:wall: :drool: :dizzy:

i've never even been on a date before.

i'll always be alooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooone.

:( i just realized i'm almost 19 too.

Wow..I don't know what to say. Do you make yourself available? Like, do you get out much?

Hey, don't worry. I'm almost 17 and I've never been on a date / had a boyfriend. My sister is coming 19 and she's the same. There is hope yet for us, we just have to wait for the right person & believe that it will happen some time. I got really upset about this a while ago and the people on VB helped me..I'll find the thread...

http://www.veggieboards.com/boards/showthread.php?t=9190&page=2&pp=25&highlight=guys

And

They're not linked directly to this issue but they may be of help..but maybe not :S

All the Best,

Hey sorry Adam I just read that you are new here and that you are a Boy so the thread i gave you there named "Guys!" may not be very appropriate

:stinkeye:

Yeah, she's right. It will happen. Don't get down, although I know it's hard. Do you speak with any girls at your school? Maybe get together with a group of friends first. And try to find something in common with a girl you may like. Then ask her to do whatever it is you have in common.

I didn't date; I just spent time with groups of friends. Just enjoy your friends, have fun, and most of all, don't act (or be) desperate, and you'll be just fine.

I didn't have a single date until I was 18. At 19 I met a great guy I was together with for two and a half years. It will happen, just give it time. (I write this knowing that it is hard to be patient....:) )

It doesn't get any better folks, let me tell ya. :p

It doesn't get any better folks, let me tell ya. :p

Spot on. :up:

I third that notion Michael. :wall:

Me too! I've been on more dates and met more girls in the last few months than I did the five years before and it's still making me :wall:

Not that I'm going to stop trying :D

It always seems like a lost cause. lol. I happen to stumble across people at random every couple of years, date them a while, and yea.. never lasts.

Another one here! Sometimes I think I will be forever single :cry:

Sorry Adam when I gave you those links, I duno what I was thinking, they're not vrey relevant. What can I say that was late at night and I was thinking weird, so anyway this may help you more

http://www.veggieboards.com/boards/showthread.php?t=9286&highlight=Boyfriend

I had a girlfriend when I was 15. I loved and would have married her. But her family moved and we weren't able to maintain the relationship. Now I'm 25 and I've been mostly alone ever since. I think I'll be alone until the end. Whenever I meet a girl I don't necessarily compare her to Debbie, but I do consider whether or not I could feel the same and I invariably feel I can't. There are other factors too but I think all feelings I've had for girls since have just paled so much by comparison. I'd need 100 pages to accurately explain my situation but it's a pretty good summary.

Do you believe in true love? I think I found and lost it. (funny how I doubt god but my faith in love is still devout) Keep your eyes open and I'm sure you'll fall in love at least once. If I can, anyone can.


rigmarole

Aw rig! that was so sad..I nearly cried when reading that. I'm sorry that had to happen, but I don't doubt God, and I believe things happen for a reason, I'm sure there is a plan for you. If you believe it, I think you can fall in love again, it's a matter of letting yourself...

? :think:

(funny how I doubt god but my faith in love is still devout) rigmarole

Your reply made me think of a smiths track (how apt!)
"...and though i walk home alone / my faith in love is still devout".

*sigh* :hug:

Your reply made me think of a smiths track (how apt!)
"...and though i walk home alone / my faith in love is still devout".

*sigh* :hug:

heheh that's what I was thinking of when I said it. Sometimes I need a little help in saying what I mean.

:rockon: I wondered if anyone would catch that. You've made my day.

rigmarole

Cool, I'm a smiths fan. Can I ask what song it's from? I mustn't have heard it.

Cool, I'm a smiths fan. Can I ask what song it's from? I mustn't have heard it.


Yeah, it's Rusholme Ruffians on the -Meat is Murder- album. Their best, most clever, most musically pleasing album in my opinion.

I was thinking about it and want to take back the moral of my story.
"Keep your eyes open and I'm sure you'll fall in love at least once. If I can, anyone can."
What a dumb thing to say. It was stupid, sappy, idealistic, and I'm embarrassed to have said anything at all. I think a more pragmatic moral would be to say that love sucks and you're better off not knowing it. That way, at least, when you roam the earth, alone, for the final 70+ years of your life, you'll never know what you're going without. Sure you may hurt, but you'll hurt less than having known love and lost it.

rigmarole

Don't expect some wonderful person to come into your life and make you happy. You need to find happiness within, so that it'll always be with you until the end. :)

This thread is making me feel better. I'm seventeen and I've never had a boyfriend. No one's ever even expressed an interest in my whatsoever. Except for a friend of mine a few years ago, but he just told me yesterday he was gay and fooling himself. Ha!

Most days I really feel like I have absolutely nothing to offer another human being. I'm not pretty, and I'm downright annoying most of the time...it's a wonder I even have friends. But enough self hatred.

A lot of it has to do with a crippling fear of rejection, too. Oh God, but it's just awful.

Azygous, where do you live? Wanna get together? Haha, kidding.

:wall: :drool: :dizzy:

i've never even been on a date before.

i'll always be alooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooone.

:( i just realized i'm almost 19 too.

What is a date? What is not a date? Just get together with someone who interests you and do something together. Don't worry if it is "officially" a "date."

The French get a group of young people together to do things. They call this tous ensemble. They do this together for several years in their early teens and only later do they pair off as couples. Consider doing things tous ensemble with a group of friends for a while.

I am 28, i have been on dates, and I am still alone. I figure if I stop lookin, maybe someone will enter my life when I am least expecting it. At least that is what I tell myself. :wall: :wall: :wall: Relocating to a new city where I don't know anyone hasn't helped the cause, but hopefully I'll meet someone soon.

Hey azygous, did you go to those links..has any of this made you feel better?