well..a tiny one.
This is very unlike me but for the past few months I have felt ..well..dead from, the waist down lol.
I have put it down to being tired, being on antidepressants etc, but there is still no improvement.
I still fancy my b.f so a lack of attraction isn't the problem..
Its just that..I'd rather have a cup of tea and a cuddle.
This is really getting to me so I need help..

It probably is from antidepressants and being tired. Are you on SSRI's? Let your doctor know if it is a problem. Not only do they inhibit sex drive but ability to orgasm.

Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? Maybe he could work on being more passionate and attentive, therefore making sex more enjoyable for both of you, assuming that is not the case as it is (and no offense meant, either :)). I understand that you are attracted to him, but how does he make you feel about yourself when you are together? When you are with a man who is an attentive lover, he should make you feel like the sexiest thing in the world.

Antidepressants completely shut down my sex drive. My doctor first tried me on Zoloft. Great for the depression, zero interest in sex. Then we added Wellbutrin, which helps counteract the sexual side effects of other antidepressants for some people. Not me. We tried Effexor. Not as helpful for the depression, still no interest in sex. Now I take Wellbutrin alone. No depression, feeling sexy again.

Definitely talk to your doctor. The answer might be as simple as trying a different medication.

I agree that the antidepressants are probably the problem. Talk to your doctor because I'm sure there are alternatives. You may also want to consider exercising or reading erotic novels.

Gracie, I'm on effexor at the moment.
It really has done wonders for my anxiety and depression but it really has hit the mojo.
I had a good talk with the b.f today and he was cool about it.
I'm just reluctant to switch meds as they're working for the depression, but I guess I will have to if the situation doesn't change
Thanks for all your help guys.

I'm glad you had a nice talk with your boyfriend. :) I think you should talk to your doctor, there are many kinds of antidepressants out there and I'm sure you can find some that help you and doesn't kill your sex drive at the same time.

A word of advice - make sure that your boyfriend doesn't pressure you into something you don't want to, like "pity sex" or something.
I'm single now and on anti-depressants, but when I had a boyfriend, he would try to "convince" me into having sex with him almost every day. Needless to say, that killed the sex drive even more. :(
So I guess my point is - tell you boyfriend how you feel, be honest and be sure to say NO when you're not in the mood. :) It'll be better for the both of you in the long run.

It's good that you & your boyfriend can talk about it. My partner was really great about it. She said she would rather have me happy but not wanting sex instead of crying all day, and not feeling like doing anything.

Talk to your doctor. You might only need the antidepressants for a short time. If it seems like more of a long-term problem, it might be worth trying some other meds. You could always go back to Effexor, right?

I know how you feel! I've had no sex drive for about a year :( But I'm not on any antidepressants. I don't know what happened.

Man I have to get me some anti-depressents! My sex-drive is through the roof and I am single!! But I don't want a boyfriend, so...aghh! Wanna trade sex-drives? :)

I would totaly change sex drives with you... the fact that mine has totaly dissapeared (not that it was all that strong in the first place) has caused my bf and I to seperate... I love him very much, he is the sweetest guy in the entier world, but I cant make him happy, so I dont think it is fair that he gets tied down to me :(

Im so sad...

I'm so sorry to hear that, Citronella. If that is the only reason you separated, though, it doesn't sound like he was worth your time, anyway.

I agree with Arti.
As much as having no sex drive really is..poo, it isn't the end of the world.
Plenty of people are together years before they have any sexual activity (even as adults). Sex is, ultimately, the icing on the cake - not the main ingredient!!
Besides, I think the idea that everyone is constantly at it, experiencing earth shattering multiple orgasms is a load of rubbish. Not everyone even likes sex, so don't beat yourself up! If you and your (former) b.f care about each other and are attracted to each other then stick with it! :)

Life is a series of peaks and valley's. Why should sex be any different?

I actually really like that my sex drive is low because of my pills. Maybe I'm weird, but I've always been one of those women who have a sex drive like a typical male. :D It's nice to be able to use my energy on other things and not think SEX all the time. Okay, I didn't. But almost... ;)

So I'm with MsRuthie. There's highs and lows and all you can do is try to get the best out of it. :)

I never cared one whit about sex.

I'm an incurable romantic though. I swoon over those old Gregory Peck flicks, and have the hugest crush on Orlando Bloom. I'm short too, entered puberty late...maybe I'm destined to stay trapped with the 'sex-mentality' of a 12 year old forever! LOL

Not that I care, but, I do FIND the thought a little squiky...to use a Scully term.

Zoloft is...good in some ways. Really helped me with aspects of my OCD. It's done a number on my sex drive though. Like THAT helps depression any. Ugh.

I agree it could be your antidepressant. Also becareful of what you take as there is a lawsuit now because Serzone is linked to liver damage. Some antidepressents have caused some people to be more suicidal. Also there are some with major withdrawal symptoms.

Also not to be weird but have you started any new types of birth control? That could be it too. I found for the depo shot I went from every day to nada. I take wellbutrin now...but still nada..all though this is only the 6th week of taking it. (It does decrease your appetite and help u quit smoking tho.)