1. Vegan
2. Libertarian/Anarchist
3. Drives an El Camino
4. Listens to and sings along with all kinds of music
5. Loves nature and will go exploring with me
6. Respects the need for privacy and detachment
7. Insecure
8. Non-conformist
9. Will open doors for me, and walk through the doors I hold open
10. Intellectual
11. Will drive a hundred miles for a better view of the sunset
12. Impulsive
13. Willing to cry and laugh in front of others
14. Understands that truth lies somewhere between different stories, not in either one
15. Finds logic in numerology and astrology
16. Believes that nearly everything holds as much life and value as we do
17. Doesn’t feel a use for fear, regret or worry
18. Remembers to pay bills, but can find humor in spending a night or two without electricity
19. Open to suggestion and criticism
20. Closes bathroom doors
21. Believes that the only two important things in life are love and freedom, and that they can’t always be achieved separately


Alright, so what about the rest of you?

I'm 9 of those. :bobo:

Woo-hoo! Which nine? And what are 21 things you want in a lover? How many of those will I be? :smitten:

ooooOOOooh. I've been thinking about this :):


1. doesn't mind veggie food/is veggie/vegan/raw
2. holds (realistic) socialist ideals
3. will hold door open for me
4. has a love of programming and computers and development
5. would go homeless just to see winter come in on PEI (Price Edward Island)
6. loves me back and tells me so
7. facial hair ;) (although not needed, nice to have)
8. doesn't trust the government
9. likes to walk instead of drive
10. doesn't turn his back to me while he is sleeping
11. sense of wry humour is key
12. wants to learn as many languages as possible
13. is clean/will pick up after self
14. loves me for who I am and what I can be
15. doesn't think it's necessary to have alot of plastic on their shoes or wear alot of jewelry
16. likes thriftstores and yard sales
17. thinks this is funny: C++ programmers do it with public members and private objects
18. will hold my hand
19. lets me sing in the car
20. talks late into the night with me
21. knows about my past
and I'll add in 22. intellectual and motivated to not settle for less

(In no particular order)

1) Respectful of veg*ism, if not vegetarian/vegan
2) Willing to have a family and raise the children vegan
3) Likes anime and Japanese culture as much as I do
4) No dubs!
5) Openminded and tolerant
6) Computer savvy
7) Affectionate
8) Financially responsible
9) Loves rollercoasters
10) Understands that I have to go to Disneyworld at least once every couple of years
11) Similar values to mine
12) Sexual compatibility
13) Rinses dishes when done with them and puts them in the dishwasher
14) Doesn't mind that I can be a slob at times
15) Will love and desire me even though I'm not conventionally attractive
16) Good parent
17) Thinks it's cute when I sing (badly) in Japanese in the car
18) Loves animals and children
19) Will sleep snuggled up with me
20) Doesn't snore
21) Loves water/swimming/the ocean

1. Vegan
Does shmegan count? If so, I'm a whopping 15.5!!! Su-weet!!!

1. A woman, through and through.
2. Easily entertained.
3. Well educated.
4. MUST have a snort-laugh.
5. Intellectually engaging.
6. British.
8. 5'10".
9. Be the cute girly-girl at the bar with a Miller Lite and yelling at the football game.
10. Get me beer if I get you flowers.
11. Cook.
12. Clean.
13. Take care of the kids.
14. Let me have the basement.
15. Music.
16. Music.
17. Another beer please.
18. Music.
19. British.
20. Have a large family.
21. Be respectful of my shmeganism.

That would be sooooo sweet. :guitar:

In no particular order:
1. Has to like and be liked by animals
2. Is courageous
3. Has to have vegan potential
4. Can match my intensity
5. Likes to go for walks in the forest day or night and doesn't turn it into a race
6. An australian accent and long hair would be nice
7. Doesn't make fun of my taste in music
8. Respects my spiritual choices
9. Likes the movie Willow
10. Talks and listens
11. Is confident (not arrogant) in himself and in me
12. Will brush my hair
13. Has intersests/hobbies of his own
14. Understands that even though there can be times of darkness in me there are also the times of the light
15. Honesty and trust
16. Can be gentle and ferocious
17. Willing to take care of me but understands that I can take care of myself
18. Responsible
19. Willing to make love high on a mountaintop during a raging storm
20. Reads my poetry
21. Willing to hold me even when I fight

Does shmegan count? If so, I'm a whopping 15.5!!! Su-weet!!!

Yeah, but I won't cook anything that isn't vegan. I fit everything but 4 (I sound like the Fith Element chick), 6 (nearly a quarter Irish, though), and 8 (5' 5") on your list, 'cept for 7. Where is it? :vebo: I think I match everything on Erin's list! Hey Erin! Do you own an El Camino?!

6. An australian accent and long hair would be nice

:eek:
I've got those. Is 1 out of 21 near enough?

ETA: Not just LONG hair, but also (and I am quoting someone else here) "beautiful" and "awesome".

so I'm 18 of those, but I'm looking for a man myself right now. *sigh*

1 veggie
2 loving
3 likes kids
4 animal rights is a concern
5 likes a variety of music
6 has a real job
7 likes to dance
8 crys
9 wants to hold hands and kiss
10 talk
11 hates sports
12 hates going to the movies
13 wants to be part of every aspect of my life
14 wants to take care of me
15 likes to play in the rain
16 watches the stars,sunrise and sunset
17 open to suggestion
18 likes or has tattoos
19 adventure seeker
20 loves me
21 loves my daughter

Nope. No El Camino here. My ex boyfriend/fiance had one though. Does it count when by association?
Wait, it wouldn't work between us anyway cougar because #22 would be "has male parts". :D
There's another one for you Kurm!

