psala
August 13th, 2004, 09:54 AM
I'm looking for some advice, but first a little background (warning, long):
My friend is 19, about 3 years younger than me, has extremely lenient parents. They're not rich but definitely upper-middle class and he has pretty much gotten anything he wanted since the day I met him, whether it be computers, video games, cars (yes, multiple), guns, etc. He is big on hunting and guns, having a couple rifles, a 12 gauge, some kind of russian assault rifle (SKS? I forget the actual name), some handguns and probably other stuff I don't know about. They've bought him beer before and know he smokes weed. The harshest thing they've done is break his bong, which resulted in him buying a nicer, glass one.
He has pulled handguns on friends as a "joke". =/
I've known him for about 7 years, and his ambition level has gone down progressively. He first wanted to be a cop or do something with the military. After scrapping that idea because he smoked too much, he decided to get his ASE (not sure if this is what its called; its some kind of auto mechanic certification), which he would need to take some classes for I think. He's been "planning" to get into these classes for over a year now and now has some basic low level job at an auto service place. He likes to work there because his boss smokes with him after work.
He has been drinking since middle school and smoking weed since high school. He started dealing weed about a year ago. I recently found out he's gotten into coccaine.
He's got an older brother who is in his mid 20s, failed out of college and has done every drug in the book. He is a big influence and at least part of the reason why my friend is doing coke now. He's been together with the same girl for 2 years, but she is worthless. She won't stand up for anything and goes along with whatever he wants.
I hang out with him a lot less than I used to, mainly because all he wants to do is go somewhere to smoke and drink with people (I don't smoke).
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So now for my questions,
I've talked to him numerous times about drugs and stuff, and he basically knows the associated risks and doesn't care. I'm pretty sure I am going to talk to his parents about the coccaine thing, if for no one else's sake but their own. My question is, whats the best way to do this?
Its sort of unsettling to say this, but I don't know how he would react (a little scared even) if he found out one of his friends told his parents about him getting into coke. They would definitely do something about it, although they've never really punished him or anything. So I don't know how much it would matter.
I could do it completely anonymously like a letter without a return address. My friend knows some of his friends know he's started doing coke, I'm not one of them, but this could bring stuff up between them that they don't really want to have to deal with. Most of his older friends have basically given up and so I don't want to pull them into whatever might come out of this.
If I go over to his house one day and am talking to his parents, it would look suspicious as hell, my friend would catch on.
Like I mentioned above, his girlfriend is worthless and I don't think theres any way she could help me. I wouldn't be surprised if she already does or starts to do coke soon.
any ideas on the best way to handle this?
thanks
My friend is 19, about 3 years younger than me, has extremely lenient parents. They're not rich but definitely upper-middle class and he has pretty much gotten anything he wanted since the day I met him, whether it be computers, video games, cars (yes, multiple), guns, etc. He is big on hunting and guns, having a couple rifles, a 12 gauge, some kind of russian assault rifle (SKS? I forget the actual name), some handguns and probably other stuff I don't know about. They've bought him beer before and know he smokes weed. The harshest thing they've done is break his bong, which resulted in him buying a nicer, glass one.
He has pulled handguns on friends as a "joke". =/
I've known him for about 7 years, and his ambition level has gone down progressively. He first wanted to be a cop or do something with the military. After scrapping that idea because he smoked too much, he decided to get his ASE (not sure if this is what its called; its some kind of auto mechanic certification), which he would need to take some classes for I think. He's been "planning" to get into these classes for over a year now and now has some basic low level job at an auto service place. He likes to work there because his boss smokes with him after work.
He has been drinking since middle school and smoking weed since high school. He started dealing weed about a year ago. I recently found out he's gotten into coccaine.
He's got an older brother who is in his mid 20s, failed out of college and has done every drug in the book. He is a big influence and at least part of the reason why my friend is doing coke now. He's been together with the same girl for 2 years, but she is worthless. She won't stand up for anything and goes along with whatever he wants.
I hang out with him a lot less than I used to, mainly because all he wants to do is go somewhere to smoke and drink with people (I don't smoke).
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So now for my questions,
I've talked to him numerous times about drugs and stuff, and he basically knows the associated risks and doesn't care. I'm pretty sure I am going to talk to his parents about the coccaine thing, if for no one else's sake but their own. My question is, whats the best way to do this?
Its sort of unsettling to say this, but I don't know how he would react (a little scared even) if he found out one of his friends told his parents about him getting into coke. They would definitely do something about it, although they've never really punished him or anything. So I don't know how much it would matter.
I could do it completely anonymously like a letter without a return address. My friend knows some of his friends know he's started doing coke, I'm not one of them, but this could bring stuff up between them that they don't really want to have to deal with. Most of his older friends have basically given up and so I don't want to pull them into whatever might come out of this.
If I go over to his house one day and am talking to his parents, it would look suspicious as hell, my friend would catch on.
Like I mentioned above, his girlfriend is worthless and I don't think theres any way she could help me. I wouldn't be surprised if she already does or starts to do coke soon.
any ideas on the best way to handle this?
thanks