need help

[citygirl]

need help...

[skunkpumpkin]

I think that since you basically said that you're attracted to males and not females then that's an indication that you're not a lesbian. I know what you mean, though. I find a lot of females very beautiful and I do look at them a lot, but I'm undoubtedly attracted to men. Thinking of myself engaging in a sexual act with another woman doesn't seem right. You also might just be comparing yourself to other woman as far as their looks transcend.

[citronella49]

hehe, I am a very straight woman, I have a bf and we have been together for 4 years, but I think women are beautiful. I am pretty sure I wouldnt want to be sexual with a woman, but that doesnt mean I feel bad about looking at them... infact I think the human body in general is a facinating thing to look at... I am terrible in the locker room, I am just so interested on how people's bodies look, its so cool! But you shouldn't feel bad about it. Looking at people is fine, being able to recognise beauty regarless of gender is not inapropriate (sp?) I mean Im sure you check out your own body all the time, does that make you gay too! :)

[Thalia]

...ive always been attracted to males.

...i dont think i like them like i want to kiss them.its more maybe lookin at their bodies, hair ect.. i think i like her body, figure, hair, or shes pretty.

...i find female bodies fascinating sometimes, or i want their figure.
It means just what you've said. You've always been attracted to men, don't want to have sexual contact with women, and find women's bodies fascinating. It's hard to say exactly what qualifies one as hetero or homo sexual since there are a lot of factors which many people share. I think most people find people attractive or like looking at people who they would never want to have sex with. The idea of categories is more of a social construct. Don't stress out about it. If you have no desire to get in bed with women, you probably won't, but you don't need to censor your thoughts or try to not notice women.

[desolationangel]

have you ever heard of the kinsey scale? the basic theory is that human sexuality is not some black or white thing, but that most people lie on a kind of continuum, with complete heterosexuality at one end and complete homosexuality at the other. basically, most people are bisexual, but they merely choose the orientation that they are closer to.

this means that it is perfectly normal to fall under the "straight" classification but still have some attraction to one's own gender... in fact, it would be more strange not to. so consider yourself what you feel most strongly. it's possible that you may be bisexual, but that's something that you're just going to have to discover as you grow and learn about yourself.