:( not a very good day (Grouchy boss, lonely in new city)

[Kristobel]

Sooooo I think maybe I just need to vent.

I've been feeling a bit down lately and had a falling out with my best friend. Anyway to cut a long story short my boyfriend and I just moved to a new city and i'm in a new job which I love, everyone's great except this one girl.

She makes sarcastic comments all the time and talks down to me and is just ....well......a bitchy girl. But she is also one of my managers. Usually I would approach someone doing this and ask them if there was a reason for this and tell them I found it rude and upsetting, But she's just not remotely approachable AT ALL

Also - being the new girl I don't want to be seen as a trouble maker and since it's only been a few weeks I think I should wait it out a bit. Perhaps i'm extra sensitive right now because.....

I am really lonely.

I'm used to having lots of family and friends around and now there is none. I have my boyfriend but he's driving me a bit nuts at the moment because we're stuck together 24/7. But now that uni has started and we have jobs that should be fine.

I just feel really lost here and it's making me feel really down. Usually it'd make me excited to be lost in a new city but I just feel insignificant and isolated and really lonely. I've also put on weight (not much but still) and it's making me feel even worse.

I know there is no quick fix for settling in somewhere new and i've taken lots of good steps (i think) like joining a few clubs, starting yoga, new job etc etc and I also know it will take time but it's really hard and I just feel so down. Which wont help me make new friends, which then will make me feel even worse etc etc etc

I wish things didn't take so much time :(

[Kiz]

Awww... that sucks. :( I hope you have a better day tomorrow.

[Mrs. Skittles]

It sounds like you are going through some big changes in your life. It would be hard for anyone to leave their friends and family behind and move to another city where they do not know anyone. That doesn't mean that you don't still have a support system though. Call your friends and family and tlak to htem about how you are feeling lonely. I am sure that they will try to help in any way they can.

Getting out and making new friends is a great idea. Even just going to the park or the local farmers market can lead to a new friendship.

Things will get better. There will just be an adjustment period. :)

:hug:

[rapt]

She makes sarcastic comments all the time and talks down to me and is just ....well......a bitchy girl. But she is also one of my managers. Usually I would approach someone doing this and ask them if there was a reason for this and tell them I found it rude and upsetting, But she's just not remotely approachable AT ALL

people who are unapproachable like that are quite often very scared people on the inside, its usually all bluff & theyll often crumble if you challenge them. you say you usually approach people in these situations & try to sort it out. just give it a go. if shes still a bitch to you, you can go over her head to her boss & tell him or her cant you ??

[MZCsmpsns]

I'm sorry that that chick is such a pain. Hopefully she'll lighten up. You're taking some good steps by joining clubs etc.. I'm sure you'll start making friends soon and until then you always have VB! Keep your head up & let us know how things go!!! :hug:

[karenlovessnow]

Yeah, pretty much what everyone else said. Sorry you're having a rough time. Here's a :hug:

[sallyomally]

Sorry to hear about your situation. She sounds exactly like a boss I once had. I just made it a point to be extra super sweet and smile a big smile every time we met, and eventually she dropped the bitchiness and became a sweetheart. However, there are some people who are just mean and that's the way it will always be.The thing about it is they usually wind up having no friends. Just keep being your self and try not to let it get to you.
Hopefully things will get better soon and you'll settle into a routine and learn to love your new home. Hang in there! *big hug*

[Princess78]

I'm sorry you had such a rotten day:hug:.

[Hekaterine]

Hope you settle in soon. Where have you just moved to? Maybe there's a veg*n group there?

(((Hugs)))

[Catherine_vegan]

You should join the Wellington vegetarian society, if you haven't already. They have group dining at vegetarian restaurants etc, so you could make some friends through there. I joined about a month ago but I need to talk to my parents about how to get to the activities.

[jenni-anti-fur]

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time and hope you have a very hippie day today and everyday:):):)