not. Yeah, I know that it's tough for them too, and I know that some of this is my own body image crap, but it's still hard. I count my 1200-1400 calories a day, work out 5-6 times/week for 60-90 minutes (plus weight training and crunches). I run on the off days and sometimes the others. I have a VERY active job. I walk multiple miles back forth to the train/errands each day. I work hard on staying healthy. And yet, I know that every single day, I'm going to battle with my weight and all the associated emotions. I don't begrudge naturally thin women at all, it's just easy to wish sometimes that you were on the other end of the spectrum.
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