Oddly Enough I am Not Sad...I Think

[CallMeHungry]

I caught my fiance cheating on me a week ago :surprised but I am not as distraught as I thought I would be. After four years the person I trusted most is gone and I am more excited more than anything. :yes: I feel liberated and ready to start dating. It is kind of soon but I know I am ready. :bow: I am anxious in the best way possible. I am ready to meet some vegetarian/vegan guys.


What I need from you guys is to know if you agree with my family when they say I am masking the pain with excitement. Am I SUPPOSED to be depressed right now(Because that is the last feeling I have)?

[Kreeli]

sounds to me like maybe you knew for a while (or maybe all along) that he wasn't the right person for you, and this was just a way for you to become concious of it.
by all means, go out and have fun.
but if grieving needs to happen, if not today, then in the future, let that happen too.

[Miss Meg]

Were you feeling trapped before you found out? If you were then it would make sense to be excited. If you were really into your ex and excited about marrying him then you may be masking the pain. But the fact that you mentioned finding a veg guy makes me feel like maybe in the back of your head you had been looking for someone different. Good luck with everything.

[pseudo_vegan]

Kreeli and Meg provide good points. It's not necessary to mope about, even thoug the "find" would tear many people up...and not that I condone denial and/or ignorance (it doesn't make the issue go away), but by all means...if for right now you DON'T feel depressed/melancholy/etc, then hats off and LIVE!

:nigel: Cheers.

[SilverC]

Sorry you had to go through that! Have you gone to the doctor to get yourself checked out yet? Just in case.

But I'm glad that you are able to see the positive side of things. Good luck! :hug:

[CallMeHungry]

Oh...I don't need to get checked out. I am a virgin. :)

:yes: I did have my suspicions about his faithfulness but forced myself to ignore them.

In a way I was feeling trapped because I am so young and just want to have fun but couldn't because he felt uncomfortable with the whole party scene.

Now that I look at the situation I can see clearly that he is not the right person for me. I actually feel a little dumb for thinking he was :wall: . He disregarded my opinions and feelings, was a little controlling, and did not try to understand my decision to become a vegetarian. That is why I am only going to date vegetarian/vegan guys from now on. :bow:

Thank You so so much for your insight :hug: . I am ok and know that I am just starting something new and exciting. :D

[Marie]

Maybe you didn't really want him anymore anyways and you're happy to have a good excuse to get rid of him.

(that's kind of what meg said :p)

[Bits]

i'm glad you're feeling good about the whole thing, it must have been a massive shock to find out he'd been unfaithful (or not as the case may be!) if you ask me, you must have been too good 4 for him! go out n find your self a good veggie guy,good luck, & keep smiling :cool: