Weight concerns... I don't weight enough!?

[russell_allen]

Originally posted by Brake4Squirrels
If this argument breaks out further, I don't think it should be done in somebody's else's thread that originally was on a totally different topic.

Heh heh... well I've been more than interested to see it evolve. Besides which, the issue isn't an issue for me anymore. I've just recently started jogging, I figure if I'm doomed to a slim figure, I may as well make sure I make the most of it. All my family have been avid joggers, maybe I should be the chap from my generation to continue that one.

But the avocados and nuts I'm still thinking on.

Russ :)

[HappyDaisy]

Originally posted by Brake4Squirrels
Wow, that was quite an analysis!

I don't know, I just hate knowing a guy is after my body before anything else, and it's even more hurtful when he makes me believe that he likes me as a person, when the truth is just the opposite. I feel that I'm pretty attractive, but I have a LOT more to offer than just my looks.

Why is it insulting when a man wants your body?? Don't we work hard to look the way we do?? Don't we do that partially so that other poeple will want us?

While I agree with soilman's earlier analysis - basically that certain circumstances are not correct for vocalizing inappropriate thoughts - i.e. the ambulance (and that's not what I am referring to - I am speaking of life on a day to day boring healthy basis), I think that part of us trying to look "attractive" has to do with wanting the opposite sex to find us attractive (or the SAME sex - don't want to be discriminatory).

What fun would it be to look GOOD, if no one found you attractive or wanted to jump your bones?? It would be NO fun.

Sexual tension and vibes make the world more exciting.

[HappyDaisy]

And OF COURSE I am not saying that we should be wanted for our bodies alone. Minds and personalities always play a part in the long term. But B4S you are kidding yorself if you think that the initial attraction is anything but physical. That's the only thing that people have to go on at first. It's the only reason people have sex to start with. The other stuff comes later and makes it "lasting".

[HappyDaisy]

I mean, yeah, you could hold out sexually for months until you felt you knew the other person emotionally and mentally and then do him - then it just wouldn't be physical. But that's not the real world. Plus, you still don't REALLY know someone till years later. I have been with my bf almost 5 years. We had sex on the second date, cuz I was SO attracted to him. I could have waited, yeah, but 6 months down the road I didn't really know him all that much better than i did when i met him. I mean, i did somewhat, but NOT compared to how I know him now. I know him WELL now. So, you can't really place a timeframe of "knowingness" on something like this. You just have to go with how you feel and what your instincts tell you. Life is an experiment. Some turn out well, some not so well. And a lot of experiments start out with sexual attraction.

[HappyDaisy]

I would not say I have ever been sexually promiscuous. BUT, I have had some short lived flings. And I don't regret them. Cuz I wanted to and I was attracted enough to the person to think we may actually date - AND that was the KEY!! I may have wanted MORE from them in the future. It was never just about a one night thing. However, not all of them turned out that way. And that's ok! Cuz I had a GREAT time, and it was worth it. I took something away from it. I learned things. I learned my boundaries, I learned new things, I learned what I wanted. Life is NOT safe. You have to take risks. And someone liking me for my body is not really liking me for ONLY my body. I mean, I see hot guys all the time wwho i wouldn't sleep with. How many people do you sleep with that you don't get a FEEL for their personality beforehand. Yeah, you may be drunk in a bar, but you still have TALKED to them. You still know what you know then. It's never all about LOOKS. It's just a risk. Be selective, but open at the same time.

Of course I am not speaking of my life now, cuz i am taken, but it's true all the same. :)

[HappyDaisy]

I don't know how old you are B4Sq but the older you get the more you just don't care what people think. You are more selective with your "flings". That's how it worked for me anyway. My flings were not about roping in a guy. It was about exploring the possibilities. It may not have worked out - by my choice or his - but we had fun. And depending on your religious beliefs I don't think that is wrong. I'm not saying you should sleep with every person you are attracted to. I'm saying be selective, be open, be non-judgmental. It's an experiment. You can tell who you really want and who you don't. And yes, at the beginning it is ALL physical, mostly. You shouldn't be offended if a man finds you hot. Chances are he also thinks you are a cool person at the same time, usually. Yeah there ARE some whore-dogs out there, but I think most men aren't so different from us women. We may be sexually attracted, but still Like the other person, no matter how long ago we met them. It''s flattering to be desired. There are a lot of ugly people out there. Be glad you are not one of them.

[Brake4Squirrels]

Originally posted by HappyDaisy
And OF COURSE I am not saying that we should be wanted for our bodies alone. Minds and personalities always play a part in the long term. But B4S you are kidding yorself if you think that the initial attraction is anything but physical. That's the only thing that people have to go on at first. It's the only reason people have sex to start with. The other stuff comes later and makes it "lasting".

HD-

Don't jump to conclusions! I am by no means frigid. I know how to do my makeup very well, and I love to wear flattering clothes to get the men's eyes. I think I'm a reasonably attractive young woman. I would prefer that my looks only be the bait
It would make me sick if he came right up and immediately made some explicit sexual remark. I would prefer he notice me for my looks, and then come up and make intelligent conversation. That is what would impress me the most.

I've been slightly promiscuous in the past, and I'm not ashamed to say it. But what I'm looking for is a serious and mature relationship, and I've realized that using sex just isn't going to create that. That's why I like to attract men, but hold off on sex for a long time until I'm sure.

[Brake4Squirrels]

I'm not offended if a guy thinks I'm hot. I'm offended if he acts the wrong way about it. (makes stupid comments, tries to trick me, etc). Sometimes they're naive and thinking they're impressing me, but they're actually just angering me.

My view is that it's okay to fool around with a person as long as you know exactly what you're doing. You should know that you're in it for sex and nothing else, and you should know and accept the risks of disease and all that stuff. I've messed with a few guys purely just for the action and nothing more. After doing that a few times though, I decided that I always ended up feeling rotten afterward. I decided it's not that worth it, and I'd rather wait it out and be committed first.

Even if sex is great, it is even BETTER after you haven't had it for a long time. It is the BEST when you've been waiting to do it with a person you love for soooo long, and you finally do. A small kiss from a lover is 10x better than hours of intense sex with an acquaintance.

Oh, by the way, I'm 19.

brake 4 squirrels

[LadyFaile]

this reminds me of what happened at work last night. a couple of guys tried to pick up the other waitress and when she blew them off they tried it on me. and when they left, the "tip" they left on the table was a note scribbled onto a napkin saying 'come to delta hotel room #whatever if you wanna get laid'

ugh. disgusting.

[majake]

"Even if sex is great, it is even BETTER after you haven't had it for a long time. It is the BEST when you've been waiting to do it with a person you love for soooo long, and you finally do."

if this is true, its kind of like eating. unfortunately if it is like eating then you may think you like something/one you may not normally have liked if you were eating on a regular basis, when really, you're just so grateful to be eating again.

[Brake4Squirrels]

You have a point there, but I trust my judgement. I'm too afraid of getting hurt again that I'll probably be super careful next time I meet somebody. Then it will backfire, and the guy will run away from me instead! hehe... oh well, what are you gonna do.

[luckiecharms]

I agree with some of the others here. Why would you want to put on more pounds if you are eating healthy and excersise enough? Sounds like your at your right weight to me. It seems to me people either think they are too fat and want to lose weight or they are too skinny and want to gain weight.

[iceflower]

If you dont feel comfortable eating lots more, you could just increase the kj content of what your are eating - drink lots of fruit juice, add honey or maple syrup to breakfast cereal, includes lots of nuts, avocados etc...

[Life2k]

Maybe I should have said "if you get in the ambulance with me and take your clothes off," but I wasn't thinking too fast at the time.

Then again, that's probably exactly what the last old man she thought might be in urgent need of medical care, said to her.


lol
Oh, soilman, it is so good to have you back. You are two years older than I am. My friend, we are not old. We are mellow. Mature. Seasoned. Do not think of yourself as old. We may have 35 more years to change the world. :D