Why can't I get a decent boyfriend?

[dedpink14]

I feel like boys aren't attracted to me, I'm not that bad-looking and this guy I reaaly like is going out with a girl who's face is like a pizza!
I'm 14 about 4 foot 10, shoulder length brown hair, no spots on face to speak of and I have a great personality...
What am I doing wrong? :help:

[shesxxelectrik]

Ever think he just likes the other girl for her? Looks passed her pizza face? And you probably aren't doing anything wrong, just haven't found a guy that really connects with you yet. Have patience.

[girl2beaver]

Personally, I think you're putting WAY too much emphasis on looks. In your post, you gave details about your appearence and only briefly mentioned that you have a good personality. Looks can help, but in the end the personality is what will attract a boyfriend. Be patient -- you'll find someone. :rockon:

[shesxxelectrik]

Personally, I think you're putting WAY too much emphasis on looks. In your post, you gave details about your appearence and only briefly mentioned that you have a good personality. Looks can help, but in the end the personality is what will attract a boyfriend. Be patient -- you'll find someone. :rockon:

Totally agree. Thank you.

[lizzzard]

^^i agree with both of you. looks aren't everything. and believe me they are plenty of boys out there that think that good looks are just a plus. a lot of guys look at more than just a pretty face. i have met a few of them...and its nice when you do finally find a guy that likes you for you.

[Pasta>Cruelty]

Perhaps your troubles finding a boyfriend are not your fault. I am a 14 year old boy and have never had a girlfriend, asked a girl out, or gone to a dance with girls. Be patient, and if you really want boys to like you, ask them out, don't wait around hoping they will notice you. However, don't ask me out, as I will run away and hide. (Trust me, nothing personal.) Also, I agree with the previousely stated opinion that your personality is more important than your looks. Good luck finding someone!

[Daral]

I personally judge personality to be the most important facet when it comes to dating people.


Be patient, and if you really want boys to like you, ask them out, don't wait around hoping they will notice you.

That's the other thing, I would never ask anyone out that I don't know, since I tend to assume the worst from people I don't know.

[skunkpumpkin]

I have a similar situation. I'm physically attractive and have a great personality (hey, that's not just my opinion! hah) but I haven't had a boyfriend in forever. There haven't been good connections, that's all. I'll find someone though, no doubt. and you will too.

[cynicallips]

i hate to sound like such a cynic, but decent boys are hard to come by these days. just be you, and you'll find someone, you're only 14. give it some time.

[Nicky]

I wouldn't worry, you are only 14. There's plenty of time for boys, don't rush things :)

[Formerbaboon]

I wouldn't worry, you are only 14. There's plenty of time for boys, don't rush things :)

When I was 14 I was a sophmore in HS.

[AngelOfDance]

^^ and your point?

When I was a sophomore in high school, (I was 14 as well. but I'd say the majority of 14-year-olds are frehmen.) I wasn't too worried about never having had a boyfriend. 14, sophomore year, whatever. you're not going to be an old maid if you can't find a boy next week. You'll just get a little more time to be a kid and live a life with a few less worries.

[Cherry Head]

You're just too good for them.

:D

[HystericGlamour]

Boys suck....that's why I started to go out and get MEN lol

[HystericGlamour]

Gah! just noticed you are 14.....stick to boys then, it's more legal! lol

[Bunny Hugger]

I have a similar situation. I'm physically attractive and have a great personality (hey, that's not just my opinion! hah)


Aint nothing wrong with self confidence :up:

- Mabey you're giving whoever you like mixed messages?? You should try hinting that there's a crush there (with someone who dosen't already have a g/f :p ) or how will they know? yes boys are wierd, but you can't expect them to be physic. Talk to him communicate!

:nana:

[silverundertone]

dont try too hard..
just be yourself..
..

[lil_onyx_piggy]

I am totally the same, except I'm 14 and I am only in 8th grade (i didnt get held back or anything, thats how old everyone in my grade) except I will be 14 at the beginning of my freshman year. Anyway, if you REALLY wanted a guy you could get one by being a total slut, or not even that, just act like you really want something from them, but hey that will only get you bad boys that are fun while you're a teen and not someone you can have for life, Im only 14 and i have already learned that, trust me even if the guys at your school only care about looks now, they probably dont, guys at my school only care about popularity (some of the popular girls here are really ugly) and they will only go out with them, they think it matters until they start to like you around the age of 16, thats why all of my guy friends are 16, they like us and they DON'T care if you're popular, hot, w/e or not, besides like everyone says, you dont want a guy that just likes/wants you for your looks anyway, you want a guy that truly cares! :)

[lizzzard]

hmmm, I don't think the slut thing its the greatest way to go.

[Nicky]

^^ and your point?


I second that. I don't get if you are agreeing or disagreeing with me formerbaboon!

[Nirvana19105]

dont try too hard..
just be yourself..
..

She tried that and it didn't work.

The trick to getting guys, is copying the most popular girl in school. Guys must like her for a reason, right? Do everything exactly as you think she would.

[FafaFrappy]

She tried that and it didn't work.

The trick to getting guys, is copying the most popular girl in school. Guys must like her for a reason, right? Do everything exactly as you think she would.

:lovesign:

[Daral]

Here's an article on the "just be yourself" mentality. It's specifically written for guys in mind, but I think it applies equally to both genders if you just switch every reference around.

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm

[Formerbaboon]

I second that. I don't get if you are agreeing or disagreeing with me formerbaboon!

Disagreeing.

If the girl wants a boyfriend, let her expierience having one. If I was 14, and people were harping on me saying I was too young, i'd be pissed. Call me a slut, whatever.

[mayuko]

when i was 14 and upset about not having anyone and people said i was too young to worry about it, i always got pissed too. but then when i finally did get my first boyfriend when i was 17, i thought i was too young when no one else did! :p go figure.