Nowhere to go.

[Spondaic]

I have no where to go. I'm 14, living with my mother, don't get me wrong, I love her, its just I can't take this any longer. I've been shipped around from house to house my WHOLE life, thru my 'dad' my mum my grandparents, aunts and uncles, my ex-step dad, everyone. I'm sick and tired of it! For the past year its been slowing down a little, but now my mother is driving me insane!

Please don't say ' Oh, she's supposed to do that. ' It dosn't help. Infact, I getting REALLY bed mood swings when I'm around my family. I become quickly agatated, mean, agressive, angry, snappy, and all of those things. I just get to fustrated!

They tell me to try, and I do, but its not good enough for them. Ever. Arg.

Please just say anything, give suggestions...... I don't care.......

[rabid_child]

It isn't easy to live in a less than ideal situation. Have you considered going away to boarding school, or going to college early? Simon's Rock College is designed for students to go to after grade 10 or 11. www.simons-rock.edu
You may also consider talking to a guidance counselor at school to see if they can help you in any way, maybe set up some family sessions to help smooth things over.
I'm sorry you're having such a crap time. I hope it gets better for you. I'm about if you ever feel like venting!

[chiaraluna]

I completely agree with rabid's excellent suggestions. Hang in there -- hopefully you'll be out soon. :hug:

[Socrates]

Do like I do, get pissed and ride home with your friends. I stay out on fridays until 11-12 and im only truly happy when im AWAY from home.

[Spondaic]

As am I, I try to be away as much as I can. But thats not much, I'm ALWAYS forced to stay in.

I can't go to bording school, and I'm not smart enough for colledge.......

Counsling session, noooooo wayyyy

Thankyou for the suggestions though! :p

[rabid_child]

So really you want a quick fix without making any effort to make things work for you? I'm sorry to tell you this, but if you aren't going to fight for you, neither is anyone else. You have resources available to you to help you in what you say is an unlivable situation, but if you aren't willing to take the steps to get the help you need, then why even ask for solutions?

[Socrates]

climb out your window, get out of the house anyway you can. I have done it many times before, I dont like being told what goes in my body. Or rather what I have to put in it. :hug:

[Cherry Head]

All I can say is, hope things get better for you. But, really, you either have to make the efoort the make things work, or make the effort to get out of there. And running away is not a very good idea, trust me. But hang in there, hopefully things will brighten up! :hug:

P.S. If yah ever need to rant or anything, the VBers are here for you!

[Spondaic]

No, I'm not looking for a 'quick fix'. Its been ongoing, on my part I've been trying to communicate the best I can, tell her how I feel, but it ALWAYS ends up an argument. I take care of myself. I don't know why I have to be pinned down!

I would climb out of my window, but seeing as I live in an apartment, it might not be the smartest thing to do.

[eggplant]

Why "noooo wayyy" to counseling? Talking to a professional who doesn't have any personal stake in your decisions can often be very helpful. They often have good ideas for how to cope with problems, and if nothing else can act as a sounding board. I've talked to therapists on a several occasions when I was going through a rough patch and it helped me to decide what to do.

[Spondaic]

I hate the whole 'idea' of it, and I've been MANY times, its never helped me. It helps somepeople, but not others. I'm an 'Other'.

[Formerbaboon]

Well, i've been in the same stuff. I just realised that I had to suck it up, go to counseling, eat, and be merry. Your mom loves you. Even mine loves me and we have been beaten, unclothed, almost homeless, and stuck with no electricity and food. My dad has custody of me and my sis now though. I've been through alot, and I just suck it up and go.

[bizarro]

Can you get into a foreign exchange student progrm?

[zoebird]

councelling only works if you work it.

on the other side of things, seems like you just need to keep looking until yuo find a method of communication that works.

[toesonthenose]

i want to add this..its slightly off topic perhaps but please don't ever assume you aren't smart enough for college. it can be a whole different ball game than highschool and it could be a ticket to 'escape' and 'a better life' its simply a matter of believing in yourself no matter what a bunch of burnt out highschool teachers say and finding the field/course thats right for you. i spent my entire 5 years of highschool as a stoned burnout believing that i was stupid and destined to be a gasjockey or a janitor (those tests you take in grade 9 health class?!)i ended up dropping out in grade 12. as an adult i went to college and discovered i was capable of many many many things. i can bet that many others on this board would say the same. frankly highschool tends to suck when it comes to the encouragement of 'the stupid ones'.

(also, bear in mind that sneaking out of your room as 'fun" and short term fix as it can be may only lead to further mistrust and distance between you and your family...there has to be another way)

sigh. sorry, end of rant.