catgirl67
05-25-05, 10:17 PM
As some of you know, my mother has been raising my daughter since 1998. I went into rehab. in 98. When I got out, my daughter has decided to stay with my mom. Well, my mom raised one ungrateful daughter who became an alcoholic and drug addict, and now she's raising her granddaughter who has decided to follow in my footsteps. :(
Yesterday, a friend of mine and I were talking about how she grew up really poor. That got me thinking about when my mom and I moved to Houston when I was 9. We were poor, but I never knew that. There were many evenings when she and I sat down to eat dinner, and I was the only one eating. I asked her why she wasn't eating, and she would tell me that she wasn't hungry, or she didn't feel well, ate a big lunch at work etc. The truth was she could only afford to feed one of us, and she fed me. She gave up so much for me, and she still is.
It dawned on me that I never told her how much I appreciate what she has done for me. She wasn't planning to raise MY child, but she is doing it with not many compaints.
Mom and I have not had the best relationship. She is very controlling, and smothering. I have a lot of resentments towards her, but she isn't perfect. She did the best she could with what she had.
I sent her an email yesterday and thanked her. I told her how much she appreciated everything. She told me this morning, that she considered that a belated mother's day gift that you couldn't put a price tag on. She said I made her day. She was crying when she was talking to me.
I would urge anyone who hasn't told loved ones how much they mean to them, to do so. Everyone wants to know they are loved and appreciated. Especially moms. :)
Yesterday, a friend of mine and I were talking about how she grew up really poor. That got me thinking about when my mom and I moved to Houston when I was 9. We were poor, but I never knew that. There were many evenings when she and I sat down to eat dinner, and I was the only one eating. I asked her why she wasn't eating, and she would tell me that she wasn't hungry, or she didn't feel well, ate a big lunch at work etc. The truth was she could only afford to feed one of us, and she fed me. She gave up so much for me, and she still is.
It dawned on me that I never told her how much I appreciate what she has done for me. She wasn't planning to raise MY child, but she is doing it with not many compaints.
Mom and I have not had the best relationship. She is very controlling, and smothering. I have a lot of resentments towards her, but she isn't perfect. She did the best she could with what she had.
I sent her an email yesterday and thanked her. I told her how much she appreciated everything. She told me this morning, that she considered that a belated mother's day gift that you couldn't put a price tag on. She said I made her day. She was crying when she was talking to me.
I would urge anyone who hasn't told loved ones how much they mean to them, to do so. Everyone wants to know they are loved and appreciated. Especially moms. :)