Why 21 Cougar? I can think of many more, like
23. Doesn't smoke
24. Doesn't get drunk
25. Shows affection in public
26. Doesn't act like a wuss when he gets an ouchie
I could go on and on

Hmm. I fit 21/21 on one of these lists. That's ... interesting.

well...which one? hehehe

it's Max's isn't it? jk :D

Hehe, Erin, Cougar beat me to it... I was going to say we were perfect for each other too! LOL And I actually have an Australian accent! (I gotta grow my hair again though...) :p :vebo:

1. veg*n potential
2. respects that I watch Canadian teen television (Degrassi, anyone?)
3. can stand to sleep in a very, very cold room
4. very aware, politically, emotionally and culturally
5. extremely open-minded
6. likes to play with my hair
7. isn't a compliment-y sort of person
8. has a wonderful, sarcastic sense of humour
9. lets me be in a bad mood without taking it personally or blaming it on PMS
10. a feminist, whether they're a man or a woman (yes, men can be feminists)
11. a musician (I'm allowed to say that because I'm a musician)
12. appreciates or at least respects musical theatre
13. doesn't try to change me or simplify me
14. has little to no interest in organized sports
15. can constructively criticize my writing
16. is understanding and sympathetic

That's as far as I've got...but I'm young, I've got time to think of more.

Can I add a #22?

I'm going to, anyway.

22) Absolute and total lack of interest in all sports, but still willing to have fun outdoors sometimes

Why 21 Cougar? I can think of many more, like


I was listening to Alanis Morrisette earlier.

Max... except for the British part Im your girl....uhhh good thing we are getting married...

1) kind to self and others
2) respects my beliefs (including my vegetarianism), and doesn't try to get me to eat fish as a 'vegetarian' meal
3)responsible (with money amoung other things)
4) has not just a job, but a work which he loves
5) doesn't need me to be his Mom (I've already got one child)
6) is socially/politically active and helpful
7) reasonably handsome
8) over thirty (I've had some bad luck with younger men...so preferably my age or around there)
9)Faith (ie, must have it)
10) must love strong spices (garlic, ginger, cayenne, jalepeno)
11) Omgoodness, you must love the outdoors and adventuring as much as I do...you must be open to travel and fresh air. You may NOT be a couch potato
12) Must be open to insane family members...my entire family is insane. Think Big Fat Greek Wedding in redneck country.
13) Must think diversity and tolerance are GOOD things
14) No commitment issues allowed. Must be courageous, hopeful and honest about relationships
15)If you have children, you MUST see them regularly and support them in every possible way. (this is important, I've dated two men who didn't, married one, and lived to have regrets about this...I love my daughter and wouldn't trade her, but she is one of two children my X doesn't choose to see)
16) College educated would be helpful
17) inexplicable love of bookstores would be impressive
18) if you could despise all televised sports you'd have my undying devotion (ours is a sportsfree household. I was playing a trivia game with my daughter the other night and when I asked her she couldn't tell me if a home run belonged to baseball or football. I support her ignorance of sporting terms at age six) We PLAY various sports, but we don't ogle in front of the TV during football season EVER.
19) Willing to read my sometimes very bad first drafts and be constructive.
20) willing to listen to me go on about interesting things that happened at school today
21) Respects the child within, but still wants to be a GROWN UP!

I DID IT!!!!!!!

Hehe, Erin, Cougar beat me to it... I was going to say we were perfect for each other too! LOL And I actually have an Australian accent! (I gotta grow my hair again though...) :p :vebo:
You'd brush my hair?! :up:
Well that settles it then. I should be bisexual! :idea: Afterall, it seems to be the women fitting my description - Cougar, Shewolf and even a little Kurm (j/k).

yay velvet underground.....

oh yeah I forgot my 21 thingys

1. respectful of my veganism
2. nice to my kids
3. have decent hygiene
4 be totally accepting of my complete and total dorky nerdyness
5 a bit of a socialist... or a complete total one..
6. like music music music
7 willing to read the crap I write and give me an honest opinion (im tough, I can take it)
8. chest hair...oooh yummm
9. not afraid to cuddle
10 not afraid of my ultra competetive sportyness...DIE YANKEES DIE!!! Actually at the moment its DIE OAKLAND DIE!!!!!
11. yaya for deep conversation...besides I am a philosophlinguartist
12. loves movies
13 can learn to put the toilet seat down
14 doesnt mind if I toke toke toke...or joins in yay
15 I guess this goes with number 4... ahhh doesnt mind my Dungeonmastering hahamuhahahah!
16 doesnt hide my dice on me
17 doesnt mind being naked just to be naked
18 will let me draw him/her naked
19 loves to shag a lot cuz man do I have an appetite
20 realizes there is more to a relationship than shagging
21 doesnt mind my mad mad obsession with British soccer players and Slovakian hockey players..

ummmm yeah so that is 21

You'd brush my hair?! :up:
Well that settles it then. I should be bisexual! :idea: Afterall, it seems to be the women fitting my description - Cougar, Shewolf and even a little Kurm (j/k).

:eek: I'm never gonna live that down. :(

Oh Oh OH!!! I so have to add number 22

22. must be tolerant of my love of cheesy 80's Molly Ringwald movies and my huge crush on John Cusack

I'm a simple person and I've simplified my response to reflect my true wants

1. she must be a vegetarian with at least the honest intention to cut out dairy and eggs

2. we must have musical tastes in common:
bare minimum of They Might Be Giants, Miles Davis, Syd Barrett, and The Velvet Underground, and at least be tolerant of the music I make

3. she must not drag me out to dance clubs

that's it. solamente todo.

rigmarole