We're going to be a family again

[AngelOfDance]

This is just one of those felt-I-had-to-share things.

Anyone who has been following my story knows that my family has been through a lot of turmoil these past few months. My dad had been cheating (and that's where Natalie came from) and got found out, so my parents separated. Susan, my dad's lady friend, came to live with us after the baby was born.

Anyway, my dad and Susan are breaking up. She's moving out of his bed and sleeping in my room for now. As soon as she finds a new place to live, she's moving out. My mom and dad are going to try to work things out so that we can be a real honest-to-God family again!

So yeah, this is one of those things that usually only happens in movies about Christmas!

The only thing is that it means Natalie won't live with us anymore. I think my dad has custody rights, but I don't know how my mom would feel about another woman's baby living part-time in her house. I've only talked to my sisters and Susan about this so far, so I don't know all of what will happen yet. susan did tell me that she'll keep sending pictures to me and asked if it was okay with me if she visited me when I came home during breaks and stuff.

I say fine. I like her a lot better when she's not sleeping with my dad.

But yeah! We'll be a whole real unbroken family again!

[Life2k]

That is good for your family. I hope your mom can accept Nat. She will need a daddy.

[revelsunrise]

Hey Angel. I also hope that your mom comes to accept Natalie. She's just an innocent baby who had no part in this whole situation.

[frenchie]

If your mom wants to work things out with your dad, she is going to have no choice but to accept Natalie. Your mom knows what she is getting herself into....or maybe she *thinks* she knows what she is getting herself into. She is setting herself up for some new, very strong emotions to come flooding in. I think some serious professional counseling is essential. Natalie is the innocent one in this mess. What you can do, is make a special effort to spend quality time with Natalie, as often as possible.
I really hope things work out for you and your family.....the road ahead is gonna be bumpy, but it'll be a learning experiance. Hang in there :)

[zoebird]

one thing that may help, no matter what, is to recognize that even with all the players in the situation that you are now (mom separated/out of the house, susan in the house, a new baby), you are all still a family. a real, honest-to-god family. so, you're not "traditional," but you are really normal. it's not unusual to have half-siblings, to have affairs, to have psuedo step moms, and the whole nine yards that you described.

i know that things have been rough, but even if your parents don't work it out, even if things are messy with your dad, susan, and natalie, you're still an honest-to-god, real family. seeing your family, just as you are, as a family, is a good thing.

i wish you all the best. consider councelling for yourself too--to give you a sounding board when things get rough. :)