What do ya'll think about being involved with someone much older or younger than yourself, assuming you are an adult and of age?

I think the answers from people on VB on this are going to be similar to the answers to the casual sex poll. I think few people will think it is wrong, but it will not be their cup of tea either.

I find women who are vital mentally and physically to be the most attractive between 35 - 45.

I am in that age range now, but I had the same tastes when I was 17 so you know where I stand.

I'm 26 now. I suppose I would date someone in my age range, but I've always been attracted to men older than me, even if it's just a few years to 15 years.

My last relationship was with a man 9years older than me. I wouldn't just seek out someone much younger than me but if it happened that I met one, okey doke.

I grew up always being aroudn my parents friends so I've always gotten along with the "older crowd".

It also depends on what kind of life experience they've had. I've seen some very sheltered 40yr olds but very worldly 22yr olds.

My favorite "Older Man" is Viggo Mortensen and he recently turned 46. So I guess that could tell you something. :p

The reason I asked this question is that my husband is 20 years my junior and I am seeing more and more of this type of relationship, and was just wondering! Before we ended up together, I would have said I would never be attracted to a younger man, and I sure tried to avoid this relationship happening, but it did anyway and in 8 years together we still laugh as much as we did when we got together and still feel that same, so I guess something is right about it, huh? :)

I've always been attracted to older men. It's probably some sort of father complex, my father was never there for me, ect. I am currently dating someone 6-7 years older than me and I turn 21 in 2 weeks. My previous boyfriend was 4 years older.

The reason I asked this question is that my husband is 20 years my junior and I am seeing more and more of this type of relationship, and was just wondering! Before we ended up together, I would have said I would never be attracted to a younger man, and I sure tried to avoid this relationship happening, but it did anyway and in 8 years together we still laugh as much as we did when we got together and still feel that same, so I guess something is right about it, huh? :)


That's a very beautiful thing. :yes:

I am 19...I will date no one younger than 17 and older than 27 or so. I guess that if I might a particular, amazing individual, these rules might bend...but I really don't see myself dating someone 16...

I see no problem with that. I will date someone between the ages of 18 and 40-something. I am 33.

I'm 35 and I've dated or had little flings with guys 15 years younger and 15 years older. My mind is open to anyone 20 years old on up.

I've done it both ways. My last lover way 12 years younger than me at 19, and the one before that was 12 years older. I think the next one should be my own age, just so I get to try out the whole spectrum. :p

I'm the same with Marie - 20 or so and upwards is fine with me. (I'm 33 right now)

I am 19...I will date no one younger than 17 and older than 27 or so. I guess that if I might a particular, amazing individual, these rules might bend...but I really don't see myself dating someone 16...

The same number of years mean different things to people at different ages in your life.

A 5 year gap doesn't mean anything to a couple who are aged 35 and 40.

However, for you, at 19 a gap of 5 years means a lot more. 5 years backward and you are talking about a child....legally, emotionally, and maybe even physically.

I've dated younger, and up to ten years older, and about the same age.

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I prefer older. I just started seeing a guy that is 9 yaers older than me.

I was 23 dating a 42 year old. So hey..go for it. If you're both legal, party on.

I dated a younger guy once...in high school...and it was ridiculous. It wasn't even really that serious of a relationship (because, one's that last two weeks usually aren't all that serious...heh).

The d00d I'm seeing now is 8-9 years my senior (our birthdays are really close together), and it's definately a new experience for me. I've always been mature for my age; at any rate, sometimes I think even *he* acts a little immature for me but...whatever. Right now I feel I have the advantage of "going with the flow"...for the time being.

It's just weird for me to think about...like I try to imagine my other friends (my age) dating someone as old as him...and it's weird. But whatever. I don't even care :D

:nigel: Cheers!

The same number of years mean different things to people at different ages in your life.

A 5 year gap doesn't mean anything to a couple who are aged 35 and 40.

However, for you, at 19 a gap of 5 years means a lot more. 5 years backward and you are talking about a child....legally, emotionally, and maybe even physically.

I agree, Steve. My husband is 11 years older than me. I'm 27, he's 38, it's not a huge gap for us, we're both adults and have a lot in common. Age differences really depend on the maturity level and lifestyle of the two people involved, as long as their compatible and both adults, age doesn't matter!

When I was 19 I went on a couple of dates with a 55 year old man. It was wierd.

My husband is 13 years older than me, but not much more mature, if at all. :p

I am 26 and my bf of 3 years is now 37 :)

I am about to turn 29 and my husband is about to turn 31 (we have the same birth day, oddly enough). I've always felt comfortable with an age range a couple years older than I am. I've dated men up to 10 years older, and while I don't think age becomes as important as you get older, emotional maturity is a whole other issue. When I was 25, I dated a man who was 35. We had a lot of differences, one of the greatest was that, although we were in the same profession, I saw it as a dead end job and was literally leaving to move to DC for a federal govt job, and he was as happy as a clam in that same job I couldn't stand. At 10 years younger, I was moving ahead of where he wanted to be in life.