OK so I just wanted to vent-as many of you may know,I've left my daughters' father. He was worried that I wasn't going to let him see his daughter which isn't the case. We've been seperated for 3 weeks now and the only time he "sees" her is when he has to pick her up from daycare. Any other day during the week he doesn't even call to check on her or ask to have her for the weekend! And today I asked him for half the daycare and he said well I can't do it this payday but perhaps he can next payday. WTF??? This is his child too, but he's acting like he doesn't even care. What a jerk. In my first post I said I wasn't going to ask him for money, but if he wants to be in her life then he should help me out then. :furious:

Thanks for letting me vent here.

My guess is, that this is just a sign of what is to come... if you don't get some sort of legal agreement you are asking for nothing but trouble.

I went through a similar situation. The only way it was different from yours is that I was the 2 year old child caught in the middle. My dad said he wanted to spend time with me and even stopped my mom from moving saying a move would make it difficult for him to see me. We didn't move but he only saw me when he had to (Ie pick me up from school/doctors visits) and always refused to pay child support. My mother has never formally requested child support, has never taken him to court or settled on a legal agreement. We both regret this. I'm not saying this is what will happen but I do suggest you sign some sort of formal/legal agreement. It just makes things easier in my humble opinion.

same here Tiggzie... and in my own situation.. things have been much much better since working out an agreement...it makes things a thousand times easier and then the resentment about the money isn't as much of an issue.. I say as much because there is no amount of money to take the place of the work the primary care parent does.

hmmm.....I could understand that just after the breaking up he has "un-forseen" circumstances that could lead to not having that much money now.

However, having a kid is a responsibility for life.
He should, has to pay no matter what.

I agree with SDG, get something on paper that sticks.
Try to have money transfered to your account automaticly.

I don't know how old your daughter is, but try to explain to the ex that if his daughter notices that her daddy only cares "that" much, it might/will have it's consequenses on how she see's him.